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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 15:03 PM   21
Omi
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Im sooo jealous of you being in Greece (apart from all the negative press of credit crunch etc etc.) Ive never been but id lurve to go, looks beautiful.... and good food, and wine, and culture and sun... sigh!

My dh has a demanding dayjob and his own business and so i can totally relate to the probs of sometimes getting the bd on the right time. But i think we're both on the same page now and want this more than anything so at least i now know that if it aint happening he's as crestfallen as i am and i don't make an issue of it as hey, if the shoe was on the other foot, you know....

I can also relate to the mc issue. had 2 and 2 d&c's. Ive done well, but i wont lie that at times Ive been quite bitter about the lot Ive been handed - but, it is what it is and its not the end of the world. if you look hard enough plenty of so called lucky pg/ family people have their own issues which i wouldn't wanna trade.

There's this very nice girl at work. She's 24 and was due to finnish her social care work degree at college this spring. She fell accidentally pg in Sept with her bf and did admit it was quite a shock. She has now had to put her professional life on hold.

I like to put things in perspective for my own ends so what im gonna say next is no criticism of others honest! But i thought, she's so young, and now she's gonna be tied to this guy for the rest of her life.

Ive been there done that. Everything. I would have loved to have kids earlier had a met the right man.But i didn't. But im glad that i don't have anything undone, i have picked the man for me - we picked each other - and i feel blessed for the things i have even though i don't have what others take for granted.

I guess i sometimes like to count my blessings..

Allt the best, hun!!

Omi xxxxx



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 15:04 PM   22
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Im a well old oldie lol..im 43 and trying for first. Been trying for nearly a year and not even a sniff of a BFP. U gotta remain positive cos thats all u can do really.

Good luck to all xxxxx



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 15:07 PM   23
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Yeah i had a couple of friends wonder why i dont go straight for IVF LOl!! They are clueless man...They think that if you have IVF nothing can go wrong, no miscarriage, no trisomy or other complications and wow ill have twins as well!!1 sometime i have to control myself from getting violent!!!



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 15:11 PM   24
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Im sooo jealous of you being in Greece (apart from all the negative press of credit crunch etc etc.) Ive never been but id lurve to go, looks beautiful.... and good food, and wine, and culture and sun... sigh!

My dh has a demanding dayjob and his own business and so i can totally relate to the probs of sometimes getting the bd on the right time. But i think we're both on the same page now and want this more than anything so at least i now know that if it aint happening he's as crestfallen as i am and i don't make an issue of it as hey, if the shoe was on the other foot, you know....
Its difficult at the moment in greece youre right....We are all trying to keep our buisnesses afloat this year and waiting for things to start looking up. On the bright side though its a good time for a holiday in greece since the hotels and restaurants are lowering their prices this year by at least 20%, and there are definately vacancies everywhere so you dont have to settle for a shitty room in the middle of nowhere!!!



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 15:13 PM   25
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Welcome syd . I had a d&e at 9 weeks. At 7 weeks there was no heartbeat and at 8 weeks my ob started to think the worst. I was devastated and an emotional mess for many months after. Then I followed with a chemical pregnancy. I feel so self-conscious sometimes and I HATE it when people say things like "Having kids isn't as great as you think it is" or telling me I need to go to a fertility specialist even after I tell them that my ob thinks differently. 2 friends of mine are set to deliver next month and it just kills me. So I say to you rant away! We all hear you.


Vicky - my husband has never been to Greece and those islands sound lovely. He wants to go to the islands but not before Athens since he's so into history. I need a break right now. I have a fertility monitor so I know when I ovulate but it's still stressful. I don't tell my husband I'm ovulating because at least one of us should be having fun and not look at this in terms of cycle days, high and peak fertility, etc People tell you to relax and it will happen but it's hard to do that. And I know that it won't end if I get pregnant since I'll always remember that I m/c'd.
Maxxi when you say you don't tell your OH that your OV so he can still have fun can i ask (if you don't mind) what do you do if he says no? (if he does?). i've tried this technique with my OH but sometimes he says he's too tired and then i can't bear the thought of not BD'ing so i end up saying its a good time and sort of spoiling the moment. it's so frustrating.....



