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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 17:25 PM   11
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oh ya, my neighbors tried for about 10 years and nothing.... then when she was 38 she got pregnant! 4 months after their first was born she got pregnant again! One year later she was pregnant again! Even though she was at an "advanced age" and breast feeding when she got pregnant with the second and third - you can still get your miricle



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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 17:34 PM   12
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oh ya, my neighbors tried for about 10 years and nothing.... then when she was 38 she got pregnant! 4 months after their first was born she got pregnant again! One year later she was pregnant again! Even though she was at an "advanced age" and breast feeding when she got pregnant with the second and third - you can still get your miricle
Not if you can't actually do the deed and on a consistent basis...These stories are great but they are other people .I can't believe he had a can of enregy drink.
its like whats the point of me doing al i can when he goes to work and plays up...I could be doing all I can and the he goes and screws up behind my back... undoing any good work I have done...wow i am worse off than i thought....



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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 17:54 PM   13
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Have you got any friends you can sit and chat with? Sister? You sound not only stressed but lonely? I wish i had the words to make you feel better xxx



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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 17:58 PM   14
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Have you got any friends you can sit and chat with? Sister? You sound not only stressed but lonely? I wish i had the words to make you feel better xxx
sister lives far away?mum doesn't want to know...anyway thanks



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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 18:00 PM   15
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Well you always have us on here :-) xxx



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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 18:02 PM   16
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I know it's hard because these stories are all about other people....but that's all people can really give, and I DO think there are things in the stories of others to give you hope! When you said your age, the idea that time had run out didn't even enter my head, I would never consider someone of your age to be out of time, (unless they maybe specifically had an issue, such as early menopause, and had been told so) ...I know it's not much help to say 'my mum had me at 38!' (she did and all) but I think what everyone is trying to say is that you havn't run out of time. Not yet, not now, not for a good, long while, years infact. This is a fine time to have a baby, I have several friends starting at that age or near enough, some a good few years older. I really, really hope it all begins to work out for you and you get to the root of the problem with hubby, because it sounds like something emotional, between you two, whether it be 'pressure to perform' , or feeling pressured by ttc, or anything else. Keep talking to ladies here, and if you do feel you need some support that is based on age and some encouragement, hop to ttc after 35 and speak to some of the lovely ladies in there.



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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 18:08 PM   17
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I don't have much to add to the previous posts, but I couldn't read and run either.
I agree that a good long talk might need to happen.
Sending lots of and the best of wishes. Try as best you can to keep positive (I know that sounds super hard and most of the time it is really hard, but I hope that you can!) and make sure there is no shadow of a doubt that your DH knows how you feel about everything.



 
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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 18:40 PM   18
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I can see why your frustrated xx my cycles are everywhere and basically none existent! when I find out I'm about to ovulate oh is tired, can't be bothered, having male pmt!! I think we need to make the most of the opportunity and it feels like he can't be bothered!! I'm going for tests and he just shrugs it off! he won't see a doctor!
yet he assures me he wants a child!!?

do you think maybe he got stage fright??



 
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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 18:54 PM   19
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I know it's hard because these stories are all about other people....but that's all people can really give, and I DO think there are things in the stories of others to give you hope! When you said your age, the idea that time had run out didn't even enter my head, I would never consider someone of your age to be out of time, (unless they maybe specifically had an issue, such as early menopause, and had been told so) ...I know it's not much help to say 'my mum had me at 38!' (she did and all) but I think what everyone is trying to say is that you havn't run out of time. Not yet, not now, not for a good, long while, years infact. This is a fine time to have a baby, I have several friends starting at that age or near enough, some a good few years older. I really, really hope it all begins to work out for you and you get to the root of the problem with hubby, because it sounds like something emotional, between you two, whether it be 'pressure to perform' , or feeling pressured by ttc, or anything else. Keep talking to ladies here, and if you do feel you need some support that is based on age and some encouragement, hop to ttc after 35 and speak to some of the lovely ladies in there.
Thankyou fo ryour kind words.I have been on over 35..My issue is that they did find a low AMH..I'm not menopausal(touch Wood)..Every FS I hav e rung and i have said my age have said i have little time left... I guess its playing with my headI have never pressured him to do it and thats the thing that upsets me... last night I felt really natural about it and I really wanted to .Now with me getting upset I really feel it could create a real hole between us...I'm pretty angry with him as he has admitted drinking caffeine yesterday and blames that when we agreed we wouldn't...I'm just really down because I have tried to be informed and proactive and he hasn't even wanted to...
he said he wants kids hes 32!



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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 18:57 PM   20
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I can see why your frustrated xx my cycles are everywhere and basically none existent! when I find out I'm about to ovulate oh is tired, can't be bothered, having male pmt!! I think we need to make the most of the opportunity and it feels like he can't be bothered!! I'm going for tests and he just shrugs it off! he won't see a doctor!
yet he assures me he wants a child!!?

do you think maybe he got stage fright??
He might of...he also shrugged yesterday when i said I am seeing aFS in march a cheaper one.he was almost not interested...i dunno whats wrong with him ist like he has PMS I feel exactly like you do..wow no wonder we're struggling



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