39 and trying to conceive:-(

jennleigh · Apr 1st, 2012, 09:52 AM

I am 39 and have been trying to conceive for the past year and 7 months. I recently just got into a specialist and so far everything looks "normal". I am going back this week to start clomid.
I have noticed the last few days I have been having brown discharge and it's a week and a half before my next period. Also, I woke up out of a sleep last night with horrible cramps and indigestion. Is this something I should be worried about? Getting frustrated!

Blythe · Apr 1st, 2012, 10:00 AM

Hi I'm 39 too and have been trying for well over a year now.....I'm 40 soon so it would have been lovely to get a positive before then. We will see. I have only had bloods done....what other tests did they do for you? Perhaps it's implantation bleeding?

jennleigh · Apr 1st, 2012, 10:13 AM

We did blood work and the dye test to make sure nothing is blocking my tubes and so far everything is good. My husband has also been checked and it's good on his end too. It seems like in the last 3 months EVERYONE has become pregnant in my circle...makes it a bit more frustrating. It's funny how we spend all these years trying not to get pregnant and now when we want to its not "easy":-)
I've had this spotting before but it was always heavier and at that time my doctor said it might be a "wonky" egg. This time it's lighter but not getting my hopes up.

gretarose · Apr 1st, 2012, 16:33 PM

Hi ladies,
I'm 38 in September and been trying for over a year...had my blood test done and everything ok. It's proving difficult to get my husband to go for his tests as its a bad time for him with losing his job/having little money/esteem low etc... so I'm trying to be patient but its hard. Its lovely to chat and read your stories.
All the best with everything x

Blythe · Apr 2nd, 2012, 00:54 AM

Yes you are right....all those years being careful not to get pregnant and now....NOTHING! Every day there seems to be a new pregnancy announcement....I might be exaggerating a bit but does feel like that sometimes....at least everything has checked as normal and now it's just a case of luck and timing....it is tiring though and the 2ww month after month is beginning to take its toll. I cannot seem to stop obsessing!

drsquid · Apr 2nd, 2012, 11:20 AM

i just turned 39. this is cycle 4 of trying. im single so.. it is all iui. first cycle i did unmedicated, 2nd and 3rd with femara (like clomid) this cycle i got out the big guns and im using injectible meds. fingers crossed for all of us.. and yeah it is frustrating, for some reason fb has started showing me when friends comment on new babies of their friends.. ie peoplei dont even know

jennleigh · Apr 2nd, 2012, 11:44 AM

I know what it feels like. We have had 5 close friends tell us they are expecting in the last 3 months. We go tomorrow for our "next step" which I think is clomid. We'll see how that goes. It is so frustrating when you think you're doing everything right and still nothing. I am still spotting which I don't find incouraging either. Trying not to obess about it and people telling you to doesn't help either. I think that's the difference between woman and men is that we think about it constantly because it's us that are dealing with it daily and people as us about it not them.
Greta, my husband wasn't too keen on it either but the doctor said before they do anything invasive they make sure they check him first too. The first time he did it (yes, he has to do it twice...lol) it came back slightly low so he went back 3 months later and it was completely normal.
Hopefully one or all of us will have good news soon:-)

gettinginfo · Apr 2nd, 2012, 18:18 PM

Hi Ladies,

I am 38, will be 39 in May. We tried for about 5 or 6 months before I went to see an RE. He did a transvaginal ultrasound and saw that I had fibroids...the bad kind(submucosal). I have to say that I was really in shock but here I am after having a myomectomy(surgery to remove fibroids) in January and starting my first TTC since the surgery. I think you are all wise to get checked out soon and do all that you can to increase your odds. I wish you all much luck!

BTW, I know what you mean by EVERYONE announcing they are pregnant. I have about 5 close friends who have either just recently delivered or recently announced they are pregnant. I long for the day I get to do that!!

jennleigh · Apr 3rd, 2012, 19:42 PM

So today we went to the specialist and she said evrything still looked " fine" but she said I'm running out of time and it wasnt on my side. I'm going to try clomid for the next few months and then last option is ivf. I'm hoping we do it naturally and not pay 10,000 but will do if it means having a baby. Scary thing is nothing is 100%. Left appt feeling not so optimistic.

AltaMom · Apr 6th, 2012, 21:55 PM

Hi Ladies. I'm 39, TTC#2. This is cycle # 16 for us, and my last cycle to concevie and deliver before I turn 40. Our DS was conceived first try, but I had Chorioamnionitis (infection of the placenta) when he was born. My blood work is all normal, but a HSG shows that I only have my right tube working, and it has a 6 cm cyst on it. We are starting another round of clommid, and have enough for 3 months. If I don't get a BFP I think IVF is our next step. We'll see how it all goes .. ugh!

