my oh has the same problem but only since he has been on his ADs, when he told the doctor we were ttc he gave us viagra, but all that means is pressure on oh to finish, the doctor says without it we can only ttc every five days which as you know is not good for ov time when every day bding counts, have read every post in this thread and am glad i found it, i am in my fertile time at the moment and am really worried that my oh is stressing as much as i am! it is difficult as he has only been on the ADs for a year, before that we concieved our other babies fine.

Hi Ladies,

Just wanted to check in and tell you that DH has been taking Maca (Brand: Pure Maca - 2x a day) and it has made a serious improvement!! I highly recommend it! He has been able to finish almost every time since he started taking it (one time - he wasn't but I think I was putting too much pressure on him and we were probably BDing too often). It also has increased his libido. As I mentioned DH has been on SSRIs for about 10 years and has had this problem off and on - but recently has been worse. It seems that the Maca may be a good antidote.

No BFP yet - and we aren't able to BD every day - or even every other day- but we are making improvements - so hopefully we will be able to conceive naturally soon!

Good luck everyone!

I realize this thread was started quite a long time ago, but since it at least still had activity in this year I hope it's okay to 'bump' the thread now.

I'm a new B&B member, and this thread is what drew me to the board. I just have to say reading everyone's stories and struggles was a HUGE help to me. My DH and I have been together three years and have struggled with DE in that time. When we decided we were ready to start a family, I wasn't sure it would ever work for us. For four months got into a daily BD routine during my ovulation window, and my DH was only able to 'finish' just once. It was starting to get stressful to for both of us and I knew that would only make it harder.

But there have been so many useful tips on this board! We haven't tried all the methods yet, but this past week we've been trying one method which seems popular, in which we start the BD, he pulls out and 'works' on himself, then enters me to finish. The first time we got this to work, I think we were both just so relieved! While I value our sex life and I want to fix things together so my DH can finish each time, or at least more often, and get as much pleasure as I do, as we're both over 30 now TTC has taken top priority over everything else. I'm happy we have alternatives to try now that alleviate some of the pressure off my DH. Here's hoping we'll have a BFP someday soon!

Hey buttercream good luck my dh has never been able to finish during sex only ever through him masturbsting, however we have conceived 8 times using the method you are trying sadly we suffered 5 mc but are days away from delivering our third child so it does def work xx

Me and DH also have some probs in this area. trying yohimbe, will keep u posted!

Stories like yours are what give me hope and made me sign up here, THANK YOU! So sorry for your mcs, but wow, days away from baby number three, you are truly blessed! I love my DH more than anything and I know he'll make a wonderful father, DE can be such a source of stress but I've made him see he's not alone in this. I'm just glad we've been able to work through this together and find alternative solutions to attempt. We just have a different sort of BD now!

My dh has this problem if we babydance too much, or if he gets "close" a couple of times and doesn't go, it's hard for him to go. A few nights ago we used the "get yourself close and then enter me" method.

We will see if we conceived this month. I am really, really hoping so.

Ohhhh I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!! That's how we did it this cycle too. I'm a little sad because we had crazy schedules during my 'window', so we didn't get to DTD every night like I hoped. But I'm still anxiously waiting out this 2WW!

Just wanna share my success story. Currently having a 1yo boy. My DH has delayed ejaculation and has never been successful inside me. Worst, I have PCOS so I don't ovulate often. I went for TCM treatment & exercise regularly. Finally, We are able to conceive through the method that you guys have discussed previously.

Now I wanna try for #2 but it is even harder coz DH has difficulty to stay hard now. My PCOS problem remains so I guess we just have to try harder.

hi just found this site and its good to realise others have the same problems. my beloved has had this problem for years, before i met him. We both would love children. Been trying with syringe for quite a while now as the dr suggested, but no luck yet. Also makes it more complicated as I am 39 and when i was 30 was diagnosed with bad endometriosis. Got an appointment next few weeks to go down the IVF route. It's a tricky one! Should we try a bit longer or just go for the IVF????? Good luck to everyone out there. I know being stressed about it makes things worse, but its difficult not to stress when its so important to you