Evie is showing no signs atall and is still very attached to boobies, she loves them!

Sometimes I think I'd like her to but I know I'd really miss it. I know it's sounds awful to say but I feel embarrassed when she asks (or shouts in Evie's case!) for boobies then has a full blown paddy if she doesn't get them.

We're going to stay with BIL in a couple of weeks and I don't know how to tell them that Evie is still breastfeeding as I'm worried what they will think (silly I know!) I know I won't nurse her in front of them but def know she will ask for it!

I get the usual "she's too big" spiel from my hubby and my mum but I don't think I could put either of us through forced weaning.

I don't offer and if I'm honest I sometimes do refuse and try to distract her which is hit and miss.

I'm rambling now

My situation probably isn't desperately relevant to you because Aisling self-weaned at just over 12 months. She was having a morning and evening feed at that stage, then one night she very deliberately nipped my nipple and moved away. Every time I offered after that, she'd do the same, one very quick sharp deliberate bite and then move away. I even sat on the floor of her room topless at one point so there was no pressure and she crawled over, bit me, giggled and crawled away! I called it a day at that point

Not sure if 17 months counts as extended, but to be honest, I just stopped and Abby never said a word about it. I reckon she would have given it up long before then if I'd tried, but I didn't want to, I knew I'd miss it.

I think the only thing you can do is cold turkey, if you really want to quit. Either that or remind her that if she still wants to do it, she has to ask nicely.

My Mum BF my sister until she self weaned at 22 months. I think she was "encouraged" in her weaning but she never fussed about it when it stopped. She too used to shout for it stopped(but in her case she called it "yum yums" instead of "boobie"!!) xxx

Same here. Need to stop by the summer as I'm going away for a long weekend, but I don't think she's ready to self wean. Dreading stopping, and she's been ill for the past few weeks with colds and teething etc so is asking for it a lot more.

No advice, just

My son self-weaned at almost 19 months. He had only been feeding 1-2x/day for a few months - he would BF before bed, and occasionally wake up at 4am to BF. Then one day he refused and that was it. I offered for a few weeks but he never wanted anything to do with it again. It took me a few weeks to get over it actually! I plan on BF my daughter until she self-weans too - but I hope she goes at least 2 years!

Kelana is not as old, but no self weaning in sight. I dont BF in public because I dont wnt comments, etc....but in front of family I do.

You could try setting limits around feeding, such as only feeding her upstairs in her bedroom and only feeding her at particular times of day. She's old enough now to understand that there are rules about when she can and can't feed so it could be a way to go if you are not ready to stop completely.

Thomas self-weaned at 22 months (don't offer, don't refuse) but I had limits around feeding for quite a long time beforehand and he would never ask to feed unless we were up in his room because he understood that was the only place that we fed.

Hunni - Blah BF her little one Amelie for quite a while. Around 33 months if i remember right, maybe PM her and have a word.

Still going at 2 and 9 months and I expect she'll be well over 3 before we stop. From about 18 months, we've talked about where she can and can't have milk though, so technically, when she weans, it won't have been 'self' weaning. I'm not sure the distinction is important though as it is a relationship that needs to work for everyone.

How would she take it if you talk to her before going away and tell her she can have milk at a particular time (maybe before bed,) but not when everyone is there? On the other hand, you could let them know she still nurses, and open their minds a bit! My in laws raised eyebrows at first, but they just accept our choices now. It's not as if our LOs are teenagers!

If I were you, I'd put in some limits, and be really clear on how you expect her to ask for milk. Also come up with acceptable alternatives. Alice will often have some cows milk if I offer just before I can tell she would have asked to nurse.

Good luck, but try not to feel embarrassed about what you're doing. Evie is extremely fortunate to still be having your milk, and you're doing an amazing job giving it to her.