Hi AlohaPink and welcome. I'm sorry about your m/c. Happy you've had A/F and can try again. I've heard of increased fertility for a few months after a m/c - hope that's true for you. Take good care and baby dust.

I am 44 and got my first bfp in January but just Mc'd about 10 days ago. Waiting now for hcg do go to 0 so I can start trying again. took 10 months to get the first bfp which I thought wasn't too bad so i'm hoping I can take advantage of the extra fertile months after an MC

Oh and there is an over 40's group on here too

http://www.babyandbump.com/ttc-group...ups-downs.html

Awww...Butterfly, I'm so sorry about your mc. Hugs to you You're right though in that the next few months are extra fertile. Fx'd for you.
Thanks for the link.

I just found this board and am so happy that I did. Other forums with 40's and over are so desolate. I have an almost 7 y.o. (September) daughter and an almost 3 y.o. (August) son. We are trying for a third. I knew I was not done just hours after giving birth to my son! My only regret is that I waited so long in between my daughter and son. Now I am having a hard time getting pregnant and am losing hope. I found out that my progesterone level is extremely low (2)!! I have been on clomid for all my babies. We have been trying for several months now. I thought I would fall preggos like I did with my first (after three months) and my second (5 months) somewhere in between but so far no luck. (And to make matters worse hubby is having male issues of his own..... )

I am 5 days late and my doctor told me today that I was not preggos because I did not ovulate??? How the heck does he know that? I have never missed my period at all and are always spot on between 25 and 27 days respectively. Then he tells me if I don't get my period by next week to get a sono done!!! Really.....so you have a patient who you know has a low progesterone level and is 5 days late and that is all you can tell me? Why not have a blood test done? Why wait? Completely confused and I'm sitting here now wondering if I am preggos... (Home test said negative yesterday) and he tells me to wait!!! Common sense would say get a blood test to find out for sure and then get you on progesterone.....Really, am so infuriated now.

Anyway that is my story. I look forward to chatting with other woman my age. All my GF's think I a nuts for wanting another one so I don't have anyone to talk to about this. I don't need negative people around me at this point in time....

Sorry about your situation and I agree why the heck wouldn't you just do a blood test and like you said how on earth do they know you didn't O?? Are you temping? I take progesterone very early in my cycle just in case I fall preggo. I take it from CD 15 to when AF arrives. Would your doc consider that?

I totally hear you about the GFs....I haven't even told one of them. I told my sis and that's it because I just don't want to hear all the negative comments.
Baby dust to you.

Hi Bex

I'm sorry for your losses Similar to you, I have had 3 mc with one beautiful, amazing, life-affirming 3.5yr old in amongst them. He arrived when I was (just) 40. Prior to having him I was a serious marathon runner (70-80 miles a week) and ran until 7 months pregnant. I lost a baby just past 12 weeks back in November 2010 and nothing even close to a positive test since then, despite well timed bd pretty much every month I have been so so depressed since the mc and had given up running completely, partly due to depression and partly due to thinking it would enhance my chances. In January this year I decided that enough was enough and that running was going to be my exit strategy from depression and to help me come to terms with the fact that this is now far less likely to happen for us than it is to happen. Progress is slow in terms of fitness but I feel more like my old self again and definitely less obsessed with ttc, though I am discovering that getting fit at the age of 43 is a whole lot harder than staying fit ever was. I am yet to start on the wine, but in truth, I have discovered that I actually feel better for not drinking (it was only ever a glass or two anyway) so may not go back to that, we'll see. I wish you speedy success

Spoomie- I'm glad you are running again. I started a walk run program with my dh just last week . I'm not ready for marathon training again as I do think this would hinder any chances of a BFP but I feel the same as you. I need to get back to a normal routine. Of course you know what will happen when you stop obsessing....you will get you BFP. Fx'd for all of us!!!

YD1- sorry for your troubles. I pray that March is your month!
Butterfly- so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you can get preggo at least. I have had the same problem since TTY for the past 10 months- 2 chemical pregnancies and a mmc at 12 weeks. I pray that this is our month!

Hi again marathon girl. Good to keep some balance I know. I am thankful that I did not run in my last pregnancy. I know that there is little chance that it could have caused a mc, but it would be the not knowing whether you had adversely affected the baby's chances. If I am ever lucky enough to manage to get pregnant again, I will be hanging up my shoes willingly for the following 9 months, not even resuming after the hallowed 12 week scan!

I second that. If I were to get pregnant, I will immediately cease my daily exercise. I'll even clean out my purse, to lessen the weight , and avoid taking the stairs.