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Old May 16th, 2017, 08:23 AM   541
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sorry to hear that

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haha, men, right? I'm glad you and hubby had a chance to talk things out With my irregular cycles, we just have a "every 2nd day" system now, it's working pretty well for us so far. Maybe just tell him "next week is a good week" or something?



 
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Old May 16th, 2017, 21:02 PM   542
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Haha men are so delicate sometimes :P Lucky they have us strong women to worry about the things that actually have to happen

My temp went up a bit more today, yay. My LP is looking pretty good! Boobs still arent sore though! Usually they are sore from 3dpo. Hoping thats a good sign.



 
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Old May 18th, 2017, 04:45 AM   543
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Hi Everyone
So I have a slightly off topic question for everyone. One of my best friends has also been trying to have a baby for a few years and has just been though IVF sadly it was a failed IVF. We just found out yesterday that another girl we know is pregnant and fell pregnant the same week my friend had her insemination. My friend is very upset and I obvious see why (this other girl already has 2 of her own children and one step child making my friend even more bitter) any way this all got me thinking yesterday if and when it does happen for me if it was before her how would I break the news to her? She always says she will be so happy and excited etc for me, and I am sure she would, but I also know the devastation you feel for yourself when its not you. I am wondering what is the kindest way to tell other people you are pregnant? I would want to scream it from the rooftops but as I have been in the position of wanting to cry but having to smile when others have told me in person I feel I would possibly tell her via text or phone, but then is that rude as she is such a close friend? I just personally prefer a little privacy to react alone before I can get my emotions in order and then be really happy for the people when I see them but I could be wrong? What are your opinions? XX



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Old May 18th, 2017, 05:17 AM   544
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Hopeful that is such a tough one. I feel like if it finally happens for me, I'll keep it fairly quiet until it becomes glaringly obvious because I'd be so terrified that something could still go wrong. Also, none of my friends are in a position to want to TTC yet anyway so I wouldn't have to worry about upsetting anyone.

Like you, I prefer to be able to react however I want without the pressure of having to put on a face in front of other people. DH's friend recently announced (by text) that his girlfriend of a few months was pregnant and I just went into the bedroom and sobbed.

I'm really struggling to work out what's best in this situation. I think as she is one of your best friends, telling her in person would be favourable. As long as long it was in the privacy of one of your homes and she (and probably you too!) could cry and do whatever they wanted to. I feel as though if it were to be done by text she would immediately know that you felt apprehensive about saying it, and then probably feel guilty that you feel that way.

I know that was really rambly, I keep coming up with different answers and then deleting them! Looking forward to reading what others have to say! x



 
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Old May 18th, 2017, 06:56 AM   545
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I think it's really nice that you're giving it this much thought Have you considered simply asking your friend how she would best like to be told? That way you can know *before* you are pregnant and she can let you know what would be best for her. To make it fair, you could both talk about how you should tell the other one when one of you is pregnant. Even if she doesn't know what way would make it easiest for her to hear, at least by asking her, you are showing that you care about her and don't want to upset her, I think



 
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Old May 18th, 2017, 07:20 AM   546
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Okay, I definitely agree with Fluffy after reading her post!



 
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Old May 19th, 2017, 02:00 AM   547
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Hopeful, I've been on the other side of this recently actually. My ex SIL, (still a close friend) is pregnant with her 2nd and I was the last to find out because she was worried about telling me. Ended up telling me over email last minute before she told her work.

It actually ended up hurting my feelings more that she felt she had to hide it. But everyone is different. My only tip would be to make sure they don't feel like they are the last to find out!



 
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Old May 19th, 2017, 05:43 AM   548
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Thanks Steph, Fluffy & Sheece. I think thats a good idea Fluffy I will speak to her tomorrow when I see her. I defiantly wont be able to wait long to tell her, and I know what you mean Sheece as much as it hurts I love hearing people are pregnant but I like to hear it in privacy tbh. I love the big reveal and the happy faces etc but recently for me I am having to put a lot of that on until latter when I have pulled myself together then it is really real and I am happy and excited for the parents to be
I was having a little think about it wall while waiting at the dentist (horrible wait!) and I currently know 7 pregnant people! How is that possible is there something in the water? If so please can I have some!!
Have a lovely weekend ladies xx



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Old May 19th, 2017, 20:17 PM   549
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Umm guys...



😲 10dpo. Conceived on cd51 last cycle before iui im in shock



 
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Old May 19th, 2017, 20:27 PM   550
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Congrats!!! Oh that's so exciting!!!



 
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