The Cynical Thread

Originally Posted by Sus09

Rashaa so sorry to hear the news
It is frustrating when all of us want it so much and it seems so difficult. You would think having children it was meant to be for all women!

It is horrible when people ask! It is hurtful.
Last Friday my OH went out with his friends. I decided not to go cos two women are prengnat and they were taking photos of theirs scans. It was the right decision as apparently the women told my OH that he was next to become a dad and that I should stop being selfish focusing on my career and settle down to have a family
Do people ever think that this is a delicate subject and people might have problems?

Ahhhh man thats just mean those women need to keep their gobs shut and just concentrate on their business rather yours, this makes me so mad. I hate it when people just assume!! x

I feel you Rasha... I was ADAMANT about not telling anyone and now I am SOO HAPPY I was like that. I honestly am okay with friends having babies...matter of fact one is in the hospital being induced as we speak and I may go see her tomorrow...but yes, the sorry looks and questionings...not cool. I'd smack your hubby and not talk to him for a LONG time

Rasha - I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.

ladies...

Originally Posted by Jodes2011

Ahhhh man thats just mean those women need to keep their gobs shut and just concentrate on their business rather yours, this makes me so mad. I hate it when people just assume!! x

Yes I find it rude when people just assume! My friends are great with all this but my OH friends are very mean!

Rashaa how are you feeling now hun? And you Jodie? Big hug to you all ladies!

Originally Posted by Sus09

Yes I find it rude when people just assume! My friends are great with all this but my OH friends are very mean!

Rashaa how are you feeling now hun? And you Jodie? Big hug to you all ladies!

well i'm feeling good just had my LH surge so should be ovulating anytime now how are you doing? x

I am fine hun! Too much work in the week so feeling a bit tired. Waitinf for AF now to start the new cycle xxx

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and support. It's been a long week, but it's getting better.....

the story is NEVER complete lol...a few days before I started to spot, some of you might recall I broke out in this incredibly itchy rash on my arms, legs...and I thought, oh my body is reacting to my shower soap or shampoo, changed them, with no effect....things happened...and I didn't think twice about it...

was talking to a doctor yesterday and out of nowhere we talked about my positive ana test back in feb [I had drug induced hepatitis from taking a blood pressure medication that is supposed to be safe when you are expecting or trying to conceive, it's called methyl dopa...and my liver enzymes were everywhere, i don't have lupus, but the test was 1;320 speckled...which is not negative ...and there was some antibody response going on...]... ANY way, the doctor knows of my preclampsia in the past and said to me...have you ever been tested for 'sticky blood' - I clot with all my periods, clotted after the births, but never have had major blood clots...and I said no.. he said ..you might have antiphospholipid syndrome... or some sort of autoimmune response which rejects the baby...i was like what!?? anyway, I will be tested for it, with the fibroid going in two weeks, and possibly this, maybe once i am cleared, we will have a chance!

OH and get this...I stopped bleeding this weekend, and today I am getting the normal side pain I get when I ovulate, I have EWCM and my temp went up! My poor body is confused....I continue to BBT to know where things are at, we are protecting like crazy with any as I want to get rid of the fibroid first.. but when they say you are fertile after an m/c they weren't kidding!

LL : I contemplated that at first, I really did , but I have opted to go the damsel in distress route, and suck up his attention big time lol....HE was excited, but he learned for the future...

thanks for listening guys...

Originally Posted by Rashaa

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and support. It's been a long week, but it's getting better.....

the story is NEVER complete lol...a few days before I started to spot, some of you might recall I broke out in this incredibly itchy rash on my arms, legs...and I thought, oh my body is reacting to my shower soap or shampoo, changed them, with no effect....things happened...and I didn't think twice about it...

was talking to a doctor yesterday and out of nowhere we talked about my positive ana test back in feb [I had drug induced hepatitis from taking a blood pressure medication that is supposed to be safe when you are expecting or trying to conceive, it's called methyl dopa...and my liver enzymes were everywhere, i don't have lupus, but the test was 1;320 speckled...which is not negative ...and there was some antibody response going on...]... ANY way, the doctor knows of my preclampsia in the past and said to me...have you ever been tested for 'sticky blood' - I clot with all my periods, clotted after the births, but never have had major blood clots...and I said no.. he said ..you might have antiphospholipid syndrome... or some sort of autoimmune response which rejects the baby...i was like what!?? anyway, I will be tested for it, with the fibroid going in two weeks, and possibly this, maybe once i am cleared, we will have a chance!

OH and get this...I stopped bleeding this weekend, and today I am getting the normal side pain I get when I ovulate, I have EWCM and my temp went up! My poor body is confused....I continue to BBT to know where things are at, we are protecting like crazy with any as I want to get rid of the fibroid first.. but when they say you are fertile after an m/c they weren't kidding!

LL : I contemplated that at first, I really did , but I have opted to go the damsel in distress route, and suck up his attention big time lol....HE was excited, but he learned for the future...

thanks for listening guys...

Well mine has been lectured WAY in advance to keep his trap shut LOL...he almost slipped a few times but I caught it and would stare him down lol.

Glad you are figuring things out. May the next one be the lucky one!!!!

Well, I was looking for a thread to post this, and I was not sure which one was the right one. But well here I go.

Today I have found out, that the girl I used to mentor few years ago, is pregnant for the 3rd time. Yes she is in her early 20s so fertility is good, but what makes me cynical is the fact that the 3 pregnancies have been "mistakes" not planned, not wanted. and of course they have different dads...

My cynical attitude is not agains the girl, well she could have been a bit more careful... 3 mistakes is a lot... but she is a great mum! I am cynical about life!!!!!! Why some can have it all by just not being careful and some who want it so much can´t have any

I am happy for the girl as again she will be a happy mum, but sad at the fact that I wish it was that easy for all of us here to conceive.