Feeling a little guilty....

jaybee · Apr 2nd, 2012, 02:40 AM

..... I have started my Monday's off leading up to ML in a few weeks time.
So I am home all day.... But still took Tobi to the nursery!

He just totally broke down and was crying his heart out (although this is nothing new!)I know he will be fine within minutes if not seconds! But, part of thinks he should be here with me! Even though I know he LOVES nursery and gets sooooo much out of it!

Ang1873 · Apr 2nd, 2012, 06:03 AM

i wouldn't feel guilty, you need your rest too

and i sometimes think my LO has more fun at nursery than being stuck in the house with me when i'm trying to get housework done

Lellow · Apr 2nd, 2012, 06:13 AM

I can sympathise so much.

I work and so Aymen goes to nursery 2 afternoons a week. Sometimes i have some time off on one of the days im meant to work, so initially would have Aymen home with me as nursery wasnt needed.
However over the last couple of occassions, DH has been dropping him off at nursery and ive been at home alone, caught up with household stuff, had a cuppa tea and enjoyed some JK instead

I dont feel guilty anymore, Aymen loves nursery and he gets so much from it and it gives me a bit of a break too.

aimee-lou · Apr 2nd, 2012, 13:33 PM

Don't feel guilty! Earl continued at the CM until last week (Easter Holidays) despite the fact I've been off since the 12th. I got a few afternoons to just relax and do some sorting out without him getting bored or under my feet, and he really enjoyed it there. He has asked to go back (would normally be there on a Monday) so I actually feel guilty that he hasn't gone back rather than him being there. Soon you'll have 2, so enjoy the time to yourself while you can

Odd Socks · Apr 2nd, 2012, 14:47 PM

i know how you feel. bella goes to the cm one afternoon a week for 4.5 hours & i miss her like crazy & feel that i should be looking after her. maybe i should be. but she gets a lot out of being centre of attention when she's there, while she's always having to share my attention with lauren when she's with me, & she loves it there.

i am planning on stopping in a few weeks though, simply because i feel guilty for "packing her off" so to speak.

but personally, i don't see there's a problem at all with it, i'm just a hypocrite when it comes to judging myself in the same way

xx

hattiehippo · Apr 2nd, 2012, 14:59 PM

Don't feel guilty. Make the most of the chance to rest and relax before the baby comes.

Tom was at nursery today when I was at home as I'm a teacher and off for the next 2 weeks. He has 5 days at nursery while I'm off and I'm loving having the chance to sort the garden and house out without him helping and then have some down time too. He loves it at nursery and gets so excited about going that I don't ever feel guilty about him being there instead of at home.

LaughOutLoud · Apr 3rd, 2012, 12:50 PM

Honestly, you said it yourself, LO loves nursery so pls dont feel guilty. Enjoy it and you know he's enjoying it too. Enjoy it while you can x

LilDreamy · Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:02 PM

If it makes you feel any better.... I'm getting two weeks of leave off of work. And I'm taking a week to be off for myself and catch up on house work and car work, and then a week spending with her.

Then again, I'm a single parent who works 55 hours a week, and haven't had a day off to myself since Alexa has been born. It's much needed... I'm such a cranky person these days.

So don't feel bad!!! Mommies need breaks too!

LilDreamy · Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:06 PM

Oh... And I feel guilty no matter what I do. I feel guilty when I keep her at home because she LOVES child care because they do sooo many cool things and she has friends to play with. She ends up grabbing her hat, jacket and shoes and tries to get me to take her. Lol

Thennnnn I feel guilty when she is there and miss her like crazy... So no matter what I never win. Lol

gingajewel · Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:35 PM

Oooh i do this all the time - infact i book a holiday DAY once every few months to have a day to myself! Megan goes to nursery and i get up late, eat breakfast in peace and induldge in rubbishy day time TV and a good magazine!! Dont feel guilty at all - we all need some alone time Xx

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jaybee Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Wiltshire/ Somerset Border. Posts: 4,401	Feeling a little guilty.... ..... I have started my Monday's off leading up to ML in a few weeks time. So I am home all day.... But still took Tobi to the nursery! He just totally broke down and was crying his heart out (although this is nothing new!)I know he will be fine within minutes if not seconds! But, part of thinks he should be here with me! Even though I know he LOVES nursery and gets sooooo much out of it!

