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Old Jan 16th, 2017, 18:48 PM   851
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It's so difficult to keep a massive part of your life (and 80% of my thoughts) a "secret"

We've been TTC for 8 months, I have a wonderful step-daughter and 5 nieces.
I think people are constantly waiting for me to announce I'm pregnant.
My mum had fertility problems and it took her 5 years and numerous rounds of Clomid.. I think I don't want to worry her more than anything because she'll instantly think the worst, so I can't share this.
I'm so happy I decided to join this forum after months :-)
I don't feel so alone now xxx

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Old Jan 19th, 2017, 07:30 AM   852
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Hello ladies. This is my 4th month of officially TTC and im getting really deflated

I don't think we caught ovulation on the first month. Our 2nd month we definitely caught ovulation, I was feeling abit off then I suddenly had a really heavy period a week before my due date (that has never happened before, I normally have 30-35 day cycles and I came on on day 21)

Last month we once again caught ovulation however because of what happened the month before my partner is saying it was always going to be hit and miss...

I'm starting to worry something is wrong with me as were both young (24 & 29) so why isn't it happening... this month's ovulation is due on the 25th so we will be chatting and trying again however we are going on holiday for my 25th I've read online it shouldn't affect the baby (if there happens to be one) but I guess we can't put our life's on hold forever.

I know alot of people have waited alot longer but I've already waiting 5 years ti get to a point where I can every try so this is killing me!

Baby dust to all xx

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Old Jan 19th, 2017, 08:04 AM   853
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Don't stress yourself yet, 4 months is not a long time in the TTC world. I know it seems like it happens fast for other people, but that is not the norm, and we don't always know what everyone went through to get there. Remember, even if you time everything perfectly, you still only have a 20% chance of conceiving each cycle. And at your age, as long as your cycles are regular they don't even recommend going to the doc until you have been TTC for a year or more.

We were NTNP for about a year, and TTC for the last 8 months. I am 28, DH is 30. We are both fit and healthy. I have already been to the doc because I went several months without ovulating at all. Tomorrow I start my 4th round of clomid. Really hoping this cycle will be the one. Fx!

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Old Mar 7th, 2017, 07:35 AM   854
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What sometimes makes me upset is thinking I missed my time when I had more chances to conceive. I'm over 30 now, but maybe in 20s it would have been easier. But I chose career over kid

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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 12:32 PM   855
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I love this thread! This will be DH and I's first month ever TTC, as we have been NTNP for the last month. Although we haven't been "harassed" very much yet about when we will be having a baby, I still absolutely hate the pressure being put on us! My sister and brother-in-law went through 3 years of infertility and eventually conceived via IVF, and as soon as they announced their pregnancy this past thanksgiving, DH's grandma said "welp your next!". Not only is that rude to my SIL but how do I respond to that in front of the whole family?!

I also have another complaint.. too many to count I suppose! lol...and that is women who get pregnant by accident and complain about it! I have a girl in my office at work who was not TTC and always brags about how it wasn't planned. One minute she is talking about buying cute outfits and deciding on a name, the next she is talking about how she can't wait until "this thing comes out" and is also super dramatic about how crappy she feels all the time. She will literally walk around the office at the pace of a snail talking about her back hurting, having a headache, going to throw up, etc etc etc. I TOTALLY understand that pregnancy affects everyone's body differently, but this is 24/7. I just want to shake her and say "stop acting whiny and be grateful you are growing an effing human!!!"

Sorry for the rant, but its now over!

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Old May 11th, 2017, 21:06 PM   856
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Oh, this thread is perfect for me right now! I have a 6 year old son who took me about a year of actively TTC to get pregnant with. A lot of changes happened over those 6 years and I am in a new relationship with my current partner of 5 years. We have been waiting to TTC until we have all our ducks in a row when it comes to our careers and credit and emotional stability. We finally felt ready to start TTC and we are on cycle 2 now.

My vent portion of this is that my brother who is about 2 years younger than me has a mess of a life. Just filed for a divorce, he can't support himself or his 2 year old son. I hate to say it but he's just a loser right now. However, his new girlfriend of less than 2 months just announced that they are pregnant with twins!! WTF?! Why is it that the people who shouldn't be having kids are the ones that get pregnant so easy?? Of course I got their "good" news the day after my period started after our first month of TTC. So I am devestated. Ugh, thanks for giving me a place to release my frustrations.

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Old May 15th, 2017, 02:59 AM   857
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Hello ladies
This is my 9th month TTC after an ectopic pregnancy... Since than my cycles have been irregular, ranging from 20-28days.
Both me and my DH are 30yrs old and have done every possible test and analysis, and nothing came wrong until this month. It turned out I have luteal insufficiency with low levels of FSH and LH- I do sports regularly. I did folliculometry this cycle and have ovulated, so my doc put me on natural progesterone pill and now I'm in the TWW...
I am very veeery happy for everyone who got BFP, but I can not describe the depression and poor feeling I have knowing that I am the only one not getting pregnant. 90% of my girlfriends are expecting or have kids.. Trust me, I think the only person in my life right know who is NOT pregnant is my male dog (yes, my female dog is ALSO pregnant). Trying to be positive, really trying, but it gets so hard sometimes.
I wish you guys have better luck, more positive thoughts, shorter waiting time and less depressive feeling... Sorry for my bad english

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