That's why I mentioned the ovulation sticks as they worked for me.

Thanks Milliesun.
as you can see i have been TTC and a member since FEB 08!!!!
I LOVE to see these success stories........especially since i am now 40!

Now if we're talking about threads BnB should not allow....the 2WW is the worst!!!!! hahaha

what a difficult topic... I am encouraged to read hope stories but I also totally understand Sarah`s frustration.

As a comparison, my son was born prematurely in 2010 in the ELBW category - extremely low birth weight. His survival odds were small and he fought for dear life the first few weeks. During this hellish time I often attended preemie parent meetings. It really helped to talk with other parents living similar nightmares. At these meetings there were always a few mothers who would BAWL their eyes out, sobbing, shaking etc because their little ones had to stay..... 2-3 nights because of jaundice. Here I was praying to myself every waking moment `please let me son survive... ' while he flatlined sometimes twice a day and was told he would certainly be severely handicapped.

I tried very, very, very hard to find sympathy in my heart for these mothers. I`m usually a rational person, very caring and outgoing. "Their pain was as valid as mine" I repeated to myself over and over. But I just couldn`t find the empathy to do so. I secretly hated them with a passion. I would give my both arms to be in their shoes. When a good friend gave birth to a healthy boy in a hospital instead of her chosen home birth, she cried and lamented for days over it. Again I tried so VERY hard to find one ounce of sympathy for my dear friend. I understood rationally that she was in pain. But oddly I just couldn`t FEEL any sympathy. I also couldn`t STAND birth stories. I avoided relatives`s happy birth news like the plague. I would run out of baby stores, unable to stand the sight of a round belly. To this day I still avoid all of the bnb birth announcements. So I can totally understand how annoying these happy messages become.

That period in my life taught me many things, gave me a whole new perspective on life. Oh and to reassure you, my story does have a happy ending, despite the rough start my son is now a thriving, happy toddler

Since I`m rambling confessions, to this day I just can`t stand the baby club forum of bnb. There`s absolutely nothing wrong with it, the ladie there are absolutely wonderful! I just find what others worry about rather ridiculous and silly heh. I roll my eyes constantly and well I stick to the familiar preemie section

well except now since we`re crazy and are talking about number 2. I`m turning 40 in 6 weeks, eeek!! It took 7 months for number 1, hoping this time if we get lucky and have a number 2 the journey will be a bit more peaceful

wow ladies! big hugs to everyone! congrats to the op and the birth of her daughter i love her name and so beautiful.

To be honest i go throught different stages with TTC sometimes i'm happy go lucky, sometimes the smallest things are a struggle, even simple things like pg count down tickers get to me when i see them in the ttc section lol, today i can laugh at that one! i used to really struggle with those who already have a number of children and express their frustration at not getting pg!! (how terrible was that? awful!)

After spending many months on b and p and in my own struggle with ttc i learn't that TTC is hard for for a lot of women and yes a lot harder for others and this is the strange thing? i wish i could make it better for us all so that we can all have our babies when we want them, but i can't. some of the ttc journeys are heart breaking and make you cry and we all work through it in our own way and the end goal is the same for us all, wanting babies or at least for me some hope it will happen.

Sometimes when it gets difficult i don't know which section to post in because sometimes nothing seems to fit! you never know what the reaction will be when you do espcially if you u r new as their a lot of un written etiquette (sorry, couldn't think how to put it) to learn . I did at one point stop posting in another section because the responses and reactions from some were just scarey, or plain crazy! ( i think they have been deleted now) it's a big gamble posting but hey thats just my stuff!

I'll be 2 yrs ttc in march (39 not long after) and waiting for a refferal to fs due to known male factor infertility and i'm just being tested. So for me any baby concieved over 35 or around my own age is a news of hope. perhaps one day this may not be so? we'll see.

i think that the media and some of the medical profession and society are hard on women ttc at the best of times let alone anyone in their 30,s and 40's, so i no longer look at age related stuff it just and came to b and p to share others knowlege, experiances both good and bad. Most of all we are all here for support in the hard road of ttc and motherhood.

Lots of love to you all x

Congrats on your baby girl, she has a beautiful name.

Thank you!

'advanced maternal age' at 36?? How rude to call you that! X

It's actual medical terminology. You are considered AMA if your edc is on or after your 35th birthday.
I've heard of doc's actually saying 'geriatric'. I'd rather be AMA anyday than geriatric.

to all the ladies!

touchy subject but I think that no matter what we agree or disagree with, the one thing we do AGREE on is that we all want to see that , go through with our 9 months of pregnancy w/o any complications, and give birth to a healthy I wish that for all us

baby to you all

I was lucky then as my age was never mentioned once during pregnancy or when I gave birth 3 months after my 40th birthday. I was even classed as low risk (which did surprise me, given my age!!). My midwife had to tell me to stop worrying!!

Actually my mum had me at 30, and she was classed a old!! That's soooo young

Me too

Good luck everyone x