Hi, can someone please help us, my poor hubby has been sleeping on our floor on a matress because our lo ends up in bed with us during the night, and there is no room for 3 of us, it started when she was teething rly bad, and use to wake during and we would have to cuddle her to sleep after some pain relief, but we are finding it hard getting her back in her cot, as soon as i put her in it she cries, and even if i put her in it when she is aslepp, she still wakes during the night to get in with us, i cant let her scream it out as i have my other 2 sons asleep, and she will wake the whole house, any ideas please we are desperate?
We sometimes get this with dillan. What we do is I bf him to sleep in his room. And then once he is asleep, I pop him into his cot. Sometimes he tried to trick me, and isn't really asleep. So then we just start again. Sometimes we can do this like 4 or 5 times before I just give up. But after acouple days he goes back to sttn in his cot. If dillan wakes before 4am, we will attempt to put him back in his cot. If its after 4 am we let him stay in with us.
I find if I feed him to sleep in our bed, and then OH carried him to his room, he wakes up straight away. I think its because its too far a walk iykwim, and because he was comfy in our bed and is pissed at being moved.
Basically my suggestion is to cuddle LO to sleep in her room. And then pop her into her cot, and keep at it.
Just another thought too, the smell of mummy is probably comforting for her, have u tried putting a worn tshirt by her cot? Under her sheet?
I think that works, once dillans sleeping bag has been washed or he gets a new one he has a few off nights, so now once he is out of his sleeping bag, I leave it in our bed, so it smells of us.
Just a thought!
Our LO sleeps in our bed fulltime, with me and OH and sometime the dog! We love it like this as we get lots of cuddles, contented baby and a good night's sleep How come your OH can't sleep in with you?
My son is still in our bed too lol! I had thought about putting him in his own room or at least his own bed but we are so used to it now that we don't want to change! I have been laying him down in his own bed/room for naps recently though (although he is already asleep from a drive), and he is at least happy to wake up & be in his own bed.
Does she sleep in her room for a nap? Also, when she wakes up does she just go back to sleep when your there or is she thirsty? Once she is in her own room even if she wakes in the night, you could offer her a drink of water then tell her its not time to get up yet give her a hug and lie her down. If you sleep in with her for a few nights and keep repeating its not time to get up yet and get her to sleep through then thats the main hurdle. My son used to wake in the night & be hard to settle again but mostly sleeps through now even although he still has the odd bf during the night still. He tells me now that its not time to get up yet 'not morning' he says if he wakes up during the night & goes back to sleep! x
some people dont agree with this but we did the crying it out technique and it took 4 nights of crying 10-45mins and now he sleeps right through from 7.30pm-8am in his own cot in his own room.plus i gave james my pillow so that he felt as if he was asleepin in my bed on my pillow that worked well too good luck hun you'll find a way soon xx o and BTW we did the crying it out couple of days before his 1st birthday thinking this is going to take a while with him being older and more alert to things but was so easy and quick xxx
JJ is in our bed at some point most nights. Im like your DH op, I like my space in bed. So, as pink and fluffy says, I often creep into JJ's bed after he's gone to sleep in my bed. I can remember my parents doing the same when I was little!
Trouble is, it is me JJ wants to be next to, so some nights we play musical beds a LOT. I relate to your frustration, I also would like a child that would just sttn in their own bed. I cant bring myself to let JJ cry to achieve this though, and Im not sure it would work anyway, so its gonna be a few more months/years of bed-sharing for us I think (I quite like it really)...
Our lo doesnt have her own room, she has been in our room since she was born, we set the cot up in there because honestly Dad did not want her away from him because he is such a worrier, i just went along with it, even though i was looking forward to doing a nursery up for her, but its paid of now because we have no chance getting her in the cot never mind her own room.
Last night i tried the crying technique, i lay on my bed with light of and musical projector on the cot which she likes, and she just stood there crying, it broke my heart but i waitied it out for about 5mins then she lifted her leg up on top of the cot so i had to jump up and get her out even though she wouldnt be able to get out, she clung to me so ended up putting her in our bed, then back in the cot when she was asleep, she woke at 4am and back in with us.
Point is i do not want our baby in bed with us no matter how nice it is, i want a life with my partner in bed and this is not going to happen, plus we both find it hard to sleep because we have legs and feet kicking us constantly, so iv decided to just do the in cot crying technique a few nights and see if it helps, also add something of mine with the mum scent which someone recomended, i will post back with the outcome, thanks for your replies.
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