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Old Jul 18th, 2013, 06:26 AM   31
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Welcome, Paster! Have you seen a FS (fertility specialist) yet? If not, I recommend you see one IMMEDIATELY so you can get your hormones tested. You need to know what you are up against so you know what is the best path. Getting pregnant after 40 is HARD even with assisted conception. I was 40 when I started this, and because I was healthy and had no issues (no PCOS or endo, etc), I thought I'd have an easier time of it. Nope! I'm not trying to upset you, but I want you to get the best care as soon as you can. LIE and tell your doc you've been trying for 6 months without success. Otherwise they might make you wait 6 months, and at our age, waiting 6 months is not good.

I apologize if you already know all this, but I didn't when I started, and I wish I had. GOOD LUCK AND BABY DUST!!!



 
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Old Jul 18th, 2013, 06:28 AM   32
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12 dpiui for me. AF hasn't shown yet (I usually see her on day 11), but I'm still getting a negative on a FRER. Not good news as I think most people testing early have seen something by day 12. Oh well



 
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Old Jul 18th, 2013, 09:48 AM   33
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Emmi, thank you! We will be going private but my thought is that if the NHS is refusing the funding that's because they do not believe I can conceive with IVF so a bit difficult to spend 10-15K on something that you know if unlikely to work. but I really want to try less invasive methods first like IUI.

Kat, fingers crossed! some ladies did not get positive until much later. sending you lots of baby dust



 
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Old Jul 18th, 2013, 10:24 AM   34
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Emmi, thank you! We will be going private but my thought is that if the NHS is refusing the funding that's because they do not believe I can conceive with IVF so a bit difficult to spend 10-15K on something that you know if unlikely to work. but I really want to try less invasive methods first like IUI.

Kat, fingers crossed! some ladies did not get positive until much later. sending you lots of baby dust
It's all bit of a gamble with going private - I am 42 so in the eyes of the NHS - I am too old and they kept banging on about needing a donor egg. But with the further tests and with the extra technology - going private have offered us a ray of hope - using my egg. There is only 25% chance of success and we can't afford to be losing 10,000 but we just have to give it a try!



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Old Jul 18th, 2013, 20:43 PM   35
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Welcome, Paster! Have you seen a FS (fertility specialist) yet? If not, I recommend you see one IMMEDIATELY so you can get your hormones tested. You need to know what you are up against so you know what is the best path. Getting pregnant after 40 is HARD even with assisted conception. I was 40 when I started this, and because I was healthy and had no issues (no PCOS or endo, etc), I thought I'd have an easier time of it. Nope! I'm not trying to upset you, but I want you to get the best care as soon as you can. LIE and tell your doc you've been trying for 6 months without success. Otherwise they might make you wait 6 months, and at our age, waiting 6 months is not good.

I apologize if you already know all this, but I didn't when I started, and I wish I had. GOOD LUCK AND BABY DUST!!!
I'll second that Kat! I lied! ; ) we'd been trying for 3mths when I went to the GP, & I said it had been 6mths! Bugger it! My GP was fab mind you, she had no hesitation referring me to a FS to start checking things out.

...and believe it or not- the FS although he readily did all the essential tests (AMH, antral follicle count by ultrasound, FSH, estradiol, TSH, progesterone.. Blah, blah blah..)... He did end up telling me that 12 months wasn't really a long time to be trying!! And that I should just relax & keep trying.. Maybe even take a few months off!! Can u believe it! So I ignored that advice of course ; )



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2013, 05:27 AM   36
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Shit. Got my period. I was a scant 3 hours from my beta appt, too. At least I didn't schlep all the way to the dr's office for nothing.



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2013, 05:34 AM   37
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Kat, I am very sorry about AF, it's so tough. try and concentrate on the next egg, hopefully it will be your lucky month

I am feeling rather low, just ovulated and we BD on the right day but I feel the sperm was not good enough it just did not look/feel right. I should really forget about this cycle but of course 2 weeks from now I will be in pieces. trying to get destructed by looking into private clinics and figuring out where we should go for IUI



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2013, 07:09 AM   38
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52 days until I'm 40. Just went through CP, Vanishing Twin, Missed AB and Ectopic all in one try (doc's an idiot). Going to a fertility specialist on Tuesday. Will post more later, running for last HCG now.



 
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Old Jul 20th, 2013, 14:27 PM   39
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Hi,

Im not 40 but I just wanted to tell you my supervisor had her 1st at 40 and is now pregnant with her 2nd at 42! So there is hope!

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Old Jul 20th, 2013, 15:17 PM   40
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seems like no hope for me even though I am only 37 (look more like 30) but my ovaries are more like 50 just went to a private clinic and after they looked at my FSh/AMH and the rest of it told me it is beginning of menopause and I have no time to lose if I want to use my own eggs, am so depressed. was also told that stimulated IVF wont work for me it's only natural cycle IVF. now I feel really bad that I wasted last couple of years trying to TTC naturally and improve my health with vitamins etc, nothing worked seems like my ovaries are aging so fast



 
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