Staged sex, you say? XD
Let me tell ya, sister! That's probably all we ever do in this house, but nobody minds. That probably sounds weird, and we do love and care very deeply for each other, but the "S" word tends to just kinda get in the way most of the time, when we'd rather be falling asleep reading a book or playing mahjong on the iPhone. XD

That's not to say it's not an enjoyable experience when it happens, I think we might just both be kinda lazy, is all. Then again, more and more, I get the impression that Japanese culture just doesn't place much emphasis on a hot, steamy romp. I think that kind of thing would have bothered me when I was in my 20s, but I don't really care now. At this point, we're just timing it right, and trying to make it count.

Hang in there, and try not to sweat that part too much, ok?

Hi Greta - Yes you can join Fertility from the UK too. You will need a special thermometer that takes basal body temps and you need to do it at the same time everyday but I found it gave me great information. I'm so happy you've found this place to share...I almost do all my sharing here so I don't drive everyone else around me nuts

Sakura - You're funny but I know that feeling. My guy loves it when it's time to try making a baby and I get worn out!

Josephine - You're playing the waiting game now. I wouldn't worry at all about not feeling anything at 5 dpo because if you are preggo your body wouldn't know yet. After 5 years hun you deserve a POSITIVE this month!! FX.

HappyDayz - What cycle day are you now? I'm CD2 and AF is HEAVY...ick.

Hi Josephine
Lovely to meet you. And you're based in the north east, which is my home area! Although I don't live there anymore.
Yep, I know how you feel regarding friends and family, all having or had babies recently...try as I might I do have off days where I think perhaps I will be the odd one out.
I have such ups and downs with it all, I mostly try to remain positive...and I have begun to consider all the other options that other people go through...adoption etc. Its been well over a year, obviously nowhere near as long as you've been trying...but what makes it hard for me sometimes is knowing I was pregnant 10 years ago with my ex but I mc at 12 weeks.
I haven't tried the temperature thing and my hubbie hasn't been tested yet...so I guess its still early days for us. Him being tested has been a bit of a sore subject recently, so I have backed off a bit. His esteem has taken a knocking with losing his job and having to work nightshift stacking shelves so I am trying to go easy and gently....but some days I get really impatient!!!
I am due to ovulate this weekend or beginning of next week so I'm cycle day 7 I think...
Lovely to share thoughts, keep them coming, I'm listening!
Good luck ladyxxx

What a fantastic attitude you have! You make me smile, and its all true what you say. I think when you've been together a long time, hot steamy romps turn into beautiful, familiar lovemaking...and I'm no way complaining. Its just weird to be placing an emphasis on timing. Especially when we struggle for time as it is...he works nights!!! I know! Worst combination!
Anyway, its good to remain light of heart.
Thank you for making me smile honey.
How are you doing?? x

Faithmum....I have been driving myself and a few other people nuts I think, so that why it feels so good to speak my mind here. It's the best thing that's happened to me in a while. I feel honoured to be speaking to all you lovely ladies about such precious stuff. x keep me posted as to how you are doing xxx

I am planning on trying in the next few months I will be 38 in April. I will be trying for #3 but sneaking into this section a little early.

The abbreviations can be a struggle but the main ones you need to know are

DD - dear daughter
DS - dear son
DH - dear husband
OH - other half
BFP - big fat positive
BFN - big fat negative
DPO - days post ovulation
DTD - having sex (doing the deed)
AF - your period

I am sure more will crop up but these are the ones that pop up the most!

Hey Greta and all!

Well, 8dpo, and I hate to say it, but I'm pretty sure I'm out.
Then again, it's quite possible that I have no idea what I'm talking about and may be misreading it. All I know is that last week when I supposedly ovulated, I was supposed to go to my doc to get an ultrasound so he could tell me if he saw any follicles. (I have endometriosis, so he's been doing the u/s a lot on me since last month). Unfortunately, my husband and I both came down with a nasty cold, and I had to cancel the appt., as well as most of our personal appointments at the Right Time. XD We did manage to sneak in a few times, but one was likely way too early (before we got sick, about 5 days before O) and the other was at least 24 hours after I think I ovulated. Meh.

I did feel left ovary pinches on the day I thought I ovulated. My temps were right up for a few days after that, but the last 4 days, they've been creeping down, down, down. I've only been charting for this cycle and the last, so I'm not entirely sure yet where exactly my coverline is, so it's hard to say what's normal - AND - since I had a low grade fever for at least one day last week, that likely messed things up, too, as far as my bbt reading.

ONE THING that's weird, though, is that the last few days, I've been feeling queasy. Queasy like I could get really sick to my stomach at times, a few times a day. Usually if I eat a little bit of bread or something, it goes away, but I'm not at all used to that kind of nausea.

I've had no indication of any possible implantation otherwise. Temps are just steadily dropping, soooo.....Who knows, but judging by the bbt alone, it's looking like we'll just have to wait out the witch and kick it back into high gear next month. Hopefully we'll not be sick with some kind of horrifying, head exploding cold then!!!

Just how important IS bbt reading? Is it always a telltale sign for everyone?

Good luck to the rest of you ladies!
Please let us know how you're hanging in there!

I have been pregnant 4 times and have 2 kids... I charted twice and both times my BBT did not indicate that I was pregnant. My fertility friend chart that I had certainly looked like a no go. I took it at the same time every day the entire cycle until I tested. For me it doesn't work!

Ooh! Good to know, Goddess!

It's been pretty weird, because I've been exhausted lately, and yesterday I craved a snack I usually NEVER buy. Also, my temp went back up a little again this morning. Figures. XD Well, I guess we'll just see when we see, then! Thanks for the encouragement! Nice to feel like there's a chance I might still be in there! Hope everyone else will update, too!

My name is Stephanie, married for 11 years this past November and mom to an almost 17 year old son (from a previous relationship), stepmom to a 13 year old daughter and my husband and I have a daughter together who turned 11 this past October. We have been TTC since our daughter was a year old--so basically 10 years now. We have had 5 miscarriages (although I've had 2 other pregnancy losses long before my I was with my husband)--so 7 in all. I found out that my progesterone was out of whack and was started on Provera March 8th to bring on a cycle since my previous lmp was Dec.1st (Nov. 30th with spotting). My cycles used to be 28 days and then gradually went to as long as 36 days...My ob/gyn didn't say I couldn't ttc right now but wants me to take the progesterone every month on the same day until I see him again next February (or I end up pregnant first)...
I have a great support system on the 2ww forum and although I still go there and have a thread there--out of all the ladies--5 are pregnant (2 are just now getting their positives) and they are all much younger than I am...I love them dearly, but sometimes I feel like the goose in a bunch of ducks...
It would be nice to know that I can share my experience here and there and still not feel like the odd man out so to speak...
As my ticker below says--I'm on CD 8 of 28 as the progesterone I now take will make my next AF come on as scheduled for a 28 day cycle...I'm still experiencing good ole' AF right now and hopefully it will leave this weekend as one website I went to said that 2 of my most fertile days are coming up and it would be nice to finally get my OPKs and get started trying...I'm not looking at using any supplements this time (although I have in the past)..Just taking prenatal vitamins, and will test for ovulation as my doctor suggested to see if I will ovulate at all...
Thank you for allowing me to be long winded..Hope everyone's stay here is brief!