r all children the same?

Mummytoobeexx · Apr 9th, 2012, 06:27 AM

My sister moved in with my nephew a few days ago hes nearly two, I havent had much experiance with children but i was just wondering if this was normall behaviour, For example he wont play with toys at all he wud rather play with laptops, phones, his mums make up etc (we do hide them away) I have a 3 month old son and he just wont leave him alone hitting him poking him screaming in his face i cant have a min to myself cos im having to watch my son all the time. my nephew doesnt understand no, when told off he'll just laugh at u. hes got a thing for climbing on the tv n going behind it which he knws is wrong, he'll have his dinner but it ends up all over the house and wont eat, putting his fingers down throat and being sick (dont know where he got that from) taking nappy off all time and peeing round house, constant screaming/crying, into everything, r all children like this???

k4th · Apr 9th, 2012, 06:51 AM

They are definitely all different hun! They all have their own personalities & energy levels & interests. Unfortunately - there are some similarities between most children too - most go through phases of not understanding 'no' - followed closely by not wanting to comply with 'no'! Most children also want to test boundaries & play with things they're not 'supposed' to & drive parents crackers!!!

Hopefully, the novelty of having your son around will die down soon & your nephew will learn to be gentle with him. It must be a bit of a shock to go from having a relatively compliant 3 mth old in the house, to suddenly having a fiesty almost 2year old too!! Most of us get little behaviours creeping up bit by bit - I can say that even though dd is only 13 months!!!

Are they staying with you for a while?

hattiehippo · Apr 9th, 2012, 08:18 AM

They're not all the same but a lot of almost 2 yr olds can have difficult behaviour along the lines you've described.

To be fair your nephew must be really confused about suddenly staying somewhere else and is prob playing up because of that. Like the pp said, the novelty of a new house and a baby to prod should wear off quickly. Until then can you put your baby out of reach - like in a travel cot or playpen?

lepaskilf · Apr 9th, 2012, 11:18 AM

Is your sister doing much to discipline him? My LO has issue when it comes to eating but I'd never allow it to end up all over the room/house!! And would have certainly stepped in if he decided to try and get behiind the TV!

Maybe you should have a word with your sis! Are they staying long?

charlotteb24 · Apr 9th, 2012, 11:52 AM

A lot of that behaviour is pretty normal for that age but is more on the extreme side IMO! It sounds like he needs some strict rules and boundaries set so that he knows what's expected of him and for all the adults in the house to follow the same rules for disciine so he knows exactly where he stands.
Could be that he is also confused and a lite bit unsettled if he has just moved in and he is in a new house that he is not used to and maybe even wondering why he isn't going home if he has been living somewhere else unt recently. That could also make his behaviour bad.

Sounds like all he needs is to know the rules, have structure so that e feels safe and he will probably settle down!

All kids are unique so will display different behaviour xx

Jchihuahua · Apr 9th, 2012, 12:38 PM

All kids are different but some of what you described sounds like common 2 year old behaviour to me.

RileysMummy · Apr 9th, 2012, 12:56 PM

Yeah sounds like typical toddler behaviour but maybe he needs disciplining more...x

sun · Apr 9th, 2012, 13:44 PM

Lots of that does sound like typical toddler behaviour!
But I will say that a new environment can definitely make their behaviour worse - especially if they are staying overnight. It's so new and exciting so they are running around getting into everything and less likely to listen - which tires them out faster. But things are new so they are less likely to sleep well - and I know for my toddler that lack of sleep or hunger REALLY affect his behaviour negatively!

Also at 2 they tend to go through phases. My son used to share and take turns, but he has suddenly decided that everything is his and it's always his turn so we are dealing with that now. In 2 months there's a good chance it will be something else! x

ginab · Apr 9th, 2012, 14:01 PM

I wouldnt let maggie get away with most of what you described especially in someone else house. Sounds like he's testing the boundries..

It's up to your Sis to guide him in the right direction to put it nicely

Mummytoobeexx · Apr 9th, 2012, 14:54 PM

my nephew spends alot of time at my house well most days hes used to being here so cant put it down to being in different enviroment i also cant complain about him sleeping, he goes to bed 7 till 7 hes a good sleeper. im just pulling my hair out throughout the day.

