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Old Jan 3rd, 2012, 13:31 PM   11
goddess25
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Ok thanks girls.

The past 3 days have been brutal and he has been worse than ever. Despite discipline and he is getting it consistently. I know we need to keep on with it. I just want to have my little boy back. I want to like him again and I want to be able to enjoy him again. Intense dislike for your child is not a nice way to feel. It is getting the whole family down to be honest. We are all a bit depressed. We have no family here or no friends so its just the 4 of us, and hubby works from 7pm till 3 am and sleeps till 12. Its just me at get up time, breakfast time, bed time. I am so fed up and tired.



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2012, 13:41 PM   12
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hun. i can sympathise. i have 3 children and my 4 year old is behaving atrociously at the moment. i am sure that it is mainly jealousy but she will hit and she's very lippy and answers back and shouts. i am trying the reward chart route, it has worked really well with my 6 year old but is hit and miss with her. she really wants to go iceskating so that it her reward when she finishes the chart. sometimes we have good days and sometimes we have bad ones. i hope the good ones will start to outnumber the bad ones soon. PM me if you ever need to rant



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2012, 19:10 PM   13
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Thanks a lot for that. It gives me hope. Right now we have no good days with him so hopefully they happen soon.



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2012, 22:28 PM   14
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This is really so sad to hear (especially the feeling of your disliking your son, and I am sure it feels much worse to say it than to hear it) We use a park away from everything and without toys for time out (naughty steps wouldn't work, as I think our LO would just keep running off and find it hilarious when we chase him). Hitting or biting leads to time-out without warning, other stuff gets a warning.
What would happen if you took both of them to the Zoo, say? Also, how does he behave when one of you focuses on him, and the other on the baby (in another room)? We try to do that quite a bit, so they both get individual attention...Is he still misbehaving? Can you put the baby in a playpen so he can't reach her (and she can't reach his stuff)? Or, when he will get to do sth particularly fun (such as going to the zoo), ask him if he can show his baby sister all the animals at the zoo, since he is the big brother? Or "if he can show his baby sister how to ride a bike" or "play ball" or "build a tower" etc., play off his ego?
Just brainstorming, what you are going through is my nightmare...



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