hi ladies. so i found out i had PCOS in 2011. it was really hard for me to go through the tests. i felt useless when i found out. me and my OH have been trying for well over a year. so when the doctor said she would refer us toa fertility clinic in december 2011 we were over the moon that we were going to get help... the appointment came and went in a blur as they wudnt help us cause we didnt live together yet. we were both heartbroken..... so since then the OH has sais he will go to the doctors to be tested incase anything is wrong with him. but the appointment has never been made. when i ask him he will say he will make it for the next day...but it never comes.
ino i have this condition and i keep blaming myself.
but i just wish he would get tested. i dont want to pressure him into it but i think for both of us he needs to find out. i no how he feels because its horrible having to wait and find out....but i think at the end of the day the quicker he finds out the quicker we can find out a way to help our situation..

ino he doesnt want to let me down...ino 100% he wont let me down.

i think we both just need to know what is going on with both of us

sorry if this is pointless...i just didnt know where elce to go

Aww I know how you feel, I was told 6 years ago I had PCOS and back then i wasnt ttc, they mentioned I might need help if i do ttc. So when I came off the pill in November I knew about the PCOS and felt useless. I was so affected by it that I offered my OH the chance to leave and find someone who could give him children..

Well that was a major over reaction.. although we wish PCOS would disappear it is not the end of the world and it doesnt mean you wont have children. Plenty of PCOS girls have babies and although they wont refer you to a fertility clinic you should speak to your GP about maybe giving you something to help regulate your cycle and make sure you are ovulating. (My GP never even asked if i was living with my partner)

Please dont feel useless. I used to think the world was over but the doctors can help

Good luck to you and your OH

i dont have pcos, but please don't blame yourself for this. it's not your choice or anything you did wrong. it's just unfortunate, but obviously it doesn't mean your time wont come. i know how stressful long term ttc can be (ive been ttc for over a year). doctors wont help either because me and oh aren't currently living together & we aren't married. it's really upsetting, but im trying to hang in there and so should you. dont give up hope or get disheartened and as i mentioned, the worst thing to do is blame yourself or consider yourself useless. you're not. one day you'll have a little bubba and realise just how great you are.

i wish i could do more to refer you to a clinic or something, but i have no personal experience with this, so it's difficult.

good luck to you and good luck your oh. baby dust to you xxx