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Ang1873 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Scotland Posts: 513	i wouldn't feel guilty, you need your rest too and i sometimes think my LO has more fun at nursery than being stuck in the house with me when i'm trying to get housework done

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Lellow Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 12,105	I can sympathise so much. I work and so Aymen goes to nursery 2 afternoons a week. Sometimes i have some time off on one of the days im meant to work, so initially would have Aymen home with me as nursery wasnt needed. However over the last couple of occassions, DH has been dropping him off at nursery and ive been at home alone, caught up with household stuff, had a cuppa tea and enjoyed some JK instead I dont feel guilty anymore, Aymen loves nursery and he gets so much from it and it gives me a bit of a break too.

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 13:33 PM	#4
aimee-lou Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Norfolk - UK Posts: 8,909	Don't feel guilty! Earl continued at the CM until last week (Easter Holidays) despite the fact I've been off since the 12th. I got a few afternoons to just relax and do some sorting out without him getting bored or under my feet, and he really enjoyed it there. He has asked to go back (would normally be there on a Monday) so I actually feel guilty that he hasn't gone back rather than him being there. Soon you'll have 2, so enjoy the time to yourself while you can

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 14:47 PM	#5
Odd Socks Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Manchester, England Posts: 4,043	i know how you feel. bella goes to the cm one afternoon a week for 4.5 hours & i miss her like crazy & feel that i should be looking after her. maybe i should be. but she gets a lot out of being centre of attention when she's there, while she's always having to share my attention with lauren when she's with me, & she loves it there. i am planning on stopping in a few weeks though, simply because i feel guilty for "packing her off" so to speak. but personally, i don't see there's a problem at all with it, i'm just a hypocrite when it comes to judging myself in the same way xx

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 14:59 PM	#6
hattiehippo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Essex Posts: 3,641	Don't feel guilty. Make the most of the chance to rest and relax before the baby comes. Tom was at nursery today when I was at home as I'm a teacher and off for the next 2 weeks. He has 5 days at nursery while I'm off and I'm loving having the chance to sort the garden and house out without him helping and then have some down time too. He loves it at nursery and gets so excited about going that I don't ever feel guilty about him being there instead of at home.

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 12:50 PM	#7
LaughOutLoud Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 949	Honestly, you said it yourself, LO loves nursery so pls dont feel guilty. Enjoy it and you know he's enjoying it too. Enjoy it while you can x

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LilDreamy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Germany (American) Posts: 2,980	If it makes you feel any better.... I'm getting two weeks of leave off of work. And I'm taking a week to be off for myself and catch up on house work and car work, and then a week spending with her. Then again, I'm a single parent who works 55 hours a week, and haven't had a day off to myself since Alexa has been born. It's much needed... I'm such a cranky person these days. So don't feel bad!!! Mommies need breaks too!

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:06 PM	#9
LilDreamy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Germany (American) Posts: 2,980	Oh... And I feel guilty no matter what I do. I feel guilty when I keep her at home because she LOVES child care because they do sooo many cool things and she has friends to play with. She ends up grabbing her hat, jacket and shoes and tries to get me to take her. Lol Thennnnn I feel guilty when she is there and miss her like crazy... So no matter what I never win. Lol

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gingajewel Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Wolverhampton Posts: 1,451	Oooh i do this all the time - infact i book a holiday DAY once every few months to have a day to myself! Megan goes to nursery and i get up late, eat breakfast in peace and induldge in rubbishy day time TV and a good magazine!! Dont feel guilty at all - we all need some alone time Xx

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