Dont even no where to start!
Why did nobody say it was going to be thus difficult! My oh just came home for lunch to find me sobbing in front the fire cos I can't do this any more.
Went to the local church today for an Easter egg hunt and my ds was having none of it, in the middle if the church, boots thrown off in the craze,lying flat out kicking and screaming! Think thats what has pushed me over the edge today!
He'll be 2 in 14 days and still doesn't speak which is frustrating him and me. Most of th time I can guess what he's wanting or trying to tell me but when we're out the house I hav no idea. So when we're out in public and he's screaming I have no idea why,it's just beginning to get me down,it's taking the enjoyment out of going places not to mention embarrassing I must look like such a terrible mother.
Another thing is my husband saying its ok he's only little he'll grow out of it! Doesn't bloody help me with the here and now. He says don't get upset I know what it's like. But with all due respect he has no sodding idea,he's out working at least 6 days a week,he as no idea how much hard work he can be at times!
I'm just fed up always trying to do my best for him all th time and the thanks I get is a child that's a nightmare!
Sorry for my rather long post but I just needed to get it out!

I know it doesn't help you with the hear and now but it does get easier. I can understand where you are coming from though as my DS has had me reduced to tears on many occasions and even had me considering sending him away as i just couldn't cope.

TBH i'm not really sure what got me through each day. I think i just lived for those times when he was really good and a joy to be with and then after a while i realised they were getting more and more common. I still have days when i can't cope but i find that they are infrequent enough that i can just about get through them and DS is at an age that if he's really that bad i ask him to go to his room and play for a little while and i grab myself a hot cuppa.

Ah bless. You're just having a rough day. Have a good nights sleep.or an afternoon nap, being well rested does amazing things for our state of mind. Look online at a few "how to deal with tantrum" pages and having a game plan will help you stay centred during a tantrum rather than getting frazzled you'll start applying your anti-tantrum techniques.

Eva has taken to lying down during a tantrum now. When I'm out in public I allow her to do so and as people walk past I just smile then shrug and say "don't mind us just throwing a tantrum" then the person usually has a bit of a laugh with me and continue you on their merry way.

You'll be fine, it was just today that sucked.

not sure how what to suggest on the tantrum front but on the speaking/communication side have you tried sign language at all? there are various books and websites of the proper signs but you can make them up yourself as well!

we've not done a massive amount with our LO but she does have a few and meant she could tell us when she wanted a drink or something to eat or milk before she was able to uses the words. and even though she can say milk now if she's over tired and starting to have a strop she'll sign milk rather than saying it!

might only be a small step but if frustration around communication is causing a lot of the tantrums it might help!

also we've found that if LO is getting upset and we have some idea of what is wrong, repeating back to her the problem "emily tired, emily want milk" sometimes multiple times it works wonders to calm her down - think it is the acknowledgement that we understand what she is telling her and we've identified the problem that helps! obviously difficult if you don;t know what the problem is although we've generally found going through the list of usual suspects is more effective thansaying things like "what's wrong, what do you want"

as for OH (or mother, MIL, well meaning friends...) saying "he'll grow out it" comments like that make me just want to hit said person......

ugh i have these days/weeks too when you can do no right!!

have a large glass of vino girl
x

I have these days more often than I like to admit. Being a Mother is soooo very hard. No man, except maybe a single dad or a SAHD would know what we go through, and still then, children act differently with a mom and a dad.

With the tantrums in public. She tends to sit on the ground or lie on the ground and scream bloody murder. I let her. I stand and ignore her. When she is done screaming I asked if she is finished and would like mommy to help her up, and each time she has said yes. Like the other day we were at the grocery. She threw something on the ground, I took her out of buggy and told her, "We dont throw, now we pick things up that we throw." and put her down and told her to pick it up. She didn't want to so threw herself on the ground. Once she was done she picked it up and put it In the buggy and it was over.

What I found that helps, since we don't get many breaks, is that I go ut with a friend that has a toddler around the same age. And believe it or not, both of our toddlers are rather difficult especially in public. Shell laugh when Alexa misbehaves and then I'll laugh when hers does. It gives us that sense that we aren't alone and we know exactly what they're going through. Though today was a head ache, it wasn't as difficult with a friend.

I hope it gets better for you, some days I can't believe that it ever will get easy.. Especially since number two is on the way. Lol. Oh my.

This is so true. I have a close friend whose little boy is 4 days younger than Tom and he can be a total nightmare in public too. We meet up every Friday pm and compare notes about how many screaming fits they're had each week! It does really help to know you're not alone

Lucy reduces me to tears at some point most days at the moment.... she is naughty, defiant, stroppy and don't get me started on the tantrums! I am trying to put my emotions down to pregnancy hormones... but omg, sometimes, it all gets too much. I'm very lucky that hubby does alot and can see when I'm loosing it.

I can't imagine having 2... what have I let myself in for?

Thank you ladies for your replies,was having a very rough day and it helped to know I'm not the only that is reduced to tears!!

We seem to be getting into the tantrum days... Erin will scream and screech like somebody is killing her. When i simply took her to the shop and she didnt feel like going... I went the other day and she started and after far too many disapproving stares or comments like "Your baby needs gloves on" She is under a blanket... "Your baby is hungry" She literally just had breakfast 15 minutes ago... We went home People really have no idea! Their comments tend to just make us feel worse. I didnt get to buy anything and i ended up carrying her while she continued to scream and dragging the push chair behind me.

It seems the frustration is often down to communication. My LO doesnt talk either so its really hard to know what she wants when we're out. They will all talk when they're ready though!

I hope youre feeling better! It happens to the best of us more frequently than we'd like