Apr 9th, 2012, 06:27 AM	#1
Mummytoobeexx Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 127	r all children the same? My sister moved in with my nephew a few days ago hes nearly two, I havent had much experiance with children but i was just wondering if this was normall behaviour, For example he wont play with toys at all he wud rather play with laptops, phones, his mums make up etc (we do hide them away) I have a 3 month old son and he just wont leave him alone hitting him poking him screaming in his face i cant have a min to myself cos im having to watch my son all the time. my nephew doesnt understand no, when told off he'll just laugh at u. hes got a thing for climbing on the tv n going behind it which he knws is wrong, he'll have his dinner but it ends up all over the house and wont eat, putting his fingers down throat and being sick (dont know where he got that from) taking nappy off all time and peeing round house, constant screaming/crying, into everything, r all children like this???

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Apr 9th, 2012, 06:51 AM	#2
k4th Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Preston Posts: 2,271	They are definitely all different hun! They all have their own personalities & energy levels & interests. Unfortunately - there are some similarities between most children too - most go through phases of not understanding 'no' - followed closely by not wanting to comply with 'no'! Most children also want to test boundaries & play with things they're not 'supposed' to & drive parents crackers!!! Hopefully, the novelty of having your son around will die down soon & your nephew will learn to be gentle with him. It must be a bit of a shock to go from having a relatively compliant 3 mth old in the house, to suddenly having a fiesty almost 2year old too!! Most of us get little behaviours creeping up bit by bit - I can say that even though dd is only 13 months!!! Are they staying with you for a while?

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hattiehippo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Essex Posts: 3,644	They're not all the same but a lot of almost 2 yr olds can have difficult behaviour along the lines you've described. To be fair your nephew must be really confused about suddenly staying somewhere else and is prob playing up because of that. Like the pp said, the novelty of a new house and a baby to prod should wear off quickly. Until then can you put your baby out of reach - like in a travel cot or playpen?

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lepaskilf Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: I live in North Wales Posts: 3,282	Is your sister doing much to discipline him? My LO has issue when it comes to eating but I'd never allow it to end up all over the room/house!! And would have certainly stepped in if he decided to try and get behiind the TV! Maybe you should have a word with your sis! Are they staying long?

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Apr 9th, 2012, 11:52 AM	#5
charlotteb24 Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 2,344	A lot of that behaviour is pretty normal for that age but is more on the extreme side IMO! It sounds like he needs some strict rules and boundaries set so that he knows what's expected of him and for all the adults in the house to follow the same rules for disciine so he knows exactly where he stands. Could be that he is also confused and a lite bit unsettled if he has just moved in and he is in a new house that he is not used to and maybe even wondering why he isn't going home if he has been living somewhere else unt recently. That could also make his behaviour bad. Sounds like all he needs is to know the rules, have structure so that e feels safe and he will probably settle down! All kids are unique so will display different behaviour xx

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Jchihuahua Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: W. Yorkshire Posts: 7,133	All kids are different but some of what you described sounds like common 2 year old behaviour to me.

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RileysMummy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Germany Posts: 9,682	Yeah sounds like typical toddler behaviour but maybe he needs disciplining more...x

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Apr 9th, 2012, 13:44 PM	#8
sun Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 11,760	Lots of that does sound like typical toddler behaviour! But I will say that a new environment can definitely make their behaviour worse - especially if they are staying overnight. It's so new and exciting so they are running around getting into everything and less likely to listen - which tires them out faster. But things are new so they are less likely to sleep well - and I know for my toddler that lack of sleep or hunger REALLY affect his behaviour negatively! Also at 2 they tend to go through phases. My son used to share and take turns, but he has suddenly decided that everything is his and it's always his turn so we are dealing with that now. In 2 months there's a good chance it will be something else! x

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ginab Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Herefordshire Posts: 1,252	I wouldnt let maggie get away with most of what you described especially in someone else house. Sounds like he's testing the boundries.. It's up to your Sis to guide him in the right direction to put it nicely

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Mummytoobeexx Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 127	my nephew spends alot of time at my house well most days hes used to being here so cant put it down to being in different enviroment i also cant complain about him sleeping, he goes to bed 7 till 7 hes a good sleeper. im just pulling my hair out throughout the day.

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