Hi ladies!

Isaac has taken to hitting, scratching, pinching and throwing tantrums when he is tired, doesn't get what he wants.

Or if he sees something he particularly wants the person holding him to look at he hits your face in the direction he wants you to look. (tbh I find this one funny)

We have been saying in a firm, stern voice NO and then praising gentle and affectionate behaviour but it doesn't seem to be helping

I figured it is just a stage that toddlers go through but my friend said to me the other day that her kids never went through it and it made me feel like shite

I'm afraid he is going to get kicked out of creche for being a bully. I actually get quite embarrassed when he just goes up to a child and swipes them or pulls their hair for no reason

Is Isaac the only bully?

Evan is the same - he throws toys and hits a lot, especially wen tired or frustrated. We say no, say why, and distract or remove toy. It diffuses it a bit but the problem is still there - I have the same fears as you with nursery........

Our boys are around the same age, it must be a stage. I was chatting to a mum in our gp waiting room today. Her son was 14 months and doing the same thing. He actually went to pull isaac's hair before his mum grabbed him.

I just hope it passes soon. Today he was slapping dh because he wanted to get to me and I was cooking his dinner

Both of mine have been through that stage.

Its hards work, they are obviously frustrated and aren't quite sure on how to manage their feelings.

Can be very draining.

My two squabble and fight over toys and such. Its very difficult sometimes to get them to see why it is wrong. All they see is 'mine'.

I think its quite a normal stage of development tbh. My friends and their LOs have/are going through it.

If its any consolation, a friend of mine told me her little boy was potty trained by six months (walking to/from the potty alone etc. etc...) I just smiled and nodded....I think people forget tbh!

Thanks Baby France, you've made me feel so much better

My son can be a bit physical too. I once took him to a play area and he was smacking a kid in the face. He also used to hit the dogs or hit OH or me too. We started telling him "not nice" and removing him from the situation. It took a couple of months but only recently (the past few weeks) has he really stopped. Now, he'll go pet the dogs nicely and look at me and say "nice." For us, luckily, it was a short phase.

so glad it's not just my LO - he has been doing this for a couple weeks, but seems it's just getting worse. before it would be me he would swat at and scream, now it's my MIL too. and the other day, he just walked up behind a toddler his age and just pulled his hair for no reason. I keep telling him "No, be nice" and he just swats at me again. So hope it's just a phase and it passes soon...

xx

So glad we are not alone!

I ordered Dr Sears discipline book which just arrived, if he sheds any light on this, I'll be sure to share it with you all! xx

Hello Mums

I am in also desperate need as I am going through the same thing. My LO always screams the house down, pulls tantrums when ever she wants something or cant get what she wants or when she is tired. I have also tried the firm no, ignoring the behaivour, saying not nice but nothing is working at the moment. I have tried saying nicely no, firm no's, but all is hopeless This has been going on for about a month or so now

we went to our uncles at the weekend and her behaivour was so bad, just crying, crying and more crying, after about 1 hour she settled down to play with the elder children but then she got tired and she started off again.

I find it sooo fustrating and I dont know what to do, even sometimes I am that tired and upset I just cry because I just dont know how to settle her. I dont want to teach her that the only way to get attention is to cry and misbehaive and I praise her when she is good. I dont want my child to be like this. She also slaps herself on the face, attacks OH or me and its quite painful

Any help or advice is appreciated as I just dont know what to do anymore and I am just sooo stressed and down because of this

Sorry luckyten. Have you tried distracting her or removing her from the situation, maybe taking her outside and pointing out some birds or something?