As I type this I am laying on the floor in LOs room. Hiding my phone under his cot. Hoping that the boy will fall asleep.
We did the usual bedtime routine...... But the last few nights he isn't wanting to go to sleep.
So far I have tried, feeding him to sleep like normal.
Taking him out of hiis sleeping bag, removing layer of clothes, letting him feed while sitting up. And putting him in in his cot while me and OH lay on the floor. He has had his water in there, but decided to throw that at my head.

Its os frustratong, knowing he is tired but he won't sleep. Its also driving me mad because normally when he gets like this he wants us to change something.....just this time I have no flippin idea what it is. I do love my boy, he is the bestest, but I wish he would just learn the words and tell me what he wants me to do.

We have been playing this game for an hour almost. And Iv run out of ideas.

I don't quite know what I'm expecating you ladies to do, although if anyone has a magical solution I think you should share. Just hoping that another mummy will understand how I feel. OH does his best but since he has never put LO to bed alone (he would if he could, LO is bf and still bf to sleep. And OH hasn't mastered the art of bf yet.) He doesn't fully appreciate how difficult it is!

((hugs)) hope he has gone to sleep for you xx

My DS is like this! It can take him up to 90 mins to go to sleep!! He's not breastfed but I have always put him to bed & even if OH wanted to he can't cause he works nights.. I am moving his bedtime half an hour later to see if that helps.. Let me know hun & will be stalking your thread!! Xx

I had a similar night tonight and felt like tearing my hair out big hugs to you. Isla fell asleep after fighting me for 2 hours

He eventually went to sleep after more fighting. I think I might also move him bedtime a little later.
I feel so bad for getting annoyed, I know its not his fault. But we had the same drama at naptime. It took me 2 hours. Even though he almost fell asleep eating his lunch.
Let's hope tomorrow is a better day.

Arrrrgh just thought, since he was fighting his nap, and he was clearly over tired then. I wonder if that carried through to bedtime. That would explain today. Just not sure about the rest of the week.

Thank you for your replys ladies. Muchly appreciated

Sorry to hear you are having a tough time. It took us a long time to work out that our LO wasn't going to sleep because he hated sleeping bags! As soon as we switched to a duvet, he started sleeping much better. Could it be something like that?

Thank you. I told him earlier that we were going to move his bedtime to 7.30 unless he seemed tired. And as bedtime hour on cbeebies finished he started doing his tired wave. So I'm not sure if I should keep him up a while longer or take him up now. He isn't having a bath tonight as OH is at work and I can't do it on my own.

If he doesn't sleep I will try him without his sleeping bag. I feel like such a rubbish parent, I'm his mother I should know what he wants and needs. But I can't figure it out.

I dont know much about your son so im going to try some ideas. From previous threads i see your son is 13months, i found on occasion my son slept worse when he was too warm/cold, i used to put him in a romper in his sleeping bag as he liked the comfort of the bag but with full pj's he got too warm. Does he like lullabyes? perhaps try some soothing music and see if that helps. My son is going through a phase where some nights he will fall asleep on me downstairs and so i take him up to bed and other nights (like last night) he isn't interested and wants to be in bed to fall asleep.

Dont feel bad for getting annoyed, i've spoke harshly to my son many a nights when he's woke me 2 and 3 times in 1 night, is it frustrating when you dont know what they do/dont wnat, what is/isn't wrong. Parenting is very hard, no manual could ever prepare you for it as all children are so different. Its draining both mentally and emotionally. Not knowing what he needs does NOT make you a rubbish parent by any means hun, it just means you are tired, but by asking for help, thats a positive step. It may be he is teething, and uncomfortable? I use and swear by anbesol - i've been known to use it if my lad wakes at night and i cant figure out whats wrong and usually it works!!! 1 application wont harm and if it is that, the anaesthetic properties take away the discomfort. Does he have a comforter of any kind? My son wont sleep without his, if he wakes and can't find it he frets... Maybe a t-shirt with your scent on it?

Good luck hun xxx

One other thing, you say you still bf, have you tried expressing or even slowly changing to cows milk? It would help take the pressure off you aswell and also, it may be one change he is waiting for?

Hope I may have helped in a small way xxx

*hugs* I know how you feel hun, as my LO has been a total sleep terror this past week and has been taking 30-45mins to fall asleep and just screams if i leave the room.. so like you i've to sit there while she's messes around.

The night before last she decided she would go to sleep 5hrs after her nap, so last night i put her down after 4hr 45mins, and she then decided she'd play around and finally fell asleep after nearly 6hrs after her nap.

It's SO frustrating!. x