Hi, I'm looking for a buddy, ideally someone over 35 trying to conceive...it would be lovely to share thoughts and advice. Most of my friends already have children or don't want them...so been feeling a bit lonely! x

Hi Gretarose - I'll be happy to be your buddy. I am about to start AF tomorrow or Tuesday so either of those days will be CD1 for me. I just tested today at CD13 and got a BFN so I'm out this month but looking forward to April being a good month.

I am 45 and ttc #4. I've got middle school twins who are 13 (boy, girl) and a son who is 14.5 years. These are all from another marriage that lasted for a really long time but sadly ended. I've been with a wonderful man who has never had children. He is 49. I sure hope we are not making a mistake trying to have children at this age but I figure if we don't try then we will never have the opportunity. I became pregnant at 44 but that ended in mc during the beginning of the second trimester. I took a long break to recover from that but ... maybe too long a break. I'm hoping I didn't use my last egg and that I still have a few fluffy ones left. We've been ttc for 4 or 5 months now. I can't remember if we really tried in December. Anyway.....welcome here gretarose. You will find lots of love and support here

Here is a link to another thread you may like - check it out and join in!
http://www.babyandbump.com/trying-co...same-boat.html

Hi Faithmum, thanks so much for the reply...I think its wonderful that you are trying to have another child with your new man...good for you! Its lovely to meet an experienced lady who already has children.
I'm 37 with no children yet. I had one miscarriage 10 years ago with my ex partner, it was a planned pergnancy and I fell pregnant straight away. It was very painful to lose and the relationship ended not long after. It took me a long time to heal.
However I have been my husband for 7 years now and we started trying about a year ago. However, we are quite stressed a lot because he lost his job so money is tight at times, and he works nightshift so its not exactly the most baby-making friendly set of circumstances...but we want to have a family.
I am struggling this month after having some strange spotting, and then a very heavy bleed...I am feeling a bit fed up with it all to be honest.
Ps. I might need your help to understand all the abbreviations! I know CD is cycle day, but what is AF etc...?
Thankyou again for the wonderful welcome and reassuring words.
I am excited to be your friend here xxx

Hello I'd love to be your buddy I'm 36 and have been ttc since August 2011, I have a DS and DD from my first marriage, and if we are lucky enough to conceive, this will be our first. Wishing you all of the luck and success x

Hi Happydayz, lovely to meet you. Thanks for the reply. Good luck to you too! Sorry to be thick, but I'm struggling with the abbreviations...DD & DS? xxx

Hi Greta!

I'm 37 (will turn 38 in May), and am currently 4 dpo. Temps are high, but I know it's way too early yet to tell anything. Just busy with the 2 week agonizing wait. I'd be happy to be your buddy, though I've never quite been a buddy with anyone on a forum yet. Not really sure how it works, but it would be wonderful to have friendly company while we're all trying our best!

Last month was our first month trying after a year of bc. It ended as a painful chemical pregnancy. Since then, I've been pounding the vitamins, as has my husband, hoping that someday, something will stick! XD

Good luck to us all!

Greta, You know what? I'm inspired by your dedication. It certainly isn't easy under 'normal' circumstances let alone having to deal with a lost job then night shifts. Bless you darling for working it!! Bummer about your period. Did you used to have regular cycles? One of the best things I did was begin taking my basal body temperature which helped me to understand what my cycle looks like. I've only done it 2 months but already I'm grateful I did. The place most use here is called Fertility Friend (FF). I think your first month can be free then you can find sometimes they have 'sales' where you can join for a year for $25. I missed the sale so I think it cost me $45 (?).

Don't give up hope! Keep a positive outlook - your BFP is coming. You know these things take time (what many of us feel we can't afford).

Happy, Sakura and Greta- For all of you in your late 30's I'd give anything to be in my 30's again. Relish your feritility. Believe in it. Know it. Celebrate it

Oh yeah - I will help you with the abbreviations. I think there is a spot on here that explains all of them but you kind of pick them up as you go. AF is your period (aunt flow).

Hi Faithmum,
How are you doing? Thank you so much for your reply, and yes I will have a look at taking my temps. The Fertility Friend sounds really useful. I take it your're in America because of the dollars?? I'm in the UK but am sure I will be able to join from here?
Since I have joined this forum I have felt a lift in my spirits, its so good to not feel alone with it all. Sometimes I don't think talking to my partner actually helps me, especially when the sex feels a bit staged...I want to give our relationship some breathing space, so its such a relief to let it pour out in this safe space. Thanks for listening ladies and wishing you all lots of love and luck and baby dust xxxxxxxxxxxxx
hello sakura-saku...lets be buddies! x

BFP??

Hey GretaRose,

Im 37 and currently TTC #1 after 5 years without even a hint of a BFP (big fat positive) all of my friends and family have children or are having children and I just seem to always get left behind .... so if you want someone to talk to and share thoughts with, i'm here in the same boat

How long have you been TTC, im currently on 5DPO with no symptoms as yet and am suffering really badly with a cold so feeling a bit run down and crappy at present

What cycle day are you on ?

lots of luck and baby dust