Turning one - anyone else with no party?

maddog37 · Mar 29th, 2012, 07:55 AM

My son is turning 1 tomorrow!

No more little baby!

We are going to in laws' for dinner tomorrow, like every Friday. and of course they've have a cake for him. But I have no real special plans for him other than getting him a balloon cuz he loves those. I thought maybe the zoo but it's supposed to be cold tomorrow. It's not like he has any friends and I didn't really make any mommy friends this year.

I feel like a bad mom! Did anyone else not actually throw a birthday party for their 1 year old? All of DH's friends threw huge partys with 30+ kids and personalized loot bags and centerpieces, and I'm like "no, I don't need this crap."

greenkat · Mar 29th, 2012, 08:07 AM

When my LO's turned 1 we had a cake, balloons, presents and went out for the day but they're too little to care about a party - save all that for when they can appreciate it.

If you feel like your LO is missing out I would add up all that you would spend on invitations, party clothes, food, ect and put it in their bank account

maddog37 · Mar 29th, 2012, 08:17 AM

lol I guess I feel bad cuz I'm not even going to make him a cake. He's going to get one, I guess. just not from me. Maybe I should get him a present.

He doesn't like being in the stroller so I almost feel like it's not really for him if I take him to the zoo cuz he always looks like "how much longer are you going to make me sit here and look at hairy things?".

k4th · Mar 29th, 2012, 08:37 AM

We had family round, but didn't do anything with "baby" friends. I had been to my best friends 2year olds birthday party a mth before & was traumatised by all the crying, screaming & tantruming

Will do friend things when she's old enough to appreciate it

NewMummyx · Mar 29th, 2012, 09:37 AM

We are going to visit the family on his birthday (Friday) and on the Saturday taking OHs neice, daughter and LO to Edinburgh Zoo

hattiehippo · Mar 29th, 2012, 09:44 AM

We didn't do anything special for Tom's 1st birthday - my in laws got him a cake and we were staying with them overnight so they all saw him but that was it. I didn't see the point of spending loads of money on a party he was never going to remember and probably be freaked out by.

For his 2nd birthday we took grandparents and friends with a little boy the same age on a steam train ride with Santa (his birthday's at Christmas) and he just about coped with that. Santa was a bit too much for him and we had tears but overall it worked well.

I'm planning to do a party for his 3rd birthday but probably quite low key because he gets thrown easily by things being different and I don't want him to spend his birthday crying.

xxEMZxx · Mar 29th, 2012, 09:46 AM

We didn't have a party, we put balloons and a banner up, he had cake etc but we just took him to the farm for the day. Thinking about taking him zoo this year, I do have a few Mummy friends and my sister and her kids etc but not enough to warrant a birthday party tbh x

tommyg · Mar 29th, 2012, 09:48 AM

Why don't you opt to have the IL's and your own family round at yours instead? That way it will feel like a party and your family don't miss out.

rjm09 · Mar 29th, 2012, 11:12 AM

For our son's first AND second b-day, we didn't throw any ridiculous party, with dozens of people. We got him some toys, and of course b-day cake. It's more special for us to have his birthday at home....with his family

The kids won't remember anyways..i honestly wouldn't of cared either way seeing pics of me when i was little with a huge party, or just home with my family. I'd also rather not be spending a ton of money on them either. There's other things we can focus our finances on.

smelly07 · Mar 29th, 2012, 12:40 PM

We only had family round on my girls 1st birthdays, didnt do the whole baby friends etc etc my eldest daughter 1st 2nd and 3rd birthday close family round is all we did. My youngest daughters 2nd birthday we opted for the beach and a family meal, for her 3rd birthday though she is having a party at a soft play centre mainly because she is more understanding about parties and birthdays etc now .....having an older sister who is having a birthday and party soon has fuelled that tee hee.

