Just need to vent

bakingbabe · Apr 15th, 2012, 18:50 PM

So my friend told me last night she is expecting her second baby. They've been trying for a while and I'm happy for them and everything but I can't help feel sad for me. Please tell me this is normal.
She knows we are trying and said she was dreading telling me because she didn't want to hurt me. I understand that and I am happy for her and I told her so. I did tell her to just give me some time and she understood that. Our friendship is ok. I came home from dinner and just bawled. I hate being in limbo with ttc and I don't know how to keep staying positive. Hubby tries to help but he's not really that good at it. I'm in the tww and I don't think it's our month but I don't know. Hubby was sick all during my o week and we only got in one good try. I keep having these awful headaches and cringing cramping once in a while. Testing or af will be here this week so at least I'll know something sometime soon. deep breaths, deep breaths, deep breaths.

bezinga · Apr 15th, 2012, 19:16 PM

Bakingbabe, my friend had a baby today and she had been trying for a while as well. I am ecstatic about the baby and I am so happy for them, but I would be lying if I said that I am a little sad that our turn hasn't come yet.. So it's normal and you are not alone...

bakingbabe · Apr 15th, 2012, 19:19 PM

Thanks, bezinga. Glad to know I'm not alone.

SunShower2685 · Apr 15th, 2012, 19:26 PM

Hi bakingbabe, what you are feeling is completely normal. My cousin just had her 4th baby on Friday. When she found out she was pregnant, she waited two months to tell me because she said she didn't want to hurt me. Of course, that hurt me worse because at the time, I was giving TTCing a break and I was trying not to even think about it. But what hurt the most, was that she told everybody else, and told them not to tell me! Do you know how I felt? I felt even more inadequate than I already did. I told her that I needed time and I got off of the phone and just cried. I was happy for her, but I just felt so helpless... I am still dealing with unexplained infertility and it is a struggle.

runner311 · Apr 15th, 2012, 19:32 PM

Funny that this forum came up.... My good friend told me a few months back that they were going to start trying for their 2nd child. My DH and I are going on our 8th month TTC with no luck. I spoke to my friend this morning and she told me that she is 10.5 weeks pregnant. I can totally relate to you. I am really happy for them but get so sad thinking that we r having trouble.

Keep your chin up, we will all get our chance at one point in time or another. It does make me sad though too, your not alone.

I cried as well, feel like a failure sometimes.

bakingbabe · Apr 15th, 2012, 20:01 PM

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Originally Posted by runner311

Funny that this forum came up.... My good friend told me a few months back that they were going to start trying for their 2nd child. My DH and I are going on our 8th month TTC with no luck. I spoke to my friend this morning and she told me that she is 10.5 weeks pregnant. I can totally relate to you. I am really happy for them but get so sad thinking that we r having trouble.

Keep your chin up, we will all get our chance at one point in time or another. It does make me sad though too, your not alone.

I cried as well, feel like a failure sometimes.

I feel like a failure as well.

You are not alone in that feeling! I'm trying to stay positive but it's so hard!! All I want is a little one to call me momma. Everytime I hear my friend's little girl call her my friend momma, my heart just melts. I want that so much.

bakingbabe · Apr 15th, 2012, 20:07 PM

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Originally Posted by SunShower2685

Hi bakingbabe, what you are feeling is completely normal. My cousin just had her 4th baby on Friday. When she found out she was pregnant, she waited two months to tell me because she said she didn't want to hurt me. Of course, that hurt me worse because at the time, I was giving TTCing a break and I was trying not to even think about it. But what hurt the most, was that she told everybody else, and told them not to tell me! Do you know how I felt? I felt even more inadequate than I already did. I told her that I needed time and I got off of the phone and just cried. I was happy for her, but I just felt so helpless... I am still dealing with unexplained infertility and it is a struggle.

OMG, I feel horrible reading that. I know she meant well but I totally understand your feelings. I know exactly how inadequate you felt. I am so sorry you had to got through that! I hope you get your bfp soon!

