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Old Dec 3rd, 2010, 06:55 AM   11
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Maybe because they aren't so focused on getting pregnant anymore? So the body and mind relaxes.



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Old Dec 3rd, 2010, 10:32 AM   12
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hi everyone
ive also heard that same thing, so I believe stress does play a part. my best friend had a miscarriage at 6 weeks when she was 37, then tried for a full year for another. She decided to have a break and that was the month she conceived. her baby was born in august.
im 38 and we have been loosely trying since feb, but only the past 3 months I have been tracking my period and using the ovulation tests. I dont feel stressed, even though I want to have a baby Im not obsessed over it at all. I have my first appointment with a fertility specialist on monday, we both did blood tests for our appointment so hoping something will show up if theres something amiss. I think I may have low progesterone as I spot for a couple of days before my period, and have heavy clotty periods.
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Old Dec 3rd, 2010, 10:35 AM   13
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Do cats get along with Jack Russells? That amazes me! I've got 2 cats too and we'd like a dog too, we thought about a spaniel.



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Old Dec 5th, 2010, 08:04 AM   14
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I was TTC for 2.5 years and me and my OH had two months off from our busy stressful jobs, spent some time enjoying ourselves and just worrying nothing else and I fell pregnant at the end of those two months, I really believe that the reduction in stress and not planning my life around Ov days and waiting for AF to arrive helped a lot! xx



 
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Old Dec 6th, 2010, 11:46 AM   15
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that's brilliant news mamamay, congratulations. Just one question, how did you get after all this time to trully forget about it. Did you really had no idea when you were about to ovulate, and/or didn't feel the urge to still bd at the right time, and did you really not know why AF was due?

I so wish i could let go and trully not think about it, and before AF comes, i do feel that I am ready for it, then AF comes, and I just can't let go. I know exactly when I am due to ovulate as I am very regular and get strong ovulation pressure, so can't imagine not bding then, when in any case, i always do enjoy it anyway!

Is there something we can do beside hitting our head with a hammer than can really make you forget about your cycle?



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Old Dec 6th, 2010, 12:19 PM   16
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i really think that it is simply stress relief when you stop trying and stressing ever 2 miins about being pregnant! but it is super super hard to do when all you want is a baby! x



 
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Old Dec 6th, 2010, 18:31 PM   17
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Its just a conception lottery

Stress or no stress has nothing to do with it

If the conditions are right inside the woman and the sperm is determined... bingo

Sounds basic ...but it is what it is

I agree. Earlier this year I lost my brother. It was the most stressful time of my life, I didnt eat or sleep, just drank and smoked. Obviously I still ovulated 2 weeks after his funeral, because 3 weeks later I noticed my period was late and tested and BFP. Just like that. Unfortunately, baby died at 14weeks.
Now I dont smoke, rarely drink, and am actively TTC. 9 cycles in and nothing. Heres hoping we all get that winning conception lottery ticket this month!



 
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Old Dec 7th, 2010, 06:43 AM   18
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hi Mellybelle. I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. It sounds like you've had a really awful time of it. I also don't think stress impedes conception from a female perspective: I was off work with stress the two times I conceived at 39 and 40 and I remember feeling dreadful at the time. I'm having a harder time conceiving now though after the 2 miscarriages. I used the Clearblue digital ovulation kit the previous 2 times and conceived after just 2 cycles of trying on each occasion. I do wonder though if stress affects a man's sperm count more, because that could explain why couples who take a break from TTC get pregnant so quickly, i.e. if it's the male effect. Because my OH notices the difference when he's better rested and more relaxed, plus I've read that when men provide sperm samples after masturbating in a clinic the sperm has poorer quality and quantity than it has during bd. I've had a break from opk's but at 41 I think I need every bit of help, so am back to Clearblue opk and first cycle of trying Preseed. Next cycle it's epo. We're only trying for 3 more cycles then it's IVF, but it's 3000 a go and has a poor success rate at my age. It's so depressing, I wish I hadn't met my OH so late because all the time I had a great career I was really only wanting to be a mummy!



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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 13:08 PM   19
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Do cats get along with Jack Russells? That amazes me! I've got 2 cats too and we'd like a dog too, we thought about a spaniel.
hi sorry just saw this!
we have 3 cats and 3 jacks! jacks do have a natural drive to run after anything thats moving, but for the most part they all get along great. We've had a few incidents where the cat has been running fast as the door bell has rung and one of the jacks goes after it, but the jack usually stops once the cat swats it.



 
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Old Dec 10th, 2010, 16:26 PM   20
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I haven't read any replies, but I don't believe the stress of TTC is what is holding most folks back from conceiving. Stress can have an affect on ovulation, though. But if you ovulate and the sperm are deposited at the right time, I don't think the sperm are going to swim up to the egg and say, "I can't penetrate the egg because its owner is probably stressing about it." I think we hear a lot about people conceiving after they give up, because pregnancy has a higher chance of happening the longer we have unprotected sex (whether we're "trying" or not), and so by the time they have given up, they are getting closer to that BFP.



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