Tired of people asking when I'm going to have a baby!

canadadiva · Nov 23rd, 2011, 12:09 PM

I get asked at least once a day when we are going to have kids. Its really annoying, especially now that we are trying. People ask me at work, family asks me, friends I haven't seen in a while are bugging me. I don't want to get into a conversation about it, especially since its none of their business! Do you guys have any clever responses or something that would shut people up?

Natsby · Nov 23rd, 2011, 13:38 PM

I shrug and say, can´t control everything! I think it is worse if they stop asking...then they think you are past it.

Sus09 · Nov 23rd, 2011, 13:40 PM

Nats, I like your reasoning there... I never thought about that, I like it!

I was going to say I was tired as well, but I like how Nats way of thinking! So I am going to adopt that point of view as well.

dodgercpkl · Nov 23rd, 2011, 14:33 PM

I mostly tell them that a baby will come if and when God wills it for us.

It does still get frustrating though.

canadadiva · Nov 23rd, 2011, 16:49 PM

[QUOTE=Natsby;14138237]I shrug and say, can´t control everything! I think it is worse if they stop asking...then they think you are past it.[/QUOTES

So true!! Never thought of that, if I look at it from that perspective, its a good thing people are still asking. Thanks.

cochy115 · Nov 23rd, 2011, 19:12 PM

Yeah. I usually tell them I'm enjoying my time alone with my DH and that I'm not feeling it yet. I pretend like I'm all anti-baby. That shuts them up for another 6 months - year. :P

Honestly, I don't care if they ask. It's only natural. I have friends who gave up on trying after 8 years. They've always been super open about their issues if someone asks. I don't think it's such a bad thing to be more open about infertility. I get that it's a private matter, and that's fine. I haven't said a word about trying... but if it takes me more than a year, I won't keep it a secret. I think a lot of times people battling infertility feel alone. There's no need to hide it from people who might give you a lot of support. I wouldn't make a billboard about it, but certainly letting a few people into that circle would be helpful. Same with miscarriages.

SabrinaKat · Nov 24th, 2011, 09:59 AM

How about, 'what about my two cats, don't they count as 'babies'?

AnnaLaura · Nov 27th, 2011, 00:32 AM

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Originally Posted by canadadiva

I get asked at least once a day when we are going to have kids. Its really annoying, especially now that we are trying. People ask me at work, family asks me, friends I haven't seen in a while are bugging me. I don't want to get into a conversation about it, especially since its none of their business! Do you guys have any clever responses or something that would shut people up?

I know how you feel. I have never asked a casual acquaintance such a personal question. I also notice that the ones I know to be miserable with their own lives are the ones most likely to ask repeatedly.

I don't know what's up with that. I've had people get in my face, aggressively asking me if there's anything wrong with me or telling me how wonderful it is and how happy I'll be when I have children. This is while their own child is destroying something in the background.

My husband takes Natsby's approach. Sometimes I've said, "No, but I am getting a dog." They don't usually ask again after that.

littlepeps · Nov 27th, 2011, 14:10 PM

We get it all the time too .. but we just tell people that we are practising vigorously !!!

Nov 23rd, 2011, 12:09 PM	#1
canadadiva Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Calgary Posts: 50	Tired of people asking when I'm going to have a baby! I get asked at least once a day when we are going to have kids. Its really annoying, especially now that we are trying. People ask me at work, family asks me, friends I haven't seen in a while are bugging me. I don't want to get into a conversation about it, especially since its none of their business! Do you guys have any clever responses or something that would shut people up?

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Nov 23rd, 2011, 13:38 PM	#2
Natsby Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Spain although I am originally from the UK Posts: 1,309	I shrug and say, can´t control everything! I think it is worse if they stop asking...then they think you are past it.

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Nov 23rd, 2011, 13:40 PM	#3
Sus09 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK Posts: 3,053	Nats, I like your reasoning there... I never thought about that, I like it! I was going to say I was tired as well, but I like how Nats way of thinking! So I am going to adopt that point of view as well.

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Nov 23rd, 2011, 14:33 PM	#4
dodgercpkl Other BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: So Cal Posts: 5,001	I mostly tell them that a baby will come if and when God wills it for us. It does still get frustrating though.

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Nov 23rd, 2011, 16:49 PM	#5
canadadiva Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Calgary Posts: 50	[QUOTE=Natsby;14138237]I shrug and say, can´t control everything! I think it is worse if they stop asking...then they think you are past it.[/QUOTES So true!! Never thought of that, if I look at it from that perspective, its a good thing people are still asking. Thanks.

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Nov 23rd, 2011, 19:12 PM	#6
cochy115 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Minnesota Posts: 800	Yeah. I usually tell them I'm enjoying my time alone with my DH and that I'm not feeling it yet. I pretend like I'm all anti-baby. That shuts them up for another 6 months - year. :P Honestly, I don't care if they ask. It's only natural. I have friends who gave up on trying after 8 years. They've always been super open about their issues if someone asks. I don't think it's such a bad thing to be more open about infertility. I get that it's a private matter, and that's fine. I haven't said a word about trying... but if it takes me more than a year, I won't keep it a secret. I think a lot of times people battling infertility feel alone. There's no need to hide it from people who might give you a lot of support. I wouldn't make a billboard about it, but certainly letting a few people into that circle would be helpful. Same with miscarriages.

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Nov 24th, 2011, 09:59 AM	#7
SabrinaKat Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Transplanted American living in Ireland Posts: 4,665	How about, 'what about my two cats, don't they count as 'babies'?

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Nov 27th, 2011, 14:10 PM	#9
littlepeps Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Belfast , Northern Ireland Posts: 194	We get it all the time too .. but we just tell people that we are practising vigorously !!!

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