Just want to get this out. I suffer with anxiety and depression and have been on & off meds since I was 17, (I'm 27 now) I came off my medication when we started TTC 15 months ago and it was hard for me at times. I intended to go back on the medication eventually (after a baby) but then things just never happened for us and we started the basic fertility tests at 11 months.
At my DR surgery you have to see whichever DR is available so I rarely see the same one twice! The last one I saw was lovely and said he would refer us to the FS as all my tests seemed to be normal. I just had to bring OH SA results and the referral would be done then...

In the meantime I started to get more anxious and depressed as everyone around me fell pregnant except for us and I felt stressed out & hopeless I went back to the DR and explained I was struggling a bit but came off the tablets in prep for TTC and felt it would be a shame to go back on after all the hard work coming off. He assured me he would research the matter and arranged to see me a few days later. When I went back he said he had spoken to some specialists and they said Prozac is considered a safe option and he was happy to put me on this knowing we were TTC. I've been taking them about 7 weeks now but was told it takes until week 8 to kick in and benefit me.

I finally went back to the DR today & saw a different DR - I was taking OH SA results in ready to be referred! and this DR really upset me. He looked at my notes and questioned whether or not this is the right time to be TTC because of how I am feeling and going back on the tablets I told him it was not an easy decision to make (going back on medication) and partly not conceiving is linked to my state of mind so I definitely wanted to go ahead with the referral to the FS. He said he would refer me but seemed to me to be looking down on me for this decision and I felt ashamed Now all day I have felt like a bad person and am worried the FS will think the same of me I am wondering whether to just stop taking the tablets and suffer the anxiety. I feel like utter shit.

Oh, I'm sorry to read this! I hope this one experience with a negative dr will not deter you from your dreams of having a baby. hugs. I hope the fs will be more positive.

I have anxiety issues and I struggle with ttc as well, haven't been on meds in a long time but I do see a therapist once or twice a month (depending on what's going on) and I find it helps with my issues. I'm not trying to say it's best to see a therapist but it has helped me.

You know what's right for you and don't let this doctor bring you down! Especially if he or she hasn't struggled with anxiety and depression and trying to get pregnant. It's often easier for someone to judge than be understanding.

I've struggled with anxiety and depression since..well...i can remember.. so when my husband and i decided to start trying i had to get off all meds. It was extremely hard, but i thought, hey i'm doing this for a good reason right? well we haven't gotten pregnant.. i've been off my meds since dec. 2010. there have been so many times i've wanted to go to the doctor and just give up...but i can't..unlesss i know i can never be pregnant. it is really hard....i mean a normal woman going through infertility issues would be hard enough..but through in an existing problem...whew...all i know is thank god my husband is a good listener and comforting..

ERGH! your Dr. disgusts me!
I have also struggled with depression and anxiety and what your Dr. is doing is straight up discrimination! It is called a mental illness for a reason... because it is an ILLNESS! He wouldnt likely look down at a woman in a wheelchair and say "dont think I want to refer you, you know because of "the way you are"

grrrrr.... the stigma of mental illness needs to stop! sorry for the rant, but i really feel for you best of luck

Hi, I have just read your post and feel I should tell you about my experience.
I also suffer from anxiety and depression and have been to the doctor for a pre-conception check up due to my medication.
My surgery is the same as yours, you see who is available unless you are willing to wait for a specific doctor. I'm in Surrey/South London, whereabouts are you?
Luckily for me when I went last I saw a lovely doctor who came up with a plan to just reduce my meds over time as i have been assured mine are one of the safe options too. She also rang around various specialists to check if there was anything she wasn't aware of that would help me and phoned me twice at home to update me on her progress.
Her original advice was of course correct plus i've now found out that when it comes to it, if i want to breastfeed i just need to make sure not to do so until 4 hours after i've taken my medication (which is fine with me as I take it at night before bed so DH has no excuse not to do night feeds lol).
I've since had one person make me feel bad about taking my medication but as my DH keeps reminding me the lovely doctor did the research and said it was fine so to ignore this other person! Which of course is easier said then done especially on my lower dose days but i am fed up of my life being on hold for this illness so i am following medical advice and ttc anyway!
If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me as it seems we are in similar positions apart from i'm only on my first month trying. So if that puts you off talking to me I understand completely

This dr must not see many women who are ttc, your not a bad person for wanting a baby right now while having to take them it's because of the pain and stress of ttc he just doesint understand it so don't worry and im sure the FS will understand more

I'm in Wales xx My OH said the same - that one Dr has researched it and it's just a matter of this other dr's opinion but it really affected me, I guess I just have to try and put it out of my head now but like you said, easier said than done! My anxiety makes me think everyones judging me at the best of times :S I think I'll stay on for the near future and if I'm feeling up to it come off for a short time again maybe. Its difficult when dealing with this sort of thing xxxx

So true I have already had someone ask how will i cope with a baby? because i suffer anxiety?! Like i am already an incompetent mother before even having a baby. Really gets on my nerves when people judge in this way. Yes anxiety is hard to live with but when managed can be dealt with the same as any other illness! x

Thankyou, I really hope so!! xx