Accepting that things will happen when they are MEANT to happen

colsy · Oct 5th, 2011, 10:53 AM

I get REALLY annoyed with myself just before AF is due. WHY do I insist on putting such massive importance on TTC? We already have a happy healthy almost 2-year-old, so I KNOW we are capable of making babies. And yet each time it's almost AF time I waste hours wondering whether "this is the month", and then when AF turns up I spend all day wondering whether there's a problem somewhere.

If AF turns up this time (I'm due tomorrow), it'll be my fifth AF since we started TTC, so it's not like we've been trying forever. So why oh why oh can't I just stop thinking about it, chill out a bit, and just accept that it WILL happen, but not necessarily on exactly the precise day that I want it to happen?

MrsPsandQs · Oct 5th, 2011, 10:59 AM

No advice, just hugs. Good luck on your ttc journey

hellohefalump · Oct 5th, 2011, 11:13 AM

*hugs* it will happen, ironically people tend to get pregnant when they're not trying... that doesn't help though. I want to TTC but OH won't let me

really broody, kind of know how you're feeling, when you really want a baby and it's not happening.

I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you, doctors don't worry at all unless it takes more than a year (or is it two?), my friend was TTC for six months before she got pregnant.

Anyway, good luck for not having AF tommorow :-) hoping for the best for you.

hayley x · Oct 5th, 2011, 12:34 PM

and good luck, hope you get your

soon xx

oliviarose · Oct 5th, 2011, 13:35 PM

I think it's because you are trying, so you are wanting it to happen quickly.

It's easy for us to say, but they say that trying to relax about it can help. Not putting so much pressure on ttc. I'm sorry I am not much help

Did it take you long to get your bfp with your first? It took us 9 months with LO and I took so many tests in the hope that I may be pregnant and got so disappointed every month when my af arrived.

Hugs to you xxxxx

polaris · Oct 5th, 2011, 14:19 PM

Hi Colsy,
I'm in the same situation and our boys are similar in age. We have been TTC for about six months now so not particularly long but it seems like forever sometimes. I really really feel for ladies who are LTTTC. I keep having negative thoughts that it will not happen for me and that there is something wrong and that Thomas will be an only child etc etc. Last month I really thought I was pregnant which makes it even worse when tests are negative or AF arrives. I think I will start to get really stressed if I'm not pregnant by February next year (which would be the time of year that I conceived last time). Fingers crossed that it will happen for both of us very soon. Hopefully AF will not show up tomorrow and you are actually already pregnant. But if not, you have already given yourself very good advice about trying to accept that it WILL happen when the time is right.

colsy · Oct 6th, 2011, 04:36 AM

There goes another month. I've just come on. I'm p-d off in general, and I've become one of those women who complains that "everyone is pregnant at the moment, except me".

polaris · Oct 6th, 2011, 14:19 PM

Sorry that AF arrived.

Maybe next month will be the month for both of us. How long is your cycle? I have quite long cycles of about 34 days so it always seems like a long wait until ovulation.

flower01 · Oct 6th, 2011, 14:23 PM

how weird that you wrote this!
im in the same position except im under the hospital and on clomid but that still hasnt worked. Tonight i have had pains that are so bad i came home from work and couldnt walk

im so sad and fed up, its been over a year now

no one up there is looking out for me

JadeyB · Oct 6th, 2011, 15:11 PM

Hey hon,

You sound just like me 3 months ago. I have been really lucky to fall pregnant again.

I was trying for 6 months and my cycles were 39 days long so it felt like forever waiting for AF. I thought that 2nd time round I would be able to relax while TTC and just go with the flow nope I want everything yesterday. I hate myself for it!

Like one of the other girls said, I really find I fall pregnant when I'm not obsessing about falling pregnant and have something quite big to take my mind off things. The first time I was on holiday, 2nd pregnancy I had decided to get a puppy and was really excited about that and this time we had decided to plan an extension on the house. Every time my mind has been off TTC I've fallen pregnant!

