I know how you feel! I have been with my DH May will be our 1 year wedding anniversary, but we have been together since 9th grade! we are 22 now. We actually made a vow to each other not to have sex anymore (this was 2 years before we got married) until our wedding day so that i wouldn't have a chance of being pregnant before we got married and blah blah blah. I have never been on birth control, never drank, never smoked neither did he and we have been trying this is month #9 and we STILL aren't pregnant yet! He has a stable job, we have a house, financially stable I'm starting school in May which will be perfect for having a baby because i'll be home more then i would be if i were working and so on and so forth. Nothing. I have been hanging around this thread for a few months seen a lot of the women who were ttc with me get their bfp and i'm so happy for them, but at the same time as much as i try to push it deep down i'm jealous that it isn't me! I just want it to be my turn. I like my life by the book (well try my hardest, sometimes i slip) and I just don't get why? WHY not me? What have I done wrong? What is wrong with me? When will it be my turn? I had a very tough month last cycle and was so heartbroken that this cycle we pretty much just said we have to chill the heck out! I quit everything, but opk. My cycles were being thrown off track bad so i still wanted to make sure i ovulated on time, but other then that we arent temping, not using preseed, not using softcups, not timing sex, not having sex everyday, not anything that we were doing. We are just sitting back and relaxing. So far so good, but i haven't ovulated yet so i'll update how it turns out..
I had a emotional breakdown yesterday too One of my friends who just started to try in January is already 10 weeks pregnant!! Really?!?! i just don't understand how when you try some couples get it no questions asked i have been trying for a yr and a half with not one BFP!!
ladies I know Ive felt my share of jealousy and sadness especially when everyone else makes it look so easy and for some reason at this time of year theres always an abundance of bumps s or newborns about. Its normal to feel that way and after 14 months ntnp I think Ive got to the stage where im tryiing to have a more positive outlook that although I may want it to happen now we have more time to prepare so when people say 'oh your young' (im 20) and 'why dont you live life first' I know I am because in the meantime I can.
I can relate to all of you. I was with a guy for 7 months and played mommy #2 to his daughter. But the entire time we were together I would cry because it was constantly being thrown in my face that she wasn't mine. I wanted my own but it didn't feel like it was the right situation for me. Then he up and left me after telling me he had been unhappy for months, and I never got to see his daughter again. This was 3 years ago. In that time, my step sister has had 2 kids and given my daddy his first 2 grandchildren which crushed me...I cried so much and didn't even go to her baby showers. (not that I was invited anyway...)
Now I have a house, I havne't been with my OH for very long but everything just feels right. I've never wanted to try with anyone else besides him. He actually broke down in tears in front of me because he has wanted a family for so long and hasn't been in the right situation until now either.
My friend just found out recently that she's pregnant and had a drunken one night stand and the father is on the other side of the country and wants nothing to do with her or the baby. It angers me so much that "God" will give people like that and crack whores and everything kids but then there are women like me who would make an excellent mother and "He" is making it difficult. Last month my AF was 10 days late and I can usually predict what hour it's going to come. Got a bunch of BFN's and then went for a blood test which was also a BFN... ended up getting AF at the worst possible time ....
I keep trying to keep myself calm and know that not a lot of people get pregnant on their first cycle of trying, but I'm impatient and I want nothing more than to have a family and be a mom.
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