SunShower2685 · Apr 15th, 2012, 20:11 PM

Thanks

I will pray the same for you.

bezinga · Apr 15th, 2012, 20:13 PM

We are not failures ladies.. Just reproductively challenged at the moment. Don't beat yourselves up. Our time will come for sure.. We just gotta be patient. And when it does, it will be worth all the heart ache and pain it took us to get there.. So please don't be sad. At least we have people that love us a partners that support us.. I don't know about any of you, but DH is the one person that I can count on whenever I fall apart every cycle when the witch shows. I really want to be a mommy, but I always try to remind myself that no matter what, I at least have my husband..

runner311 · Apr 15th, 2012, 21:20 PM

Very well said! My husband is always there for me each month when I break down, so as long as I have him, my life is wonderful. Just would like to add another to our family of 2...

Apr 15th, 2012, 18:50 PM	#1
bakingbabe Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Texas Posts: 1,307	Just need to vent So my friend told me last night she is expecting her second baby. They've been trying for a while and I'm happy for them and everything but I can't help feel sad for me. Please tell me this is normal. She knows we are trying and said she was dreading telling me because she didn't want to hurt me. I understand that and I am happy for her and I told her so. I did tell her to just give me some time and she understood that. Our friendship is ok. I came home from dinner and just bawled. I hate being in limbo with ttc and I don't know how to keep staying positive. Hubby tries to help but he's not really that good at it. I'm in the tww and I don't think it's our month but I don't know. Hubby was sick all during my o week and we only got in one good try. I keep having these awful headaches and cringing cramping once in a while. Testing or af will be here this week so at least I'll know something sometime soon. deep breaths, deep breaths, deep breaths.

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Apr 15th, 2012, 19:16 PM	#2
bezinga Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 137	Bakingbabe, my friend had a baby today and she had been trying for a while as well. I am ecstatic about the baby and I am so happy for them, but I would be lying if I said that I am a little sad that our turn hasn't come yet.. So it's normal and you are not alone...

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Apr 15th, 2012, 19:19 PM	#3
bakingbabe Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Texas Posts: 1,307	Thanks, bezinga. Glad to know I'm not alone.

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Apr 15th, 2012, 19:26 PM	#4
SunShower2685 Trying to conceive (TTC) New BnB member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 3	Hi bakingbabe, what you are feeling is completely normal. My cousin just had her 4th baby on Friday. When she found out she was pregnant, she waited two months to tell me because she said she didn't want to hurt me. Of course, that hurt me worse because at the time, I was giving TTCing a break and I was trying not to even think about it. But what hurt the most, was that she told everybody else, and told them not to tell me! Do you know how I felt? I felt even more inadequate than I already did. I told her that I needed time and I got off of the phone and just cried. I was happy for her, but I just felt so helpless... I am still dealing with unexplained infertility and it is a struggle.

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Apr 15th, 2012, 19:32 PM	#5
runner311 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 311	Funny that this forum came up.... My good friend told me a few months back that they were going to start trying for their 2nd child. My DH and I are going on our 8th month TTC with no luck. I spoke to my friend this morning and she told me that she is 10.5 weeks pregnant. I can totally relate to you. I am really happy for them but get so sad thinking that we r having trouble. Keep your chin up, we will all get our chance at one point in time or another. It does make me sad though too, your not alone. I cried as well, feel like a failure sometimes.

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Apr 15th, 2012, 20:11 PM	#8
SunShower2685 Trying to conceive (TTC) New BnB member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 3	Thanks I will pray the same for you.

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Apr 15th, 2012, 20:13 PM	#9
bezinga Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 137	We are not failures ladies.. Just reproductively challenged at the moment. Don't beat yourselves up. Our time will come for sure.. We just gotta be patient. And when it does, it will be worth all the heart ache and pain it took us to get there.. So please don't be sad. At least we have people that love us a partners that support us.. I don't know about any of you, but DH is the one person that I can count on whenever I fall apart every cycle when the witch shows. I really want to be a mommy, but I always try to remind myself that no matter what, I at least have my husband..

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Apr 15th, 2012, 21:20 PM	#10
runner311 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 311	Very well said! My husband is always there for me each month when I break down, so as long as I have him, my life is wonderful. Just would like to add another to our family of 2...

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