"Just relax and it will happen" - Sure?

RoosterBebe · Mar 17th, 2012, 17:28 PM

People around me that know we are TTC always say “don’t think about it and it will happen”, “relax about it” … “don’t focus on getting pregnant”. Easier said than done. If one more person tells me to “just relax” I will go crazy. Just because my mother got pregnant in like a minute with me, and my sister in law has 2 kids, I feel like they don’t know what I’m going through. They tell me I shouldn’t bother testing until I’m at least a week late. Seriously?! I mean …..I can barely wait till 9 DPO and run to buy a FRER. My sister in law gave me a very strange look when I said that I’m using OPK, followed by a comment that we don’t need OPK; we just need to BD more often. Really?!
Anyone else have the same issue?

AS116 · Mar 17th, 2012, 18:12 PM

YES! My sister told me:

"Relax, just keep doing it every other day."

STFU!

eebee · Mar 17th, 2012, 18:50 PM

This is why I'm so glad that very few people know that we are really trying.

Magan85 · Mar 17th, 2012, 19:14 PM

oh I feel ya!! We made the mistake of telling our families at Christmas time that we were trying... we had been trying since October so we didnt think it would take this long.. now EVERYONE asks when I see them if we are pregnant yet

Nope "well stop trying it will happen".. ya ok!!! Wish it was as easy for me as everyone else around me! My mom also told me I didnt need OPK's with a funny look..

markswife10 · Mar 17th, 2012, 19:43 PM

I hate when people tell us that. They just need to realize that it comes easier for some people than others. Yeah, if it was as easy as "relax" I'd have been pregnant when we first started NTNP... we weren't worried about it at all then. And then last month I didn't temp, OPK, or anything else, just had fun... Yeah, here I am cycle # 10. I wish it was that easy!

jessandaj · Mar 18th, 2012, 01:28 AM

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Originally Posted by RoosterBebe

People around me that know we are TTC always say “don’t think about it and it will happen”, “relax about it” … “don’t focus on getting pregnant”. Easier said than done. If one more person tells me to “just relax” I will go crazy. Just because my mother got pregnant in like a minute with me, and my sister in law has 2 kids, I feel like they don’t know what I’m going through. They tell me I shouldn’t bother testing until I’m at least a week late. Seriously?! I mean …..I can barely wait till 9 DPO and run to buy a FRER. My sister in law gave me a very strange look when I said that I’m using OPK, followed by a comment that we don’t need OPK; we just need to BD more often. Really?!
Anyone else have the same issue?

Yes people are always saying its gunna happen just wait or dont think about it everyone gets pregnant when they stop thinking about it, well if they were able to stop thinking about it then they must not have actually wanted it that bad because i cant stop i cant i have tried, its hard enough for me to take a opk break to try and reliave some stress from it all. It makes me mad when people who have never really tried try and give advice its like someone trying to tell you how to buy a house when they have never bought one its like no you dont know how to try you never have.

piya · Mar 18th, 2012, 02:07 AM

hope they were true for us too.. relax !!!how the hell we can be !! Try to be busy--surely to avoid thinking of our ttc plan going on..
BABY DUST............................

tnguyen916 · Mar 18th, 2012, 02:44 AM

YES...I know how you feel! I hate it when people tell me to not stress..b/c its stressing me out more when people tell me not to stress..LOL...

I just feel that people who are not in my position should not give advice about TTC. If I would have taken there advice about just relaxing.. then I would be waiting for a very LONG time...ad I just recently found out that my tubes were blocked (just had an HSG done last thurs). The dr thinks the HSG actually cleared my right tube (took awhile for dye to enter the tube and he put more pressure on the dye and it finally went through w dye spillage...but my left tube is def blocked (closest to my left ovary) as its dilated and no dye spillage. I also think the HSG cleared something b/c a few hours after the exam I had a huge glob inside me which I had to pull out which kinda looks like a mucous plug...

But at least now I know there was an actual physical problem...me relaxing and not stressing about TTC would not magically unblock my tubes...

hopingforit · Mar 18th, 2012, 09:16 AM

My DH used to say that to me all the time before we reached the one year mark. I swear I flipped out on him every single time but he never got the hint until one day when I really let him have it. I haven't told anyone else except my mother that we are TTC so no one really says that to me. If someone told me OPKs aren't useful, I'd be so mad. Once I get a positive on the OPK, I know that in 12 days AF is going to start. Sometimes it goes into 13DPO but just the morning so OPKs are very useful for me. I am a POAS addict and if I don't know when AF is coming, I start testing at like 4DPO...LOL

mptyler · Mar 18th, 2012, 09:35 AM

Hi all! I'm new to this but YES I am also SOOOOO OVER HEARING THAT!! GRRRR!! 'Oh it'll happen when you least expect it' or 'Try not to think about it and it'll be'.

