Right this is going to be an OH rant , I don't expect any answers but I need to get this off my chest before I burst.

So today has been difficult, E woke up with a runny nose and a cough, not unusual, gave her some neurofen and she ate her breakfast and went off to nursery merrily. Told them to call us if there was any problems... It got to 2pm and no call so thought all was well. I was on my lunch break shopping when I got the call from nursery that her temp had hit 40.1 and we needed to collect her. So me and OH went to pick her up, we took her straight o the docs as her temp had only come down too 38.5 and she was floppy and sleepy.

After seeing the doc and being reassured it was no more than a bad cold and to keep up with neurofen and lots of liquid we went on our merry way. Now today was OH works Christmas dinner at 4pm, mine was also tonight at 8pm. He was going to go to his and join me for mine at 8... Great till today happened, I cancelled on mine as I don't like leaving her when she's poorly. I told him to go have his dinner and a drink, it isn't fair for us to both miss out. Well guess what it's gone 8, he's not home, he's not even called to check if she's ok. His phone is switched off and I'm well and truly fucked off with it. I thought he might have some brains just to even check in to see if we're ok, apparently not.

I'm stuck here on the sofa under a dozing baby, I'm hungry, I need a wee, I need some food and I need some support. He's a cockwomble of the highest order and I'm resisting the temptation to send him a text to tell him not to come home.

What would happen if she got worse how the fuck would I get hold of him???

I don't begrudge him having a drink or 2, but I hate that we've been forgotten!

I just need to cry.

hi didnt want to read and run.. i have to agree with ur point though.. if there was an emergancy.. he would be unreachable.. id deffo make tht point clear when he returns.. sometimes we have to understand some men arent as thoughtful as others.. but also tht men are different to women.. fact. its not right but its true.. id be very annoyed if i was in your position but perhaps sit him down when he gets back and tell him how he has made u feel and how you were concerned tht if an emergancy were to arise you wouldnt have been able to contact him.. then let it go.. and hopefully he wont do it again ..

ps.. hope your daughter will be back to herself soon xxx

Oh poor you. You were good letting him go, I wouldn't have let my DH. It sounds like you're doing a great job with her though. My DH is at his Christmas do and our LO isn't well either.

Have to say though, I laughed out loud at the use of the word "cockwomble"!!!!! Xxxxxx

What a knob! Men are useless sometimes!

I'm so sorry hunny. Have you tried calling him?

Men do seem to get a bit side tracked sometimes and usually at the wrong moment!

I'd be feeling the same way you do.

Yes, he needs time out, like YOU too. But today is different IYKWIM?

Glad I'm not the only one!

He genuinely is a good dad, but tonight he's really let me down. I wouldn't mind if he'd have just bothered calling to check how we are.

I've just got her to go off to sleep in her cot, how long it will last I don't know but at least I can have a good old cry and rant about the muppet without tiny pants around to hear me.

I've been on one big night out since we had her, and I called and text him every hour to check how she was doing.

His phone is still off, I'm guessing out of battery, a he'll be drinking till god knows what time, and I would love to be able to go t bed but I can't because I'll be lying there waiting for him to come in.

I hate being this person, I'm not normally but today the stress has got to me. I just need a hug and for him to be home. Fucking hormones.

My OH is forever forgetting to charge his phone and so goes to work for 12 hours where I have no way of contacting him should I need to. He went away for work for 3 days and forgot his charger too. In fact he ent out for his shift this avo and 2 hours later I found his phone when it rang with his work giivng him his start times for the weekend! I think he too fits the cockwomble category

I know how you feel hun, if he's anything like mine, he'll come back, acting like he hasn't done anything wrong because 'you said he could go out' then, by the time they winkle it around and sweet talk you, make you believe that you've just got yourself all wound up, when there was no need to be and you believe it... Or is that just my husband....

Hope he comes home soon, so you can have a lie in in the morning, and he can do the morning shift!

Hope your little one gets better soon xx

At the very least id expect a phonecall to check all was ok and to let you know he would be staying out a little longer. it was lovely of you to still let him go out so really he shouldnt take the mick and maybe just stay for dinner and a drink then come home xxx

Your poor LO, I hope she's feeling better now?!

TBH about your OH though, if it was my OH I wouldn't be that pissed off. Maybe he thinks that when you said go have fun he didn't realise that he had to be back for 8, maybe he thought that the plans of meeting up at 8 had now changed as you were staying at home now.

Yes he should make an effort to call in to see if you and LO are okay, if his battery has gone then he should use a friend's phone!..... Also, maybe he has no signal and doesnt realise??!

I wouldn't give him too much of a hard time, it could just be miss communication?