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Old Aug 5th, 2016, 00:51 AM   11
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We saw the fertility specialist last cycle and he lost all our test results (DH's SA, my progesterone and other hormone testing). He was pretty useless.
I highly recommend you find a specialist who you feel is competent and sensitive to your personal TTC concerns. I found the doctors really make the journey more bearable if they are on the same page as you. If you don't feel confident in them, how are you meant to come away hopeful of that BFP?



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2016, 02:10 AM   12
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Hope you don't mind if I follow your and everyone else's journey here. Though I am way behind you guys, I would not be surprised at all if in a few months I am writing a similar story to what you have described. Been trying for 10 months and was diagnosed with pcos last month. Started Clomid 50mg this cycle. The complication I have is that I had to have a total colectomy a coupe of years ago and one of the potential risk sis that the scar tissue formed can cause infertility. My biggest fear is that that is what I currently have though my gynae insists on first doing 6 months of clomid before he even tests for the scar tissue. Time feels like it is dragging so slowly and its only my first month of fertility treatment!

Our medical aid doesn't pay for any fertility treatment so the way forward is going to be a very expensive one for us



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2016, 08:04 AM   13
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I would be more then happy for you to join me. I remember you from my forum last year after my MMC I was in TTC after loss. I moved out of that forum now because I felt as though it was more like a race to who can become pregnant again faster then anyone else. didn't help much.

Have they done any further blood test on you like thyroid, clotting disorders or are you seeing a specialist?

there has to be a reason for not being able to carry and im sure there is a plan that will work for you. Best of luck on your journey.

what are your plans for TTC this go round?


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I'd love to journey with you. Ive been TTC since July 2014, and have lost 3 babies along the way And I totally get the feeling of everyone around you getting pregnant/having their babies and wondering when it will be your turn. So frustrating. :/

The doctors know the reason for my first two losses (incompetent cervix) but not for the most recent one. And I also had no problem conceiving my first (happened the first month) but since then it's gotten harder and harder. I'm on my 3rd cycle trying since my MMC in April and I'm pretty sure af will be here Sunday. Have a few different things I want to try for next month.



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2016, 08:37 AM   14
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Yeah, and I feel like groups get so big sometimes, I don't remember everyone and their story.

With incompetent cervix, as baby grows and puts on weight, my cervix will just start to open and baby comes unexpectedly. There is something they can do for that (cerclage to sew the cervix shut) but they didn't realize that's what was happening until I lost my second baby. The babies were perfectly healthy, my body just couldn't hold them in. With my most recent loss, they didn't find a reason. I should have been 9 weeks but baby stopped growing at 6. They did some blood tests after but everything was normal.



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2016, 08:45 AM   15
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Hello Sarah and welcome. yes I remember. And thanks for joining. I think 10 months is long enough to compare for most get BFP within 6 months. that disappointment month after month is emotionally draining. Did you have to see a specialist for the Lupus like marenal Fetal or Hematologist? I was told I have anti-phospholipid syndrome and according to my DR. its just as similar. I go to my hematologist today. Im nervous because every Dr. I see its like bad news for me. but trying to stay positive. I was told I may need low dose aspirin (81mg) and Heparin shots. I also read a lot on it and it helps with Lupus patients to start before TTC.

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I'd love to join too. Iloveme, we chatted in another thread a while ago.

I'm not as far into TTC as you all are, but I feel like that could be our journey could follow where you all are now.

DH and I have been trying for almost 10 months now. I have PCOS and Lupus and as far as we know DH is healthy although he thinks he might have a varicocele. I went to my GP at 7 months of TTC and he prescribed Metformin and referred us to a fertility clinic. In the month before our appointment I got a BFP! But lost it at 5 weeks. We saw the fertility specialist last cycle and he lost all our test results (DH's SA, my progesterone and other hormone testing). He was pretty useless. But I don't seem to have ovulated this cycle so we will see what happens. I'm currently waiting for my ultrasound appointment and then we will see the fertility specialist again. If we have no luck then, we'll get a second opinion.

Emotionally, I wasn't expecting it to be so tough to TTC. Like you said, everyone else seems to be announcing their pregnancy and it seems so easy for everyone else.



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2016, 08:59 AM   16
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LOl I love that reference its the cutest thing. Boy/Girl its definitely a blessing. And if you don't mind I would love for you to share even after pics of your little ones. I think it will help sharing for myself and others that it can happen no matter your journey and never give up.

this by far is the closest ive gotten on BnB to others who understand, I felt other forums were very competitive instead of helpful. DH didn't want me on the forum during my TWW because he felt I would be jinxing myself, but its hard not talking to anyone at all but him lol. I mean he is a man and its girly stuff he would just say "oh okay" to everything.

