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Old Jul 5th, 2016, 10:59 AM   11
WishnandHopn
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Hey ladies, I haven't been trying nearly as long as you two but I'm having a hard time with it. I'm on cycle 9 now and kind of feel like I'm in no man's land. It's been longer than what's considered truly "normal" (over 80% of women would be pregnant by now) but not long enough to get testing done.

I worry it will never happen and we will be facing IUI/IVF or adoption, but then I feel like those worries aren't legitimate because it hasn't been long enough to truly worry about it.

It just sucks. I always thought I would be a mother one day. It wasn't even a question. Now I worry it may not happen for me at all
I'm right there with you...I go between being hopeful and telling myself it hasn't been that long and it will happen eventually...and then feeling completely hopeless and that we will never get pregnant. Since I'm over 35 and we've been trying for more than 6 months we qualify for a referral to a fertility specialist. I going to ask my doctor for it when I see him one week from today... I'm pretty freaked out to go down that road.

I did the math and figured out that my parents conceived me (their first) 1 year and 7 months after they got married. Same with DH's parents. So 7 months TTC isn't that long (or so I tell myself).



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2016, 11:31 AM   12
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It's just so frustrating when you're waiting and you don't really know what's going to happen! And I don't think it matters how long it takes, when it's something you want so badly and it doesn't seem to be happening it just feels like forever



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2016, 11:44 AM   13
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Wishn I be freaked out to get testing done too! We are under 35 so are going to wait a bit longer. If I'm not pregnant by the end of September then we'll go.

DH and I have been making a ton of lifestyle changes, but it can take some time for those to have an effect!

I hope your testing goes well. I know some ladies who went on meds and got a bfp right away, so some of the more invasive testing didn't need to be done

Mrs.Beany I think you are totally right. The worst part of ttc is that you don't know how long you will be in it for. Once you are on the other side and have a bfp it must be easier to look back on it all



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2016, 12:16 PM   14
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Thanks Belle. I am trying to mentally prepare myself for the testing. I have a fairly regular cycle and I ovulate on my own so I'm not sure what the 'easier' less invasive things like clomid or femara could do for me. But I guess they can improve egg quality or 'weak' ovulation, right? My worst fear is that both my tubes are blocked and we have to go straight to IVF. Although the success rates for IVF are generally much better than IUI, so maybe that wouldn't be the end of the world.

The waiting...the what ifs....sure wish I had a crystal ball!



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2016, 12:49 PM   15
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I'm with you on that Wishn. I've said so many times to DH that if I knew we definitely could conceive then I wouldn't worry so much about when (yeah right, who am I kidding!) because I knew it would happen! I've also talked myself out of taking pregnancy tests on a few occasions because I just can't face being told "no" over and over again. I think ttc is making me a little bit crazy!



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2016, 12:57 PM   16
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There is no way we could afford IVF, so that's my worst fear. I'm not sure I want to adopt although I know it's a great option for many! I'm just not at a place yet where I can give up wanting a biological child. So knowing that, it wouldn't be right to pursue adoption right now. I would have to make peace with myself first

But Wishn I know there are meds like metformin that are given to stabilize hormones and some people are low on progesterone which can make it hard to get/keep a pregnancy and there are things you can take for that! So it's not just egg quality they would look at

But I hear your frustration, I O regularly and have very regular cycles (albeit on the shorter side 25-27 days). So I wonder why it hasn't happened yet



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2016, 12:59 PM   17
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I'm with you on that Wishn. I've said so many times to DH that if I knew we definitely could conceive then I wouldn't worry so much about when (yeah right, who am I kidding!) because I knew it would happen! I've also talked myself out of taking pregnancy tests on a few occasions because I just can't face being told "no" over and over again. I think ttc is making me a little bit crazy!
So true!!! I can't stand taking pregnancy tests! I've promised myself not to take another until AF is late because I can't handle the disappointment.

I also would feel better knowing i would have a positive outcome eventually



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2016, 14:48 PM   18
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I'm not sure I'll ever really be able to give up on the idea that I might get pregnant, as stupid as it sounds, I think even if I had a total hysterectomy I'd still be thinking "well, what if..."! Although if (when, think positive!) I do ever get pregnant I'm not sure I'll believe that either



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2016, 18:21 PM   19
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MrsBean I'm not sure I'll believe a positive pregnancy test either.

It seems so unattainable right now. Like all the women in my life get to be part of this secret club and I don't get to join.

A friend of mine (who doesn't know we're trying) just posted some obnoxious posts on my Facebook page about how it's time for me to start trying for a baby. My cousin also just have birth to her beautiful baby boy today. So that post from my friend stings doubly hard.



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2016, 20:16 PM   20
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Hi ladies, it is always helpful to read other people's stories. I've been off bc for 18 months, though have been ntnp for the last 6 months. The stress was getting to be too much, and I'm back in school graduating next May so took a bit of a break and after one month of avoiding the "fertile" week realized I shouldn't take away any chances!

We actually have an appt with an OB/GYN who specializes in infertility...I'm really hoping it is something "simple" that we can fix with diet, supplements or even medication.

I've always thought I would lean more towards adoption than IVF, but after realizing the costs here are similar, and IVF is at least partially covered by insurance financially that may be a better way to go. Though, getting ahead of myself even thinking about it, but how can I not?

Baby dust to you each of you, stay positive!



 
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