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Old Oct 15th, 2011, 15:46 PM   21
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I am totally in denial that I even am over 35. I got pregnant really easily on my first and still most of the time think it's going to be relatively 'easy' to get pregnant again. Then I get gripped by moments of horror when I think that Thomas will be an only child and it will never happen again for me. We have only been trying for about six months so it's early days.



 
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Old Oct 15th, 2011, 16:11 PM   22
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Hi all, just joining in as I like a nice discussion!
It's pretty much medical fact that it's harder to get pregnant when you're older and particularly after 35/40 etc etc. So it would be good if everyone was more open about fertility problems/miscarriage and other related issues as a lot of people aren't aware of possible problems (and I include myself in that). The only people who I have discussed fertility problems/miscarriage with is friends with kids after I had DS1 - it all comes out of the woodwork then! BUT I don't think that accepting the possible problems that come with age is the same as blaming people for leaving it too long (and certainly shouldn't be) - at the end of the day many women and men start relationships later, careers later and thinking about having kids later and we as a society just need to accept this and make sure people are informed (and we should also inform ourselves).
Re the comments about people having problems in their 20s I also think there should be more awareness of infertility in younger people as again this is one of those things people don't hear about till it happens to them...
Hope this makes sense as I'm half asleep now



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Old Oct 16th, 2011, 14:38 PM   23
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I had alot of problems conceiving in my 20's and early 30's ( ovulated about twice a year due to pcos) now in my 40's I ovulate naturally every cycle so yes I am a little in denial over people saying fertility over 40 is lower.



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Old Oct 16th, 2011, 17:57 PM   24
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Clearly I was in denial when my husband and I started trying in May (after his successful reversal). Since I got pregnant with our other 2 children (7 & 9) with relative ease, I just assumed it would be the same. I kept it in the back of my head that "they" say it is harder for those over 35, but I didn't think it would be me. Well here we are in our 4th month of trying TTC #3 (we skipped a 2 months inbetween). I am 6/7 DPO and will know by next Sunday or Monday. I have already made an appointment with my doctor for Tuesday the 25 to discuss my infertility, just in case - hopefully I'll be able to cancel that.
Best wishes for everyone out there TTC.



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Old Oct 20th, 2011, 03:50 AM   25
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Clearly I was in denial when my husband and I started trying in May (after his successful reversal). Since I got pregnant with our other 2 children (7 & 9) with relative ease, I just assumed it would be the same. I kept it in the back of my head that "they" say it is harder for those over 35, but I didn't think it would be me. Well here we are in our 4th month of trying TTC #3 (we skipped a 2 months inbetween). I am 6/7 DPO and will know by next Sunday or Monday. I have already made an appointment with my doctor for Tuesday the 25 to discuss my infertility, just in case - hopefully I'll be able to cancel that.
Best wishes for everyone out there TTC.
Hi Lorraine2, I'm in a similar situation to you except TTC #2 and been trying about 15 months - also thought it would be quick as DS1 was quick and I did get pregnant quickly again but m/c ans since then nothing
I also saw my doctor (I'm UK, not sure where you are) - she was great and referred me (about 9mths since TTC after the m/c) so I have an appointment with the hospital in a few weeks (blood tests and HSG). I'm also similar DPO (about 10 today - I just use OPKs so not sure exactly when) but is due Sun/Mon so we can be cycle buddies!!



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Old Oct 20th, 2011, 04:54 AM   26
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Am I not the only one who's been in denial about being over 35 who thought it was going to be really easy conceiving?

I'm 37 and been trying since April following a mc. You spend all those years preventing pregnancy and now it's a bit of a wake up call that it's a lot damn harder than you ever thought it would be!!
With you on this one Wabblit Through my rose tinted specs I'd have had my by now, but after a year of trying I've definitely 'woken up'!!! Good luck x



 
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Old Oct 20th, 2011, 12:05 PM   27
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Totally in denial here. I'm 36 (but eternally 28 in my head for some reason) and we just started TTC my second/our first together 3 cycles ago. Figured I'd get knocked up the first time around. No such thing. While 3 cycles isn't as long as many TTC, it still isn't happening as quickly as I anticipated.
First pregnancy was achieved so easily! Go off of b/c, pregnant the next cycle. Haven't been on b/c for YEARS, just did the natural family planning method or used the films... Now? Ha! I'm concerned about all kinds of crazy things and obsessing like a crazy person.
Ridiculous.
BUT, I know it will happen when it's supposed to - for myself and for all of you as well!
to all of you lovely ladies!



 
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Old Oct 20th, 2011, 14:13 PM   28
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Am I not the only one who's been in denial about being over 35 who thought it was going to be really easy conceiving?

I'm 37 and been trying since April following a mc. You spend all those years preventing pregnancy and now it's a bit of a wake up call that it's a lot damn harder than you ever thought it would be!!
With you on this one Wabblit Through my rose tinted specs I'd have had my by now, but after a year of trying I've definitely 'woken up'!!! Good luck x
Thanks and to you too! I'm feeling super positive this month which I know means I will be more depressed if it doesn't happen. I soooooo don't feel my age (37). Sending a sackfull of to all you lovely ladies. Fx!



 
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Old Oct 20th, 2011, 14:20 PM   29
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. I soooooo don't feel my age (37).
37 isn't old!!

I just keep upping what age I think 'old' is.
It seems to always be a few decades ahead of me



 
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Old Oct 20th, 2011, 14:43 PM   30
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Our minds are really young theses days, and hey, lets say we are gorgeous at our age!!

But yes, In denial? No I donīt think I am... I think I have reached the point when I am quite realistic that it might not happen. However I keep my little hope that it might do as well, as we see BFPs hapening at our age..

It is upsetting thought, month after month and BFN... but I think most understand what I mean here



 
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