Apr 1st, 2012, 09:52 AM	#1
jennleigh Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Halifax, NS Posts: 22	39 and trying to conceive:-( I am 39 and have been trying to conceive for the past year and 7 months. I recently just got into a specialist and so far everything looks "normal". I am going back this week to start clomid. I have noticed the last few days I have been having brown discharge and it's a week and a half before my next period. Also, I woke up out of a sleep last night with horrible cramps and indigestion. Is this something I should be worried about? Getting frustrated!

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Apr 1st, 2012, 10:13 AM	#3
jennleigh Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Halifax, NS Posts: 22	We did blood work and the dye test to make sure nothing is blocking my tubes and so far everything is good. My husband has also been checked and it's good on his end too. It seems like in the last 3 months EVERYONE has become pregnant in my circle...makes it a bit more frustrating. It's funny how we spend all these years trying not to get pregnant and now when we want to its not "easy":-) I've had this spotting before but it was always heavier and at that time my doctor said it might be a "wonky" egg. This time it's lighter but not getting my hopes up.

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Apr 1st, 2012, 16:33 PM	#4
gretarose Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: UK Posts: 39	Hi ladies, I'm 38 in September and been trying for over a year...had my blood test done and everything ok. It's proving difficult to get my husband to go for his tests as its a bad time for him with losing his job/having little money/esteem low etc... so I'm trying to be patient but its hard. Its lovely to chat and read your stories. All the best with everything x

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 00:54 AM	#5
Blythe Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: London Posts: 769	Yes you are right....all those years being careful not to get pregnant and now....NOTHING! Every day there seems to be a new pregnancy announcement....I might be exaggerating a bit but does feel like that sometimes....at least everything has checked as normal and now it's just a case of luck and timing....it is tiring though and the 2ww month after month is beginning to take its toll. I cannot seem to stop obsessing!

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 11:20 AM	#6
drsquid Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 3,577	i just turned 39. this is cycle 4 of trying. im single so.. it is all iui. first cycle i did unmedicated, 2nd and 3rd with femara (like clomid) this cycle i got out the big guns and im using injectible meds. fingers crossed for all of us.. and yeah it is frustrating, for some reason fb has started showing me when friends comment on new babies of their friends.. ie peoplei dont even know

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Apr 1st, 2012, 10:00 AM	#2
Blythe Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: London Posts: 769	Hi I'm 39 too and have been trying for well over a year now.....I'm 40 soon so it would have been lovely to get a positive before then. We will see. I have only had bloods done....what other tests did they do for you? Perhaps it's implantation bleeding?

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 11:44 AM	#7
jennleigh Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Halifax, NS Posts: 22	I know what it feels like. We have had 5 close friends tell us they are expecting in the last 3 months. We go tomorrow for our "next step" which I think is clomid. We'll see how that goes. It is so frustrating when you think you're doing everything right and still nothing. I am still spotting which I don't find incouraging either. Trying not to obess about it and people telling you to doesn't help either. I think that's the difference between woman and men is that we think about it constantly because it's us that are dealing with it daily and people as us about it not them. Greta, my husband wasn't too keen on it either but the doctor said before they do anything invasive they make sure they check him first too. The first time he did it (yes, he has to do it twice...lol) it came back slightly low so he went back 3 months later and it was completely normal. Hopefully one or all of us will have good news soon:-)

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 18:18 PM	#8
gettinginfo Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: San Francisco Posts: 86	Hi Ladies, I am 38, will be 39 in May. We tried for about 5 or 6 months before I went to see an RE. He did a transvaginal ultrasound and saw that I had fibroids...the bad kind(submucosal). I have to say that I was really in shock but here I am after having a myomectomy(surgery to remove fibroids) in January and starting my first TTC since the surgery. I think you are all wise to get checked out soon and do all that you can to increase your odds. I wish you all much luck! BTW, I know what you mean by EVERYONE announcing they are pregnant. I have about 5 close friends who have either just recently delivered or recently announced they are pregnant. I long for the day I get to do that!!

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 19:42 PM	#9
jennleigh Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Halifax, NS Posts: 22	So today we went to the specialist and she said evrything still looked " fine" but she said I'm running out of time and it wasnt on my side. I'm going to try clomid for the next few months and then last option is ivf. I'm hoping we do it naturally and not pay 10,000 but will do if it means having a baby. Scary thing is nothing is 100%. Left appt feeling not so optimistic.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 21:55 PM	#10
AltaMom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 171	Hi Ladies. I'm 39, TTC#2. This is cycle # 16 for us, and my last cycle to concevie and deliver before I turn 40. Our DS was conceived first try, but I had Chorioamnionitis (infection of the placenta) when he was born. My blood work is all normal, but a HSG shows that I only have my right tube working, and it has a 6 cm cyst on it. We are starting another round of clommid, and have enough for 3 months. If I don't get a BFP I think IVF is our next step. We'll see how it all goes .. ugh!

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