Good luck I hope you get BFPs soon. Baby dust to all. Xx

Oct 5th, 2011, 10:53 AM	#1
colsy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Derbyshire/South Yorkshire border, UK Posts: 1,962	Accepting that things will happen when they are MEANT to happen I get REALLY annoyed with myself just before AF is due. WHY do I insist on putting such massive importance on TTC? We already have a happy healthy almost 2-year-old, so I KNOW we are capable of making babies. And yet each time it's almost AF time I waste hours wondering whether "this is the month", and then when AF turns up I spend all day wondering whether there's a problem somewhere. If AF turns up this time (I'm due tomorrow), it'll be my fifth AF since we started TTC, so it's not like we've been trying forever. So why oh why oh can't I just stop thinking about it, chill out a bit, and just accept that it WILL happen, but not necessarily on exactly the precise day that I want it to happen?

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Oct 5th, 2011, 10:59 AM	#2
MrsPsandQs Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: U.K Posts: 322	No advice, just hugs. Good luck on your ttc journey

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Oct 5th, 2011, 11:13 AM	#3
hellohefalump Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 2,611	hugs it will happen, ironically people tend to get pregnant when they're not trying... that doesn't help though. I want to TTC but OH won't let me really broody, kind of know how you're feeling, when you really want a baby and it's not happening. I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you, doctors don't worry at all unless it takes more than a year (or is it two?), my friend was TTC for six months before she got pregnant. Anyway, good luck for not having AF tommorow :-) hoping for the best for you.

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hayley x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Here! Posts: 18,941	and good luck, hope you get your soon xx

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oliviarose Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Stoke - on - Trent Posts: 3,082	I think it's because you are trying, so you are wanting it to happen quickly. It's easy for us to say, but they say that trying to relax about it can help. Not putting so much pressure on ttc. I'm sorry I am not much help Did it take you long to get your bfp with your first? It took us 9 months with LO and I took so many tests in the hope that I may be pregnant and got so disappointed every month when my af arrived. Hugs to you xxxxx

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Oct 5th, 2011, 14:19 PM	#6
polaris Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ireland Posts: 7,821	Hi Colsy, I'm in the same situation and our boys are similar in age. We have been TTC for about six months now so not particularly long but it seems like forever sometimes. I really really feel for ladies who are LTTTC. I keep having negative thoughts that it will not happen for me and that there is something wrong and that Thomas will be an only child etc etc. Last month I really thought I was pregnant which makes it even worse when tests are negative or AF arrives. I think I will start to get really stressed if I'm not pregnant by February next year (which would be the time of year that I conceived last time). Fingers crossed that it will happen for both of us very soon. Hopefully AF will not show up tomorrow and you are actually already pregnant. But if not, you have already given yourself very good advice about trying to accept that it WILL happen when the time is right.

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Oct 6th, 2011, 04:36 AM	#7
colsy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Derbyshire/South Yorkshire border, UK Posts: 1,962	There goes another month. I've just come on. I'm p-d off in general, and I've become one of those women who complains that "everyone is pregnant at the moment, except me".

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Oct 6th, 2011, 14:19 PM	#8
polaris Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ireland Posts: 7,821	Sorry that AF arrived. Maybe next month will be the month for both of us. How long is your cycle? I have quite long cycles of about 34 days so it always seems like a long wait until ovulation.

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Oct 6th, 2011, 14:23 PM	#9
flower01 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Fleet, Hampshire Posts: 3,663	how weird that you wrote this! im in the same position except im under the hospital and on clomid but that still hasnt worked. Tonight i have had pains that are so bad i came home from work and couldnt walk im so sad and fed up, its been over a year now no one up there is looking out for me

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Oct 6th, 2011, 15:11 PM	#10
JadeyB Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,572	Hey hon, You sound just like me 3 months ago. I have been really lucky to fall pregnant again. I was trying for 6 months and my cycles were 39 days long so it felt like forever waiting for AF. I thought that 2nd time round I would be able to relax while TTC and just go with the flow nope I want everything yesterday. I hate myself for it! Like one of the other girls said, I really find I fall pregnant when I'm not obsessing about falling pregnant and have something quite big to take my mind off things. The first time I was on holiday, 2nd pregnancy I had decided to get a puppy and was really excited about that and this time we had decided to plan an extension on the house. Every time my mind has been off TTC I've fallen pregnant! Good luck I hope you get BFPs soon. Baby dust to all. Xx

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