I dropped Emma off at pre school & explained since Fri we have been potty training, but I'd popped her a pull up on cos I know she'd wee if they went outside. The woman said they are better just in knickers cos pull ups they usually wee in like a nappy. That's fine I said, I'll put her knickers on for Thursday. I said if you ask her does she need a wee, she will go.

Fast forward 3 hrs. The woman tells me they asked Emma did she need a wee and she said 'at home'. Hmm. She's then walking out and I just can't express how sodden her pull up was, it was past her knees. Totally unmissable. There were still 2 in her bag so she hadn't been changed.

THEN - I see she has poo all up her back, on the outside on her trousers, and inside/outside of her fleece. She also has it on her hands and on her doll. Speechless - still am.

Go back in (having said loudly 'COME ON EMMA, THIS IS A DISGRACE' in front of the other Mums) and the woman obviously sees my face & asks whats wrong. She's covered in poo I replied with (lol). She then said 'Oh sorry we usually notice'.

Now....even if you hadn't notice she'd pooed - how the hell can you ALL miss her nappy being so sodden. Impossible. They've just seen it and not bothered, I'm convinced.

I changed her and just left, I was so mad I just couldn't speak, I'm a bit of a wuss but just needed to get out of there.

What would you do in this situation?

I'm not sending her back there, I'm disgusted, it's not one of those situations where you can miss it - she came out actually covered in poo. Makes me sick. Going to look round another pre school Friday, and my Mum (who works in a nursery) says I should report her to ofsted, but I don't know if this is extreme. But saying that, the state she was in....it makes me wonder what else does/doesn't go on.

YUCK! Poor Emma! I'd first complain to the manager, and if his/her response wasn't satisfactory I would go to Ofsted.

oooeeeuuuuuuuuuuuwwwwwwwwwwwwwww - that has shocked me reading it!!!!!!!! Totally totally out of order - no excuse no way - I personally am not physically capable of holding my tongue so cant help you on that one as I would have gone a bit ott theere and then and ended up owing them and apology.

I would complain in writing and see where that gets you xx

Big hugs sweetie xxxxxxxxxxx

I will complain, but it's such a tiny pre school in a village hall (so can't complain to head office etc) that I don't think I'll get anywhere - I'm not interested in their excuses because there just aren't any, she's not been cared for properly & I just won't feel comforable leaving her there anymore. It was also the manager I spoke to anyway - I say manager, she runs it & two other ladies work there & that's it, very small.

The one we are going to look at on Friday looks a lot bigger, far more organised etc and had they had done the days I wanted when Emma first started pre school, she'd have gone there anyway - they're open more days now so I will just feel so much happier moving her there. My friend saw the state Emma was in, and her LO goes too & she's said she wants to move her too - so Emma won't really know much different lol - as long as they are together causing mischief they'll be happy

WOW.. thats all i can say... WOW.
Im so sorry that your LO had to go through that.
Me.. personally. ... Yes i would complain. To manager and ofsted. My LO gets nappy rashes really easily and hates having a messy nappy. So if that was my LO coming out of nursery with a nappy like that and in such a state that pooh was all over him. I would have done the same thing. Proberly would have made a bigger scene though. How dare they not look after a child which is in their care.
I would complain for you and your daughter but also for the other little kiddies that are there. If they arent paying attention to the childrens nappy needs then not only could they potentally cause children to get severe nappy rashes, they could also cause issues to the child potty training. I know kent would be more inclined to then go in the pull up after being allowed to have it soaked all day then to go in the actual toilet. But i would also then worry what else are they neglecting on..
Sorry to get so riled up, but i just hate it when i hear about children not having the full attention or support of 'professionals' that we trust our children with.

this is an absolute disgrace - i would complain 100% but would never set foot in that place again!!! thats disgusting!!!! xx

Definitely complain, even if it is a small run nursery, they can't get away with that, like you said it makes you wonder what else they don't do. have you had any trouble before from them? (not just with nappies) xx

That is just not on at all - you should for sure complain to ofsted because as you say if they can miss something like that what else don't they notice/deal with? Your poor girl, she must have been so uncomfortable no excuses for that really!

Ditto. No excuse for that at all. I think wee can be missed as its not really visible but poo all up her back etc is just grim!!
I definitely wouldn't send her back there.

poor thing..made a feel sad for her reading it..who wants to go aroud with poo on them and a wet nappy.disgusting! defo complain chances are if ur daughter gets left like it there be others.