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Old Apr 19th, 2018, 00:08 AM   11
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I'm 43 and we were recently discussing trying for a 3rd (had my first at almost 37 and my second at almost 40). I think I decided against it as I'm too tired lol, but I did have the same fears you do (and I had them too in my last pregnancies, which turned out fine). Statistically speaking, if you get pregnant and stay pregnant, you still have like a 97% chance that everything will be fine. Those are really good odds. My friend and my cousin both just delivered healthy, full term babies at 43. If I didn't have 2 already, I would definitely be trying for baby. No matter what age, we need to be prepared that a pregnancy or child might have complications. Strangely, I was older than many people I knew when I started my family, and I had no problems getting pregnant, no miscarriages, very easy full term pregnancies, extremely easy and short labor and vaginal births, and very healthy babies. I had many younger friends who had something go wrong. I say always be prepared that something might not go ideally, but stay optimistic and go for it!

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Old Apr 20th, 2018, 11:50 AM   12
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It's never to late. Go for it! I am 42 and I have a 21, 10, and 2 year old and we got pregnant again when my last baby was 5 months old and again in December which both ended in miscarriage. That was hard but I come to terms with it when I think about having to go through worse if the pregnancy stayed and had to do something way worse in the long run. We want another baby and have been trying since. It has got a lot harder to get pregnant since I've got older. Now I'm wondering when it's time to call it quits.

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Old Apr 21st, 2018, 00:19 AM   13
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Hello, I'm not sure how this discussion turned out (I realise it is a couple of weeks old), but I'm turning 42 this year and share you concerns. I'm on IVF cycle 5. (three fresh one FET before this one; one ectopic, one early loss, and non-takers for the rest). Been reading (too much) about all this and have scared myself silly as well. I think all we can do is take a deep breath and charge ahead, and see if fate, nature, medicine are happy to go along the ride. In the mean time, good luck to you and I hope you succeed in your quest!

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Old May 8th, 2018, 07:57 AM   14
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@tw76 - I am sorry your cycles failed. Have you considered combining IVF with PGS NGS to increase your chances?

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Old May 19th, 2018, 15:52 PM   15
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I had a healthy baby boy at 45. He was small. He came a few weeks early because of bp issues with me other than that everything was fine. He's 20 months now.
I had the MaterniT 21 test done early and it showed everything fine. My insurance didn't want to pay for it but my Dr. Wrote a letter saying it was a medical necessity because of my age and to my surprise they covered it at 100%
Natural pregnancy. I had tried for about 15 yrs IVF IUIs fertility drugs and nothing worked. We stopped and about 6 months later it happened without trying LOL

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Old May 21st, 2018, 03:26 AM   16
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Hello First I'm sorry you're worried. Sending you supportive hugs. Though ladies of our age do have reasons for that.
Here's my background.
Me - 42 yrs old
Started ttc in June 2012
dx: endo & pcos
2012 - 1 round clomid - bfn.
The following year - 1 fresh ivf with 5day 2 blasts - early miscarriage
A long break for the emotional recovery. Continuing trying naturally.
2015 - biopsy results diagnosed severe endo. Later adding pcos.
dh's results came in healthy.
Same year - another fresh ivf with oe - failure. Switched the clinics for overseas one (Money matter mostly).*
2016 - ivf round with de - successful. Got bfp on day 8 after ET.*Are parents of an adorable boy.*
As far as you can see we applied for donor egg as my own eggs were said to be useless. Moreover they could choose among embies so that to place back the healthiest ones. For us this was a huge factor.
Wishing you the best whatever your plan would be!

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