Is it really easier once u can have a conversation with LO? - Page 2

Jchihuahua · Mar 29th, 2012, 16:01 PM

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Originally Posted by OmarsMum

I wish

We are in the arguing stage, he questions everything, he argues a lot, he says no for the sake of saying no!

^^ This!!

MotherBeth · Mar 29th, 2012, 16:48 PM

I vote for easier!

I feel like now that she can tell me exactly what's wrong -- "I want applesauce, please." And now that I can explain to her, "Oh, I'm sorry. We're all out of applesauce. No more. Would you like something else?" -- it feels like crying etc. is more under control, because we can communicate. Even if she follows with, "But I WANT apple sauce!" I can say, "I know. But there's no more. See cupboard? No more applesauce. Would you like a fruit bar?" And she is beginning to have the cognitive ability to understand that, and say, "Yes, fruit bar please." SO much easier than the days of "Why is she crying? I've tried everything!"

rosie272 · Mar 29th, 2012, 17:15 PM

I say 100% yes! But Charlie was a frustrated biter before he could speak properly and that completely stopped when his vocabulary improved. Now he literally never stops and gives me a running commentary on everything he does/hears/sees/smells/touches

and I have thought a couple of times it was easier when he couldn't speak but thats a fleeting thought. And also agree that the argumentative part is quite hard to deal with and I find myself resorting to slight bribery more and more these days :/ Sometimes whatever I say or ask he tells me 'you don't say that mummy please' or 'no it's not' (when it blatantly is

) But on the whole - Charlie is quite easy to reason with (for now)

JakesMummy · Mar 29th, 2012, 17:49 PM

Yes alot easier!!!! Since jake turned three it's like a switch has flicked and he's much easier to communicate with, do things with, be silly with etc! I love this age!!!

DCS · Mar 30th, 2012, 06:41 AM

Deffinately good to hear. At the minute the only things dillan can tell me is that he wants milk (by pulling my top down! Lol) and that he is tired, by waving. He can point to something if he wants it.
Somedays he just seems in a proper grump, and moans at everything, and I have no idea what is wrong!
And the word NO is apparently very funny and an invitation to do it again. I think he is much smarter than I give him credit for. It would just make things easier if we could communicate what we want.

At what age do they roughly start to understand?

JakesMummy · Mar 30th, 2012, 08:02 AM

Jake was understanding way before he could talk, and he was a late developer with speech. I'd say around 18 months was when i definitely noticed he was able to understand alot more.
I'm going through the tantrums ALREADY with my 11 month old. Kill me now!!

sun · Mar 30th, 2012, 11:37 AM

They can understand way before they can talk and make themselves understood. My LO has a speech delay, but has been able to understand and follow direction (when he is so inclined lol) for a year or so. It started with really basic things, then grew from there.

RachA · Mar 30th, 2012, 11:47 AM

It is and it isn't lol.

It is because you can talk to them and tell them how you feel and talk to them about how they feel. But it isn't because you then enter the whole 'answering back' etc.

My DS is lovely to be with some times and we chat away but then because he is talking etc if you ask him to do something he'll answer back. I also get 'i don't like you anymore' if he's been told off etc

KittyVentura · Mar 30th, 2012, 11:54 AM

Yes from me. We're not at full on convo stage yet but he can tell me what he wants and say yes/no to questions etc and life is SOOOO much easier now. I might not always be able to fix the problem but him being able to tell me he is upset because Mr Tumble has gone from the TV is so much better than my flapping around guessing and offering him things etc xx

MotherBeth · Mar 30th, 2012, 14:55 PM

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Originally Posted by DCS

At what age do they roughly start to understand?

Honestly, we weren't really able to have real conversations where we can really explain things to each other until about 2 years and ... maybe 9 months? I couldn't tell how much she understood before that.

Mar 29th, 2012, 16:48 PM	#12
MotherBeth Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 641	I vote for easier! I feel like now that she can tell me exactly what's wrong -- "I want applesauce, please." And now that I can explain to her, "Oh, I'm sorry. We're all out of applesauce. No more. Would you like something else?" -- it feels like crying etc. is more under control, because we can communicate. Even if she follows with, "But I WANT apple sauce!" I can say, "I know. But there's no more. See cupboard? No more applesauce. Would you like a fruit bar?" And she is beginning to have the cognitive ability to understand that, and say, "Yes, fruit bar please." SO much easier than the days of "Why is she crying? I've tried everything!"

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Mar 29th, 2012, 17:15 PM	#13
rosie272 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 4,791	I say 100% yes! But Charlie was a frustrated biter before he could speak properly and that completely stopped when his vocabulary improved. Now he literally never stops and gives me a running commentary on everything he does/hears/sees/smells/touches and I have thought a couple of times it was easier when he couldn't speak but thats a fleeting thought. And also agree that the argumentative part is quite hard to deal with and I find myself resorting to slight bribery more and more these days :/ Sometimes whatever I say or ask he tells me 'you don't say that mummy please' or 'no it's not' (when it blatantly is ) But on the whole - Charlie is quite easy to reason with (for now)

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Mar 29th, 2012, 17:49 PM	#14
JakesMummy Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 2,237	Yes alot easier!!!! Since jake turned three it's like a switch has flicked and he's much easier to communicate with, do things with, be silly with etc! I love this age!!!

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Mar 30th, 2012, 06:41 AM	#15
DCS Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: leicester, uk Posts: 1,207	Deffinately good to hear. At the minute the only things dillan can tell me is that he wants milk (by pulling my top down! Lol) and that he is tired, by waving. He can point to something if he wants it. Somedays he just seems in a proper grump, and moans at everything, and I have no idea what is wrong! And the word NO is apparently very funny and an invitation to do it again. I think he is much smarter than I give him credit for. It would just make things easier if we could communicate what we want. At what age do they roughly start to understand?

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Mar 30th, 2012, 08:02 AM	#16
JakesMummy Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 2,237	Jake was understanding way before he could talk, and he was a late developer with speech. I'd say around 18 months was when i definitely noticed he was able to understand alot more. I'm going through the tantrums ALREADY with my 11 month old. Kill me now!!

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Mar 30th, 2012, 11:37 AM	#17
sun Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 11,727	They can understand way before they can talk and make themselves understood. My LO has a speech delay, but has been able to understand and follow direction (when he is so inclined lol) for a year or so. It started with really basic things, then grew from there.

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Mar 30th, 2012, 11:47 AM	#18
RachA Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 4,139	It is and it isn't lol. It is because you can talk to them and tell them how you feel and talk to them about how they feel. But it isn't because you then enter the whole 'answering back' etc. My DS is lovely to be with some times and we chat away but then because he is talking etc if you ask him to do something he'll answer back. I also get 'i don't like you anymore' if he's been told off etc

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Mar 30th, 2012, 11:54 AM	#19
KittyVentura Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Swindon, UK Posts: 10,529	Yes from me. We're not at full on convo stage yet but he can tell me what he wants and say yes/no to questions etc and life is SOOOO much easier now. I might not always be able to fix the problem but him being able to tell me he is upset because Mr Tumble has gone from the TV is so much better than my flapping around guessing and offering him things etc xx

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