Letting infertility get me down is not helping me. It's not going to make me conceive. It won't make me feel better. It won't help my marriage. All it will help me do, is stay miserable. And I don't want that. It's not healthy.

So I have decided to just accept it for what it is. It hasn't happened yet, but that doesn't mean it never will. Maybe some of you aren't Christians (and that's fine), but I have decided to give this one to God. I trust that He hasn't allowed me to have a baby yet for a reason. Maybe there's a few more things that need to happen in my life before I have a baby. I may not know what they are, and maybe I am not supposed to know. Maybe I am just supposed to let those things happen on their own.

I've lost my faith over the last year and a half, and maybe this is what I needed to get myself back on track. I've been reading older blogs from my faithful days, and honestly I was a much happier person back then. Reading them (the blog posts) made me wonder what happened to me.

Anyway, I just needed to vent... and for once, it wasn't negative!

good for you! very inspiring!

sounds like a good plan, we have only been trying for 3 months this well be our 4th month....and im just going to relax this month, no symptom spotting,no opks just relaxing.....cause after only 3 months it was totally overtaking my life and stressing me out.....so im going to try and let it just happen on its own. good luck to you!!!!

Thanks and good luck to both of you ladies!

Good for you It is so easy to let it take over your life. I think it is ok to have down days, we all have them, but being down all the time isn't good. I'm not religious myself but I also believe that things will work themselves out when they are meant to. It's taken a long time to get to this point though, the last couple of years have been tough. But I've learnt we can't put our lives on hold when we don't know how long it's going to take. Of course we can't be positive every single minute of every single day but it's nicer to feel positive than it is negative I sometimes catch myself thinking, oh it's never going to happen, but now I've started reminding myself of all the success stories I've read on here and there's nothing to say that won't be me in the future.

Good luck to all x

Hey! I am struggling but trying to have the same mindset as you. Keep telling myself that it just isn't our time yet. I have been ttc for a year now how about you?

Good on u! It's making me a crazy woman too... I hope this makes your life less stressful xxx

We've been trying for about 11 months, so pretty close to you. I guess it really hasn't been that long, compared to some people who've been trying for 4 years. But it's long enough to feel like it's never going to happen...long enough to have some concern that something might actually be wrong with you (or DH). You can send a message my way some time if you really just need to vent, because I am sure that since we've been trying just about as equally long as one another that we would really understand how one other feels (minus some things here and there). Good luck trying to keep a positive outlook, and actually getting preggers!

Lovely to hear the positivity. Hope it all works out for you.

Good to see you're seeing the effect on the rest of your life, if you lose everything else you'll spoil what you're working for.

Good luck.x

I feel you! We've been trying for just over a year and I let it consume me for the better part of our TTC journey. But im fed up with being stressed about it and being upset when I hear other people close to me are pregnant. Have you thought about doing any testing? My DH went in for a sperm analysis and we found out he has low sperm motility and morphology. Everything checked out fine with me. We now know why it's taken us longer than normal. We're keeping our fingers crossed that we'll get our positive soon, but in the mean time im staying positive and working on a better me.