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Old Mar 26th, 2018, 16:45 PM   1
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43 Should I even be TTC!


Hey

Just reading sites about statistics at 43 for Downsydrome and other birth defects.
Have to admit they have me pretty shaken up.
My husband and and really want a child but is it just to late??
Has anyone out there delt with this or currently dealing?
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Old Mar 26th, 2018, 20:36 PM   2
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My aunt had twins at 46 but she did use donor eggs. She got pregnant twice before that and unfortunately they both ended in MC.



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2018, 13:08 PM   3
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A friend of mine just had a perfectly healthy little boy at 45. All natural surprise too.
Is IVF an option for you? It would enhance your chances and you could do testing. Expensive though.



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2018, 20:30 PM   4
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I had my daughter when I was 46, turned 47 later that same year. She was a natural surprise blessing! And perfectly healthy. It is scary though. I remember meeting with the genetic counselor who told me I had 1:11 chance for baby having trisomy 13 or 18 (both fatal), and 1:17 for down syndrome, based solely on my age. Thankful baby girl was healthy and will be turning 5 next month. Good luck to you!



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2018, 21:29 PM   5
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sadly no, will have to be all natural.



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Old Mar 28th, 2018, 15:25 PM   6
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They can test (using MaterniT or other similar tests) for trisomies and other defects in the first trimester now! We did that with DS even though I was still under 35 at the time.



 
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Old Mar 31st, 2018, 19:52 PM   7
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Thank you



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Old Apr 1st, 2018, 05:46 AM   8
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Don't lose your hope!



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Old Apr 1st, 2018, 20:39 PM   9
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I'm going to put in my 2 cents worth.

Why, at 43 should you NOT have a baby?? Regardless of a woman's age, birth defects are a possibility with any age. They might increase as we get older but that shouldn't put you off, nor should you stress about it for something you don't even know yet. Personally, if you feel young enough, have a reasonably healthy life style and can provide for that baby, then don't not do it because you're worried about age or what could happen. If you were about to embark on IVF after you'd been through menopause I would feel different but there is no reason why you should not fulfill your wish of being a mother.



 
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Old Apr 17th, 2018, 09:19 AM   10
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You might do karyotyping to know what your chances for a healthy pregnancy are. If there is any risk of chromosomal aneuploidy (Down and Patau syndrome, mcs, and others) you might be recommended considering IVF PGS NGS.



 
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