I'm 13 DPO, got a BFN this morning

. AF is due in 2 days. Had some cramps today and felt like she was here, but when I'd check she wasn't there. Just keeping my fingers crossed but I really don't think it'll happen...again.

Good luck to all!

Mar 17th, 2012, 17:28 PM	#1
RoosterBebe Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 164	"Just relax and it will happen" - Sure? People around me that know we are TTC always say “don’t think about it and it will happen”, “relax about it” … “don’t focus on getting pregnant”. Easier said than done. If one more person tells me to “just relax” I will go crazy. Just because my mother got pregnant in like a minute with me, and my sister in law has 2 kids, I feel like they don’t know what I’m going through. They tell me I shouldn’t bother testing until I’m at least a week late. Seriously?! I mean …..I can barely wait till 9 DPO and run to buy a FRER. My sister in law gave me a very strange look when I said that I’m using OPK, followed by a comment that we don’t need OPK; we just need to BD more often. Really?! Anyone else have the same issue?

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Mar 17th, 2012, 18:12 PM	#2
AS116 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 448	YES! My sister told me: "Relax, just keep doing it every other day." STFU!

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Mar 17th, 2012, 18:50 PM	#3
eebee Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: West coast of Scotland Posts: 235	This is why I'm so glad that very few people know that we are really trying.

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Mar 17th, 2012, 19:14 PM	#4
Magan85 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 544	oh I feel ya!! We made the mistake of telling our families at Christmas time that we were trying... we had been trying since October so we didnt think it would take this long.. now EVERYONE asks when I see them if we are pregnant yet Nope "well stop trying it will happen".. ya ok!!! Wish it was as easy for me as everyone else around me! My mom also told me I didnt need OPK's with a funny look..

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Mar 17th, 2012, 19:43 PM	#5
markswife10 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: NC Posts: 1,235	I hate when people tell us that. They just need to realize that it comes easier for some people than others. Yeah, if it was as easy as "relax" I'd have been pregnant when we first started NTNP... we weren't worried about it at all then. And then last month I didn't temp, OPK, or anything else, just had fun... Yeah, here I am cycle # 10. I wish it was that easy!

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Mar 18th, 2012, 02:07 AM	#7
piya Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 1,787	hope they were true for us too.. relax !!!how the hell we can be !! Try to be busy--surely to avoid thinking of our ttc plan going on.. BABY DUST............................

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Mar 18th, 2012, 02:44 AM	#8
tnguyen916 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Huntington Beach CA Posts: 98	YES...I know how you feel! I hate it when people tell me to not stress..b/c its stressing me out more when people tell me not to stress..LOL... I just feel that people who are not in my position should not give advice about TTC. If I would have taken there advice about just relaxing.. then I would be waiting for a very LONG time...ad I just recently found out that my tubes were blocked (just had an HSG done last thurs). The dr thinks the HSG actually cleared my right tube (took awhile for dye to enter the tube and he put more pressure on the dye and it finally went through w dye spillage...but my left tube is def blocked (closest to my left ovary) as its dilated and no dye spillage. I also think the HSG cleared something b/c a few hours after the exam I had a huge glob inside me which I had to pull out which kinda looks like a mucous plug... But at least now I know there was an actual physical problem...me relaxing and not stressing about TTC would not magically unblock my tubes...

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Mar 18th, 2012, 09:16 AM	#9
hopingforit Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: USA Posts: 1,350	My DH used to say that to me all the time before we reached the one year mark. I swear I flipped out on him every single time but he never got the hint until one day when I really let him have it. I haven't told anyone else except my mother that we are TTC so no one really says that to me. If someone told me OPKs aren't useful, I'd be so mad. Once I get a positive on the OPK, I know that in 12 days AF is going to start. Sometimes it goes into 13DPO but just the morning so OPKs are very useful for me. I am a POAS addict and if I don't know when AF is coming, I start testing at like 4DPO...LOL

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Mar 18th, 2012, 09:35 AM	#10
mptyler Trying to conceive (TTC) New BnB member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 4	Hi all! I'm new to this but YES I am also SOOOOO OVER HEARING THAT!! GRRRR!! 'Oh it'll happen when you least expect it' or 'Try not to think about it and it'll be'. I'm 13 DPO, got a BFN this morning . AF is due in 2 days. Had some cramps today and felt like she was here, but when I'd check she wasn't there. Just keeping my fingers crossed but I really don't think it'll happen...again. Good luck to all!

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