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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 16:08 PM   26
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Hmm... I must spread the word about cheaper Greece hols, then!



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 16:15 PM   27
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Hello ladies! So glad we have a place of our own. I know a few of you and am excited to get to know all of you. I'm 35 and have had 2 mcs like many of you other ladies. One was at 10 weeks due to a blood clot in my uterus. The other was at 6 weeks for reasons unknown. They thought it was a molar pregnancy, but thank god it wasn't. My DH is 41. We are soooo ready for our baby!

Like Vicky, I'm technically in the 2ww right now too, but AF is on her way I can just tell.

Jomax, I also don't tell my DH that I'm Ov'ing. If he says no, I have to respect his right to do so. I used to get really upset, but that has never helped matters. Usually though, I try to set the mood so he won't say no. I try to have a clean house and bedroom (clutter can cause unconscious stress), have a bottle of wine ready, some good food or at least a plan for dinner ready. At this point if he hasn't caught on that I'm ovulating when the house is clean and dinner is ready, then he's a little thick! LOL! Our plan for next cycle is to BD every other day starting on CD12. I'm going to track ovulation (and not tell him) and once I've ovulated, I'll tell him we don't have to keep doing it. He's game for the plan. We've decided to start taking walks after work and then not turn on the television on our BD days. Basically, we're just trying to connect a little more. Knowing that we're definitely going to BD every other day alleviates any pressure for either of us. It sounds good in theory! Hope it works in practice.



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 18:00 PM   28
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Welcome syd . I had a d&e at 9 weeks. At 7 weeks there was no heartbeat and at 8 weeks my ob started to think the worst. I was devastated and an emotional mess for many months after. Then I followed with a chemical pregnancy. I feel so self-conscious sometimes and I HATE it when people say things like "Having kids isn't as great as you think it is" or telling me I need to go to a fertility specialist even after I tell them that my ob thinks differently. 2 friends of mine are set to deliver next month and it just kills me. So I say to you rant away! We all hear you.


Vicky - my husband has never been to Greece and those islands sound lovely. He wants to go to the islands but not before Athens since he's so into history. I need a break right now. I have a fertility monitor so I know when I ovulate but it's still stressful. I don't tell my husband I'm ovulating because at least one of us should be having fun and not look at this in terms of cycle days, high and peak fertility, etc People tell you to relax and it will happen but it's hard to do that. And I know that it won't end if I get pregnant since I'll always remember that I m/c'd.
Maxxi when you say you don't tell your OH that your OV so he can still have fun can i ask (if you don't mind) what do you do if he says no? (if he does?). i've tried this technique with my OH but sometimes he says he's too tired and then i can't bear the thought of not BD'ing so i end up saying its a good time and sort of spoiling the moment. it's so frustrating.....
He doesn't say no often and if I have any thought he may I start tickling him and won't let him sleep. He works 8 -6 ish and something tells me your OH is working a more physically demanding job. I'd tell him if I had to though. The way I see it is that I've ruined so many moments because of being in such a bad mood because of the 2 mc's that telling him I'm O'ing wouldn't be any worse than all the difficult moments we've had in the past months.



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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 18:44 PM   29
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Hello ladies... I know so many of you already...

Kelster... my hug mate. Omi... every the practical realist who helps kick me up the ass and Heart.... who somehow always says just the right thing....

So nice to see all you other ladies too.... and I am hoping that we will all move to 1st tri and end up with wiggling healthy babies soon....

I am 38, Hubby is 37 and we have had 3 m/c from Feb 07 to May 10 and have lost 4 babies... At the mo bding is on hold as I have to wait to see the recurrent m/c specialist on 1 July (Boo Hoo)...though in preparation I have hubby and me on his and hers preconcieve... better bloody work LOL!!!

Speak to you all soon xx



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 20:27 PM   30
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Hi Padbrat! I knew we'd get together in a forum we could call home! I'm so happy your appointment is coming up soon. Only 10 more days. Please let us know how it goes luv.



 
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