Dont feel bad, i think some people go over the top and there just isnt any need trust me when they get older they want parties every year so whilst you can get away with it dont LOL xxx

Mar 29th, 2012, 07:55 AM	#1
maddog37 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Toronto Posts: 1,654	Turning one - anyone else with no party? My son is turning 1 tomorrow! No more little baby! We are going to in laws' for dinner tomorrow, like every Friday. and of course they've have a cake for him. But I have no real special plans for him other than getting him a balloon cuz he loves those. I thought maybe the zoo but it's supposed to be cold tomorrow. It's not like he has any friends and I didn't really make any mommy friends this year. I feel like a bad mom! Did anyone else not actually throw a birthday party for their 1 year old? All of DH's friends threw huge partys with 30+ kids and personalized loot bags and centerpieces, and I'm like "no, I don't need this crap."

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Mar 29th, 2012, 08:07 AM	#2
greenkat Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: North Yorkshire Posts: 520	When my LO's turned 1 we had a cake, balloons, presents and went out for the day but they're too little to care about a party - save all that for when they can appreciate it. If you feel like your LO is missing out I would add up all that you would spend on invitations, party clothes, food, ect and put it in their bank account

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Mar 29th, 2012, 08:17 AM	#3
maddog37 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Toronto Posts: 1,654	lol I guess I feel bad cuz I'm not even going to make him a cake. He's going to get one, I guess. just not from me. Maybe I should get him a present. He doesn't like being in the stroller so I almost feel like it's not really for him if I take him to the zoo cuz he always looks like "how much longer are you going to make me sit here and look at hairy things?".

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Mar 29th, 2012, 08:37 AM	#4
k4th Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Preston Posts: 2,271	We had family round, but didn't do anything with "baby" friends. I had been to my best friends 2year olds birthday party a mth before & was traumatised by all the crying, screaming & tantruming Will do friend things when she's old enough to appreciate it

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Mar 29th, 2012, 09:37 AM	#5
NewMummyx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Glasgow x Posts: 2,675	We are going to visit the family on his birthday (Friday) and on the Saturday taking OHs neice, daughter and LO to Edinburgh Zoo

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Mar 29th, 2012, 09:44 AM	#6
hattiehippo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Essex Posts: 3,636	We didn't do anything special for Tom's 1st birthday - my in laws got him a cake and we were staying with them overnight so they all saw him but that was it. I didn't see the point of spending loads of money on a party he was never going to remember and probably be freaked out by. For his 2nd birthday we took grandparents and friends with a little boy the same age on a steam train ride with Santa (his birthday's at Christmas) and he just about coped with that. Santa was a bit too much for him and we had tears but overall it worked well. I'm planning to do a party for his 3rd birthday but probably quite low key because he gets thrown easily by things being different and I don't want him to spend his birthday crying.

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Mar 29th, 2012, 09:46 AM	#7
xxEMZxx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Leicester, UK Posts: 3,410	We didn't have a party, we put balloons and a banner up, he had cake etc but we just took him to the farm for the day. Thinking about taking him zoo this year, I do have a few Mummy friends and my sister and her kids etc but not enough to warrant a birthday party tbh x

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Mar 29th, 2012, 09:48 AM	#8
tommyg Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Scotland Posts: 4,289	Why don't you opt to have the IL's and your own family round at yours instead? That way it will feel like a party and your family don't miss out.

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Mar 29th, 2012, 11:12 AM	#9
rjm09 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 1,921	For our son's first AND second b-day, we didn't throw any ridiculous party, with dozens of people. We got him some toys, and of course b-day cake. It's more special for us to have his birthday at home....with his family The kids won't remember anyways..i honestly wouldn't of cared either way seeing pics of me when i was little with a huge party, or just home with my family. I'd also rather not be spending a ton of money on them either. There's other things we can focus our finances on.

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Mar 29th, 2012, 12:40 PM	#10
smelly07 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: England down south Posts: 3,577	We only had family round on my girls 1st birthdays, didnt do the whole baby friends etc etc my eldest daughter 1st 2nd and 3rd birthday close family round is all we did. My youngest daughters 2nd birthday we opted for the beach and a family meal, for her 3rd birthday though she is having a party at a soft play centre mainly because she is more understanding about parties and birthdays etc now .....having an older sister who is having a birthday and party soon has fuelled that tee hee. Dont feel bad, i think some people go over the top and there just isnt any need trust me when they get older they want parties every year so whilst you can get away with it dont LOL xxx

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