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Old Apr 8th, 2011, 13:05 PM   11
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Honestly I get so happy when I see someone with a BFP I do not see the problem... if we can't be happy for others its not a good sign. I personally prefer positive threads and uplifting, those that fill you with hope, and what more uplifting than to see a BFP?

I respect that some people get upset but it's just life, we can't hide inside our homes and not see the rest of the world. I hate the news for instance, yet I can not avoid it. I love to see it on people's signature too. I do think it gives us hope



 
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Old Apr 8th, 2011, 16:34 PM   12
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Is this guideline for starting a new thread to announce a BFP, or is it possible to mention getting a BFP as a follow up in another thread? For instance when we are discussing various techniques we are trying it is good to know which ones actually worked for other women.

Also to be perfectly honest as someone trying to conceive #1, I find it harder to see people's profile pictures with babies than I do seeing someone's BFP announcement.
Hi velo, I also thought this was the case, but looking at the moderator's initial post here, it seems I am/we are wrong?!

I also think it would be good to have a dedicated over 35s announcements thread on our board. I hate to sound like an old hag but while sharing the good news of our contemporaries makes me feel uplifted and that there is hope for us yet, reading that a plethora of twenty-somethings (for whom I'm obviously happy!) have good news to share would just make me feel older than I already feel. And believe me, I feel old!!! Personally have never visited the announcements board and TBH I think most people on the site as a whole would rather have the opportunity to post on the board which they frequent rather than on a general Announcements board? I use Over 35s and TTC after loss and these are the people I'd want to share my news with



 
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Old Apr 20th, 2011, 19:11 PM   13
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Maybe if there was one main post in this section where people could put a BFP announcement?
I can see where it would bother some people, but I like to see people here finally get a BFP and I like to read how they did it.
I never read the BFP's other than in here so I would miss posts from the over 35's or I would have to see a bunch of posts from 20 somethings which would make me feel extra old and dried up.
I totally agree



 
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Old Apr 21st, 2011, 16:33 PM   14
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I also think it would be good to have a dedicated over 35s announcements thread on our board. I think most people on the site as a whole would rather have the opportunity to post on the board which they frequent rather than on a general Announcements board?
I feel the same way.
I tried to look through the BFP announcements in the main section today, and the first 4 or 5 got a BFP in under 6 months of trying(and a lot younger than most of us) . Many of us are not only older but have been trying for a lot longer than 6 months.

If someone thinks reading about an over 35'er getting a BFP gets them down, then just go and wade through a bunch of BFP's in under 6 months of trying while looking for the ones who are 35 and over.
I'm thrilled for anyone to get a BFP, but making us go through a list like that to find the over 35 BFP's is just cruel.



 
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Old Apr 21st, 2011, 19:24 PM   15
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If people do end up posting any BFP announcements here - it would be nice as some days when I'm down I want to get inspired by others success, particularly ones that have had a longer struggle and are older - it would be good to follow some guidelines:
- have sensitivity towards the fact others may have been trying a long time. Saying you FINALLY got pregnant after 3 months when your other children were conceived on the first try, is not sensitive.
- try not to be patronizing - I find titles like "there's hope after all!" annoying unless its a really extraordinary circumstance. Just because you got pregnant effortlessly does not mean I will. (these titles are obviously better used when it is far from effortless) People can draw their own conclusions. Your announcement may give them hope. It may not.



 
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Old Apr 22nd, 2011, 12:25 PM   16
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so how do we start a BFP thread in this section and have it as a 'sticky' thread that goes to the top....do we need to message a moderator?

this clearly is the best scenerio, then people who do not want to see the BFPs dont need to open that thread. but many of us do, and will participate.

Im going to message the modertator now



 
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Old Apr 22nd, 2011, 14:31 PM   17
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so a moderator received my message and said they will have a chat about it, but it might not be a quick decision. so we will wait and see



 
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Old Apr 22nd, 2011, 14:37 PM   18
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so a moderator received my message and said they will have a chat about it, but it might not be a quick decision. so we will wait and see
Well done Sarah. Hopefully they will check out the thread here and understand our reasoning x



 
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Old Apr 25th, 2011, 16:03 PM   19
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Well done sarahincanada lets hope they action your request!

I haven't been on for a few days and a couple of ladies I've been chatting to on a couple of threads got their bfp's I only noticed as I was checking my unread posts and noticed it on their tickers! So then I had to trawl through the pg forum to find out how/when they found out.

So my point is that it would be better for us 35+ ttc to have a thread within our own forum as I never go on the other ttc's forum or pg forums. Let's hope so eh moderators xxx



 
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Old Apr 25th, 2011, 19:57 PM   20
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We want a sticky thread!
We want a sticky thread!
We want a sticky thread!



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