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ILoveme29 - I am having girl/boy twins, one of each. The soda pop reference was from my 20 week scan when the doctor told me they weighed approx. 11 oz. each which was where they wanted them to be at the time, about the size of a soda can. I thought it was a cute/funny reference so it's my nickname for them. (Although as of my last scan they are twice that size. )

I'm glad your mom is such a support for you. Both my parents have been with me on every step of the journey, but even they sometimes fail to really understand because they had no trouble conceiving me or my siblings. I couldn't even bring myself to join BnB until I was near 20 weeks cause I've kept worrying something would go wrong. However, it's been very nice and normalizing speaking with people who really and truly understand what I'm feeling because many have been through the same. I don't have to justify or try to explain my feelings because many women here just get it.

as far as the testing issue. I know about wasted time. I feel you know your body and if your paying why not just do what's asked. you shouldnt have to go months of no progress and the DR. not trying to see the real issues. I feel like they want to just collect the money at that point. How about this one, my second RE tested me for APS and my results were abnormal and never bothered to address it. that was November of last year. OOh was I so ever angry when my Current RE told me that. she was even upset that they continued without giving me proper care. If I could only SUE I would

It's good that your new RE is checking you over before making any decisions. One of the issues I had at the start was that I'd asked questions about testing for issues (I'd done my research prior to TTC) but they shot me down claiming I didn't need them as I had no known issues. Several thousands of dollars wasted and the tests that I had asked for were done by my fertility specialists and a problem (the thyroid issue) was found after all. I was rather angry that I had been dismissed in the first place. I may have conceived sooner had they done as I asked. When in doubt, demand information and attention to your concerns!



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2016, 09:29 AM   17
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Welcome Aphy and thank you for joining . hopefully you don't have to have a long journey but 10 months is long enough. if you had it a couple of years ago, why would your GYN want to wait 6 more months. Is there a way you can see a specialist instead of GYN. I find that most GYN do the same thing try 3 to 6 months and then send you to a specialist that sucks. did you have a HSG done? and have you checked to see if you O on your own or are you being monitored?

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Hope you don't mind if I follow your and everyone else's journey here. Though I am way behind you guys, I would not be surprised at all if in a few months I am writing a similar story to what you have described. Been trying for 10 months and was diagnosed with pcos last month. Started Clomid 50mg this cycle. The complication I have is that I had to have a total colectomy a coupe of years ago and one of the potential risk sis that the scar tissue formed can cause infertility. My biggest fear is that that is what I currently have though my gynae insists on first doing 6 months of clomid before he even tests for the scar tissue. Time feels like it is dragging so slowly and its only my first month of fertility treatment!

Our medical aid doesn't pay for any fertility treatment so the way forward is going to be a very expensive one for us



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2016, 09:42 AM   18
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Im so sorry @Tcinks, do you plan on trying the sew. if so would you have to have a C section? and do they open it back up? sorry for the questions I just never knew exactly the process for your diagnosis. And do you have to take any meds are are you able to get pregnant naturally?

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Yeah, and I feel like groups get so big sometimes, I don't remember everyone and their story.

With incompetent cervix, as baby grows and puts on weight, my cervix will just start to open and baby comes unexpectedly. There is something they can do for that (cerclage to sew the cervix shut) but they didn't realize that's what was happening until I lost my second baby. The babies were perfectly healthy, my body just couldn't hold them in. With my most recent loss, they didn't find a reason. I should have been 9 weeks but baby stopped growing at 6. They did some blood tests after but everything was normal.



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2016, 09:50 AM   19
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AFM- after my Breakdown at work yesterday I went and spent some time with my mom and the rest of my family. My mom gave me some money for a new TV, lol yes guys Im spoiled . But it helped me take my mind off of things.

On top of that I got the Okay from my RE to see a different hematologist then she recommended, which took a lot of weight off my shoulders as I would have needed all these referrals just to start. I will be seeing this Dr. today and hopefully my RE again after so I can still get a chance to try this month. I will update the outcome of that visit.

I also had a HSG done on the 18th of July which came back all clear, But I bled for about two weeks after. Im confused right now if it was AF or just bleeding from HSG at this point I have no clue where I am this cycle. I wanted to try and track O on my own this month but im not too good at it.

Im currently taking Metformin 1,000mg twice daily along with geritol multi-vitamins.



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2016, 10:05 AM   20
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So nice of your mom And also helpful that she has had struggles and understands what you're going through. My mom and sisters have had no problems, so I'm just the odd one out :/
Glad you get to see another hematologist, keep us updated on the appointments!!

Yes, when I get pregnant again and reach 2nd trimester I will get a cerclage. And they can just take it right out as I get closer to delivery so I wouldn't need a c section. I get pregnant on my own, but it has been getting more difficult. I have fibroids, which my doctors all say isn't a problem, but I can't help but think they contribute somehow . So I've started taking Serrapeptase, which I've been doing a lot of reading on, and it says it can help in getting rid of fibroids! (In addition to lots of other benefits) It's a Natural enzyme. And I also started Maca and am having DH try it too. I used to be able to tell when I'm ovulating but lately that hasn't been the case, so hopefully Maca can help with that.



 
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