TTC with VERY young LO??

chelseav1213 · Feb 12th, 2013, 14:08 PM

I have been wanting to try since LO was born practically. I thought it would go away but I still want to try so bad. Then I actually think about it and wonder if I should? Is this going to go away or should I just go ahead and try to complete my family early?? LO is only 4.5 months old! Ahh I need someone to push me in the right direction!!

Also, I will actually have to TRY as I have PCOS and it is very hard for me to conceive, so I don't want to wait too long then it take years to have another I want them close in age

Ariannda · Feb 12th, 2013, 14:13 PM

My SIL has one totally blocked tube and one partially blocked tube, they started trying as soon as their daughter was born but they weren't doing more than tracking and BDing. it took them 14 months. She will now have 2 under 2 (well almost exactly two), so really it depends on how young you're willing to have your kids spaced

Pixie_Dust · Feb 12th, 2013, 14:49 PM

My dd is 9 months and we have been not trying but not preventing since she was born.. I only have one tube so we thought we would get to it

6lilpigs · Feb 12th, 2013, 14:57 PM

You may find that the b/f stops your ovulation for a while it does for me which is frustrating or I would love to have them super close. Just let nature take its course you may find you get a nice 18 month gap between them

chelseav1213 · Feb 12th, 2013, 15:09 PM

I had to stop breast feeding due to LO being intolerant, and shortly after stopping AF came back, OB put me on BC but im conteplating getting off of it before it actually kicks in next month, im just worried I may regret it if Ihave another one this oon because Im worried I wont give LO as much attention as he deserves :-\

Ariannda · Feb 12th, 2013, 16:30 PM

I can tell you that IF you were to get pregnant immediately it would be very hard to have an infant and a newborn. Their schedules wont be the same, it's not like twins where they're doing things at the same time. Now this isn't to say it would be impossible of course, people do it all the time, but it would be hard. It also isn't good physically to have back to back pregnancies, you want to be the healthiest you can be for new baby as well.

Now on the other hand you do have PCOS and you'll have to try. They suggest 18 months between pregnancies if you can help it. Now this is totally and absolutely 100% up to you and DH of course but if it were me i'd wait until baby is 9-12 months old, and then start trying, BUT good luck in whatever you decide. I know it's not easy

Pixie_Dust · Feb 12th, 2013, 16:39 PM

Yes, I have to say I'm pretty glad my dd is 9 months now as its not so much like having two very little ones and my dd has got all my attention. We only started trying so soon as my chances are so much slimmer with one tube due to an ectopic and an issue with ovary and I'd rather have two small than not have another baby. But I think now there is quite a nice gap

bassdesire · Feb 12th, 2013, 16:47 PM

I'd wait. About a year apart seems like insanity to me! Your feeling doesn't have to go away. You know you want another and you'll have it. Your body needs time to heal you just had a baby!!! It is your decision but I would absolutely wait until 6 months, ideally a year. Your kids will still be two under two. Mine are 23 mo apart. It's very hard but manageable. Can you carry two non walkers? Think about everything before you decide!!

Good luck with whatever you decide. Life will get in either way and I'm sure you'll manage!!

bassdesire · Feb 12th, 2013, 16:49 PM

And I really feel that baby deserves at least six months of your time

and you deserve to enjoy this time, too

chelseav1213 · Feb 12th, 2013, 16:52 PM

Thanks for the advice ladies. I think we've decided to stick with the BC and just wait and try maybe in fall or something.

Feb 12th, 2013, 14:08 PM	#1
chelseav1213 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Ohio Posts: 745	TTC with VERY young LO?? I have been wanting to try since LO was born practically. I thought it would go away but I still want to try so bad. Then I actually think about it and wonder if I should? Is this going to go away or should I just go ahead and try to complete my family early?? LO is only 4.5 months old! Ahh I need someone to push me in the right direction!! Also, I will actually have to TRY as I have PCOS and it is very hard for me to conceive, so I don't want to wait too long then it take years to have another I want them close in age

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Feb 12th, 2013, 14:13 PM	#2
Ariannda Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Posts: 480	My SIL has one totally blocked tube and one partially blocked tube, they started trying as soon as their daughter was born but they weren't doing more than tracking and BDing. it took them 14 months. She will now have 2 under 2 (well almost exactly two), so really it depends on how young you're willing to have your kids spaced

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Feb 12th, 2013, 14:49 PM	#3
Pixie_Dust Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 304	My dd is 9 months and we have been not trying but not preventing since she was born.. I only have one tube so we thought we would get to it

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Feb 12th, 2013, 14:57 PM	#4
6lilpigs Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,913	You may find that the b/f stops your ovulation for a while it does for me which is frustrating or I would love to have them super close. Just let nature take its course you may find you get a nice 18 month gap between them

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Feb 12th, 2013, 15:09 PM	#5
chelseav1213 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Ohio Posts: 745	I had to stop breast feeding due to LO being intolerant, and shortly after stopping AF came back, OB put me on BC but im conteplating getting off of it before it actually kicks in next month, im just worried I may regret it if Ihave another one this oon because Im worried I wont give LO as much attention as he deserves :-\

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Feb 12th, 2013, 16:30 PM	#6
Ariannda Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Posts: 480	I can tell you that IF you were to get pregnant immediately it would be very hard to have an infant and a newborn. Their schedules wont be the same, it's not like twins where they're doing things at the same time. Now this isn't to say it would be impossible of course, people do it all the time, but it would be hard. It also isn't good physically to have back to back pregnancies, you want to be the healthiest you can be for new baby as well. Now on the other hand you do have PCOS and you'll have to try. They suggest 18 months between pregnancies if you can help it. Now this is totally and absolutely 100% up to you and DH of course but if it were me i'd wait until baby is 9-12 months old, and then start trying, BUT good luck in whatever you decide. I know it's not easy

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Feb 12th, 2013, 16:39 PM	#7
Pixie_Dust Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 304	Yes, I have to say I'm pretty glad my dd is 9 months now as its not so much like having two very little ones and my dd has got all my attention. We only started trying so soon as my chances are so much slimmer with one tube due to an ectopic and an issue with ovary and I'd rather have two small than not have another baby. But I think now there is quite a nice gap

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Feb 12th, 2013, 16:47 PM	#8
bassdesire Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,939	I'd wait. About a year apart seems like insanity to me! Your feeling doesn't have to go away. You know you want another and you'll have it. Your body needs time to heal you just had a baby!!! It is your decision but I would absolutely wait until 6 months, ideally a year. Your kids will still be two under two. Mine are 23 mo apart. It's very hard but manageable. Can you carry two non walkers? Think about everything before you decide!! Good luck with whatever you decide. Life will get in either way and I'm sure you'll manage!!

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Feb 12th, 2013, 16:49 PM	#9
bassdesire Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,939	And I really feel that baby deserves at least six months of your time and you deserve to enjoy this time, too

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Feb 12th, 2013, 16:52 PM	#10
chelseav1213 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Ohio Posts: 745	Thanks for the advice ladies. I think we've decided to stick with the BC and just wait and try maybe in fall or something.

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