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Old Feb 19th, 2012, 16:46 PM   11
Dizzymum
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Thank you for the replies everyone, it means alot. I was worried that I was over reacting, but I can see that you all would have felt the same.

I think it got to me more because this was the first time another child was unkind to her, it was hard to take. Plus I was feeling a little protective( I hate it when she gets her jabs!).

I think those of you who said you would have said something are right, and I wish I had now.

Jodidi - That sounds awful. Your poor Lo. I just don't understand why parents don't supervise their children when they are around other children. It's the perfect situation to teach your child how to treat others, and behave properly. I think some parents don't care, as long as they are not bothering them!

I am the sort of person who will always stand back, and let others in front of me etc..., but when others take advantage of my children I view it differently. I think I need to start speaking up!



 
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Old Feb 19th, 2012, 16:55 PM   12
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My boys are big now 20,17 and almost 12 , but 3yr old will act like that, mine have. I have always intervened and corrected them, you have to. If you don't correct them how will they know that is not right to do to anyone?

I just don't understand how you can't teach your child sharing, that is the first thing I taught my boys. The mother should have got off her butt and explained to her child this is not right and when the little girl is done with the books you can have a turn, then I would make my child apologize. When you correct your child you are giving them manners that will last a lifetime.

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Old Feb 19th, 2012, 17:06 PM   13
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Totally agree Andypanda



 
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Old Feb 19th, 2012, 20:10 PM   14
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I would have been annoyed that the mum didn't say anything either. That's how they learn, you have to teach them otherwise how are they going to know .. to you



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2012, 00:47 AM   15
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Grr that sort of thing really pisses me off. It takes everything for me not to yell at the kid... same as I'd tell my own off for doing the same thing!



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2012, 03:02 AM   16
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If Mum was ignoring it I'd either have told the 3 year old off -

"No, LO was playing with those too, it's not nice to snatch things - give 1 back please and share" and took it back

Or I'd have said something to LO without making a fuss out of it

"Oh dear, that wasn't very nice was it, we like to share our toys. Shall we go and pick another book now?"



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2012, 03:21 AM   17
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Awww this happens to me at playgroup all the time, yes some parents will do the right things but some just pretend like it never happened and its so annoying. A few time Aleesha just stood there like " what just happened" now she will get upset and say "thats mine" but she won't go over and try and take it back, and im just hoping the parent will put there child in place because they have upset my daughter. Aleesha doesn't take things of people at playgroup, but she tests her sisters patience and does try and take things off her. I either say to her, no chloes playing with it you can have it in 5 minutes and take it off her if she doesn't hand it back "tears or no tears" or say well you can ask your sister nicely " can I play with that please " A lot of the times there has to be tears to help you child learn, weather or not its at home or in a public place!

Its so annoying when people do that with there kids because I know my child can shout and scream if she is not happy which is horrible to see or hear for anyone especially in a public place....., but that dosen't mean im going to give her everything she wants just to keep her quiet, how will she learn??



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Old Feb 20th, 2012, 05:00 AM   18
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I always tell my daughter that she is a good girl that's why she doesn't do those things in regards to other kids behaviors especially if they are saying nasty things/swearing/being silly..but if a kid has taken something my baby I would take it back off the kid and give it back to him.i will stick up for him cos he's too little and I'm not going to let another kid make him feel bad.my 3 year old can take it back herself if she wants to so I am less likely to intervene but will still tell her that's why she is a good girl and a nice girl because she doesn't do that.maybe if lo had two books I would offer one to the other child and say there is two books so we can share one each



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2012, 05:23 AM   19
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it's no bloody wonder the children behave like this when the parents act worse than the children at times. It makes me so mad, especially when I'm trying to teach my children right from wrong and they must wonder why others are allowed to get away with it, confusing for little people!



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