My boy is 18 months and wild! He's full of energy, into everything, his speech could use some work so we butt heads trying to comunicate with each other. His thing that causes me trouble is bed time. It's an ongoing thing. We deal with it everyday but sometimes I just loose my patience. I will leave the room and go downstairs and sometimes yell, sometimes I slam a door. Never near him and never at him but I just have to let it out!! Tonight he just wanted to play while I was in the room for almost an hour then I just had to go. By the time I got to the main floor he started to cry and I tried to just be calm then I yelled "go to sleep already!!!". A yell that you'd give a 15 year old not a 1.5 year old. He actually did stop and I could hear him playing for the next while and finally eventually went to sleep.
And I feel awful. The last thing he heard from his mom was a yell of impatience!! I wish I was more compassionate. I wish I was more patient and I hate that I'm not. I adore him so much and want to be with him all night if he needs me but sometimes I just don't have it in me. I feel selfish, weak and sad.
Ok pathetic rant over. Just wondering if anyone else has moments like this too?
Please don't feelbad.
I have the same issue at bedtime in particular. Tobi refuses to go to sleep, even though he knackered.
Oh and I swap out every twenty mins. Us that something u can do?
I do raise my voice when I am in the room with him, and use a tone which in hindsight I wish i didn't. But sometimes it is the only thing he will respond to!
I am working onbeing able to leavehim alonewithout him crying,but no luck.
I think we all have times when they push us too far, and at night when we are tired it is easier! Tobi never remembers it in the morning.
I have moments similar! My DS has found a new way of getting out of nappy changing by running circles around me whilst I'm sat on the floor or just dancing in front of me. If I try to grab him he'll either let me and then he'll kick me when I'm trying to do his bum or he'll make a game of it and he'll run away. If I ignore him it can take up to half an hour to get a nappy changed. Right now I don't even have the energy to be angry. DS is a bad sleeper too so I just sit there looking defeated - which I know doesn't help the situation at all. OH doesn't help at all even at weekends so I pretty much have this 247.
When I have the energy to be angry I normally storm off and shout back to him. I've also said to him that he's annoying wish I didn't but hey.. We are all human and our emotions take over us sometimes. I know its not nice for the kids but when you have as much stress as us mums then I don't think people can judge our actions. Xx
I see you are pregnant!! Congrats!! But this is also an emotional time for you...and I always had a very short fuse when pregnant. Take it easy, go with the flow, and dont pect too much from your little guy. Hugs xxxx
Glad I'm not the only one. I just feel terrible when I have so little patience. It's sad because he just likes to spend time with me. He will talk to me for ages when he should sleep and I get exhausted night after night. I swear it boils over day after day. He will stay up either crying or talking then that will lead him to sleep in and that will lead him to need a longer nap and that will lead to a later bedtime. I don't know if I just need to get him up early one day and not let him nap as long so he actually is tired at bedtime?????
Anyways. Thanks for listening. I just get sad after the fact when I hear all these lovely moms who spend all ages with their kids until they are soundly sleeping. It's been months of bedtime battles and crying by both of us!! My husband does put him to bes often and he doesn't seem to have a problem, go figure. I'm glad he's able to help but then that makes me sad too like I cant parent him myself. Blah.
I feel your pain hun I really do x I have shouted at Finley numerous times & felt like crap after but sometimes they really do push you to the edge. Finey is going through a hitting stage, Ive tried ignoring it but he will carry on hitting me until I lose my temper so I try to stop him before he starts x
My last week has been full of tears, tantrums & shouting from both of us & its really gotten me down x I'm pregnant too & I do think this could be why we are losing our temper quicker than we normally would x
Massive hugs for you x
Toddlers are soooo hard, imo, babies are much easier in comparison! I just have to leave Zack to cry it out sometimes and I feel terrible, but I'm losing patience quick. He fights sleep like no other and has LOADS of energy. And when he screams, it's proper screaming.
I don't get angry with DS very often, but if I do I tend to hold it in (I do this as well in other aspects, work, OH, etc.). Luckily, bedtime is not a battle for us, but he tests his boundaries a lot these days. I don't think he purposely does things to make me angry so I try not to take it personally. I've had enough of something (like flailing around and kicking when I need to change his diaper) and I've raised my voice to him, usually that's enough. I think he knows when I really mean business. I also call him by his full name LoL I think it's just normal honestly...life gets to us some days and we do/say things we're not proud of...just think of the spats you'll have when he's a teenager!
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