Help we just want our bed back :( - Page 2

lepaskilf · Apr 5th, 2012, 05:24 AM

If you start the CIO method the key is not to give up, otherwise you will have let your LO cry for no reason and she will come to realise that if she cries hard enough you will come.

Good luck

Loren · Apr 5th, 2012, 06:24 AM

in the night - bath, bottle and story in her cot say goodnight and leave the room, making sure its dark thers no light seeping through blinds ect wen she cries leave her for 3 mins then go in dont pick her up lay her back down and leave the room then you go back in at 6mins do the same then 9mins do the same and so on go up in 3's but restart the stopwatch each time you come back out.and each night u increase it by a minute, dont stay in the room for longer than 30 seconds, its heartbreaking but believe me your going to think back if it works and go omg im glad we did this, it workd, u have your sleep and love life back.totaly up to u but if u try it stick to it.james vomited twice once one night and once another night (having a cough didnt help) but dont let that upset you or frighten you they sometimes do that, just dont make a scene because she will then think well if i make myself sick every1 fusses round me and i get to go in mummy and daddys bed.honestly if you try it stick to it, best of luck chick xxxx

Loren · Apr 5th, 2012, 06:28 AM

ohhh and if you do have a room that was meant for LO decorate it in disney or whoever shes into and try her in ther sometimes seeing your bed without you init will make her cry more and not settle, james was terrible screamed every half hr trying to grab our bed ect and was up sometimes till or at 3am till god knows wat time some nights

in bed with us everynight since 4months but all thats a distant memory now....then 2days b4 his 1st birthday i thought you know what im nackered hes goin in his own room so we put him in and hey presto cried for 25mins then didnt hear a peep from him till the next morning it was bliss and has been since.well worth it hun xxx

Mrsmitch80 · Apr 5th, 2012, 06:36 AM

I agree with loren the CIO method really works. You will think it will take weeks but about 3 nights will do it, when I say nights I mean an hour or so of crying at bedtime first night and then a happy child by the third.

My daughter has always been a good sleeper in a good routine but has had 5 operations so has been out of her routine for 2 weeks or more leading to some very upsetting nights as she was so tired. I'd usually leave it a week or so after we got home and then would use CIO to re establish her routine. Some people thought it was cruel but she couldn't recover from her operations without sleep and couldn't sleep with us as she had wounds that I was terrified of hurting.

She went into a single bed at Christmas and seems to have turned into a teenager who likes her lie ins at the moment!!! Xx

julietz · Apr 6th, 2012, 03:29 AM

Thanks everyone i red your replies thismorning, goint to give it a good try fingers crossed we get our bed back, cos i couldnt get much sleep last night was hanging on the edge of the bed

she woke at 4am and in our bed she went.

Loren · Apr 12th, 2012, 17:05 PM

well best of luck hun

xxxxxx

Apr 5th, 2012, 05:24 AM	#11
lepaskilf Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: I live in North Wales Posts: 3,282	If you start the CIO method the key is not to give up, otherwise you will have let your LO cry for no reason and she will come to realise that if she cries hard enough you will come. Good luck

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Apr 5th, 2012, 06:24 AM	#12
Loren Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Liverpool, England Posts: 2,055	in the night - bath, bottle and story in her cot say goodnight and leave the room, making sure its dark thers no light seeping through blinds ect wen she cries leave her for 3 mins then go in dont pick her up lay her back down and leave the room then you go back in at 6mins do the same then 9mins do the same and so on go up in 3's but restart the stopwatch each time you come back out.and each night u increase it by a minute, dont stay in the room for longer than 30 seconds, its heartbreaking but believe me your going to think back if it works and go omg im glad we did this, it workd, u have your sleep and love life back.totaly up to u but if u try it stick to it.james vomited twice once one night and once another night (having a cough didnt help) but dont let that upset you or frighten you they sometimes do that, just dont make a scene because she will then think well if i make myself sick every1 fusses round me and i get to go in mummy and daddys bed.honestly if you try it stick to it, best of luck chick xxxx

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Apr 5th, 2012, 06:28 AM	#13
Loren Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Liverpool, England Posts: 2,055	ohhh and if you do have a room that was meant for LO decorate it in disney or whoever shes into and try her in ther sometimes seeing your bed without you init will make her cry more and not settle, james was terrible screamed every half hr trying to grab our bed ect and was up sometimes till or at 3am till god knows wat time some nights in bed with us everynight since 4months but all thats a distant memory now....then 2days b4 his 1st birthday i thought you know what im nackered hes goin in his own room so we put him in and hey presto cried for 25mins then didnt hear a peep from him till the next morning it was bliss and has been since.well worth it hun xxx

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Apr 5th, 2012, 06:36 AM	#14
Mrsmitch80 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Cheshire, uk Posts: 1,499	I agree with loren the CIO method really works. You will think it will take weeks but about 3 nights will do it, when I say nights I mean an hour or so of crying at bedtime first night and then a happy child by the third. My daughter has always been a good sleeper in a good routine but has had 5 operations so has been out of her routine for 2 weeks or more leading to some very upsetting nights as she was so tired. I'd usually leave it a week or so after we got home and then would use CIO to re establish her routine. Some people thought it was cruel but she couldn't recover from her operations without sleep and couldn't sleep with us as she had wounds that I was terrified of hurting. She went into a single bed at Christmas and seems to have turned into a teenager who likes her lie ins at the moment!!! Xx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 03:29 AM	#15
julietz Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 1,593	Thanks everyone i red your replies thismorning, goint to give it a good try fingers crossed we get our bed back, cos i couldnt get much sleep last night was hanging on the edge of the bed she woke at 4am and in our bed she went.

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Apr 12th, 2012, 17:05 PM	#16
Loren Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Liverpool, England Posts: 2,055	well best of luck hun xxxxxx

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