Hi Silverbell !

Great to meet you I'm so relieved to receive replies - I was beginning to feel a bit unsure after my first post.

Yes, this has been an extremely emotional rollercoaster !! One that I have to say I'm not enjoying . How do you deal with the sadness every month ? Even just in the TWW, I go a bit hoping and praying but then am thrown back to the grim reality when AF arrives.

I have a pretty regular cycle so I use the typical online ovulation calculators to check my ovulation week. I also do use an OPK just to be sure, but its always dead on - even still, no luck.

Are you mixing the preseed in the syringe as well ? Wow where did you buy the longer syringes ? I couldn't find any over the typical 4inch one, and so began using the preseed applicator itself to get higher up . I'm also lying with a pillow under my hips for 30mins afterwards just for insurance

Have you tried the softcup method ?

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Hi again!

Woo hoo, so there is hope !!

Sad to say, but we havent done it 'naturally' in a while - I think it sort of became kind of a chore which took the fun out of it. We're just using this method every month as something to hold on to. Even when we do get back to I may still try this way in between to increase the chances.

I do tell him when I ovulate, just b/c of the way the turkey baster method works - you kinda have to . My DH is not a fan of pills/vitamins and so its a struggle to get that to happen, but he has cut out caffiene lol which is a start.

I welcome all the questions/comments

You can, or you can insert the preseed first and then put the semen in the softcup and then insert that. Maybe try both ways and see which you prefer. Oh and you can leave the softcup in for up to 12 hours, I usually leave mine in from 8-10 hours.

i found the syringes on a fertlity website a while back i will try and find the link for , the 2ww is realy annoying and then when i get af get realt sad . what i find diffcult is the constant thinking about it

i havent tryed softcups but might give this a go next month, i put presseed in the syringe then insert , after that its recomended to have an orgasm as this makes the cervix dip and collect the sperm , sorry if thats tmi i try and lay down for an hour after elvated , find it realy uncomftable the firt time i ever did it, the next day i couldnt move, had to go to the doctors who told me i had pulled all the muscles in my kneck the doc asked if i had been in a car accident i didnt no what to say ? the truth being i was praticaly trying to elvate myself onto my head xx

wel, if you can get him to take ginseng and zinc, that increases their sex drive so that should help with bding!! also if you don't want to do this just try getting a supplement called l-arginine. this increases sperm count dramatically and also sex drive!! maybe thats all you guys need.

how about you don't tell him for just one month and just have normal sex every 2nd day. sometimes them knowing all the ins and outs of baby making causes them to not perform as they should.. and in all honesty, you still want to make love and not just a baby!! i mean no offence but surely you don't want to look back on the day your baby was made as doing it via this method?! sure just like you i would do ANYTHING to have a baby, its still important to connect with the one you love when making that baby!!

maybe if you guys just start having sex again and enjoy each other, it will happen automatically. i really do think thats the best way!! you are creating allot of stress for yourself by doing it this way and stressing if it will work which also is not helping to conceive... relaxing and enjoying it is key!!

i found the post of the lady that used this method and got pregnant but she also had normal sex so it could have been on a day with normal sex that they conceived and not necessarily a day she used the insemination method...

check it out...

http://www.babyandbump.com/two-week-...h-look-us.html

[/QUOTE] You can, or you can insert the preseed first and then put the semen in the softcup and then insert that. Maybe try both ways and see which you prefer. Oh and you can leave the softcup in for up to 12 hours, I usually leave mine in from 8-10 hours.[/QUOTE]

Ok great... I will definitely look into this ! Thanks so much.



Keep us posted with your updates

Yes the 2ww is the worsttttttt thing ever. Same with me, its just constantly on my mind - every little twinge or pain or anything that happens, I try to attribute as a symptom, but then end up being really depressed when I find out it was all in my head

Yes, I do also try to orgasm afterwards . OMG I thought I was the only one who found lying inverted extremely uncomfortable ! lol, I also have bad neck pains and have felt lightheaded a few times after as well Geez, the things we put ourselves through.... but hopefully all our efforts will produce a !!

Please keep me posted on your progress.... I will do the same. Still having AF right now... so not ovulating for another 10 days still. How about you - where are you on this cycle's journey ?

Have a great day

Id love to hear more about this topic.

Thanks. I will look into the supplements - hopefully I can convince him to take them; I've tried before with a B-complex but that didnt work

I know what you mean, I do often think that I dont want the baby to be conceived like this, but we so desperately want one that right now this seems like the only way. Of course I would much rather it happen naturally.... ... hopefully this month we can get back on track.

Yes, relaxation and no stress are the keys - but I cant help myself from not thinking about this 24/7. Babymaking has consumed me - its all I think about now ! I dont know how to feel calm about it all without stressing myself out

The link you posted to that other woman's thread, she BD from CD12-21, I normally do CD12-17.... maybe thats not long enough ? How about you ?

Hi Trishbenj

Basically, the turkey baster method is an at-home insemination where your partner provides his sample in a small cup and you uptake that into a needleless syringe (like an oral baby medication one) and then insert it into yourself. I've recently also tried mixing in some preseed with his sample just for an added benefit.

Here's a link that might make it clearer: http://www.babymed.com/home-artifici...-baster-method

So where are you in your journey ?