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Old Feb 2nd, 2012, 04:10 AM   1
Mammy2Joojx
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how do you discipline your child/kerb bad behaviour?


my LO has misbehaved all morning he has hit me in the face with a book, so i took it off him until he stopped stropping then gave it him back, after i explained why i had taken it off him in the first place.

He then had the book back in his hand for not even 3 seconds when he chucked a toy car that he had in his other hand. I took the book back off him & asked him to pick the car up. He refused to do so, so i explained he wouldn't get the book back until he had picked up the car. After 5-10 mins of tears & paddying, he picked it up & i gave him his book back. He apologised straight away. A family member was sat in the room & they said i was being too hard on him.. Was i? I don't feel i was at all but they've made me feel a little bad now

How do you kerb behaviour like that? I feel whatever i do, i get moaned at for being too 'harsh' just because he's crying as he hasn't got his own way. X



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2012, 04:19 AM   2
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No hun I don't think you were being harsh at all, you can't just give him what he wants when he cries or he'll think he can do whatever he pleased. You did exactly what I would of done and he apologised which is good.

Can't really help with ideas as Millie imo is too young for the step etc..if she is being naughty i'll do pretty much the same as you. Take her away from the situation or if she's throwing something around take it off her, tell her why and give it back once she's calmed down.

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Old Feb 2nd, 2012, 04:27 AM   3
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I do this too if they smack they go to time out and then they come and say sorry and we carry on



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2012, 04:39 AM   4
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I think you were keeping him and everyone else safe. I'd probably be looking for the reason he's doing that this morning though. Was he angry when he threw the car and hit you with the book, or was he just being boisterous? If it was the former, it would be worth trying to give him some quiet time with you with cuddles, and if it's the latter, maybe he needs to work off some energy with a physical game or running around. we find drumming on saucepans is a good one here!



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2012, 04:42 AM   5
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thankyou i did use the naughty step/corner but he started getting really, really upset where he would nearly headbutt the wall & i didnt want to restrain him just to sit in the naughty corner. I've since took the book off him completrly now as that was the only thing that bothered him at the time & he said a naughty word. Suppose i will have to keep trying the corner eachtime just hate seeing him that distraught x



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2012, 04:45 AM   6
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I think you were keeping him and everyone else safe. I'd probably be looking for the reason he's doing that this morning though. Was he angry when he threw the car and hit you with the book, or was he just being boisterous? If it was the former, it would be worth trying to give him some quiet time with you with cuddles, and if it's the latter, maybe he needs to work off some energy with a physical game or running around. we find drumming on saucepans is a good one here!
boisterous as usual! He's calmed down now as i said he had made me cross by acting that way so he said sorry, hugged me & he's playing fine now it just bugs me when people say i'm too hard on him i would much rather learn him right & wrong from a young age & put up with a few tears then have a ruthless teenager on my hands x



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2012, 05:51 AM   7
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thankyou i did use the naughty step/corner but he started getting really, really upset where he would nearly headbutt the wall & i didnt want to restrain him just to sit in the naughty corner. I've since took the book off him completrly now as that was the only thing that bothered him at the time & he said a naughty word. Suppose i will have to keep trying the corner eachtime just hate seeing him that distraught x
You don't have to use the naughty step/corner. If you are reasoning with him like before, I think that's more effective. Keep talking to him, and add natural consequences to his negative actions.

We never used the naughty step/corner and my DD1 is fairly well behaved. How old is your LO by the way?



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Old Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:00 AM   8
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Taking things off them, controlling them to make them do things often makes more rebellious behavior. Children like some control and its ok to give them some that way they wont fight for it all the time from the smallest things. Give options, its all in the way you speak also, instead of commanding ask. Find out why there is behavior like that also, remember people act out for many reasons. Acknowledge that if your child is angry and you see why they can feel like that, if its something they cant except like you have to put foot down (not to be mixed up with permissive parenting) then explain why and not offer a chance to rebel and gain power, they already have it. Its not a quick fix though like a time out this takes time.



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Old Feb 2nd, 2012, 08:05 AM   9
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lightwoeker he's 3 in june x



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2012, 08:39 AM   10
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lightwoeker he's 3 in june x
cool..yeah if my 3 year old was throwing toys at me or just throwing them around in general, I would say I have to take them away as they will hurt someone plus the toy itself will get ruined. He can have it back when he wants to actually play with it. Thats just a natural consequence, as opposed to punishing in the naughty corner iykwim? x



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