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Old Apr 18th, 2013, 15:49 PM   1
spanzee
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Dont know how to feel.


So im on my first month TTC with my OH.
and i just found out that my best friend who took her own life back in december was pregnant.
A mutual friend has just found out and sent me a picture of my best friend with a tiny bump.

I dont know how to feel. If it was an accident id understand, but she had taken her own life and also the childs.
I feel angered. Ive been through trying before with an ex partner and it hurts to know that she didnt appreciate the life she had growing inside her.

Is it bad of me to feel this way or is it understandable :/
I dont know how to feel! xx



 
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Old Apr 18th, 2013, 15:56 PM   2
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It's perfectly normal to feel confused we are only human! Nobody can know for sure exactly what was going on inside her head to make her choose to do that.

Sending for you. I hope you can find a way to help you through this difficult situation and may your TTC journey be a short one. Good luck.



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Old Apr 18th, 2013, 16:06 PM   3
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It's perfectly normal to feel confused we are only human! Nobody can know for sure exactly what was going on inside her head to make her choose to do that.

Sending for you. I hope you can find a way to help you through this difficult situation and may your TTC journey be a short one. Good luck.
Thank You. I know she was having a rough time.
thank you. and yourself xx



 
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Old Apr 18th, 2013, 18:05 PM   4
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its normal to have conflicting feelings about someone we care about that commits suicide, it's so hard to understand and to rationalize why they did what they did...If she didn't value her own life and thought the only way to get out was to end it, its understandable that she would not appreciate the life inside her either... I hope you find compassion for her in your heart and that you can mourn your lost friend.

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Old Apr 18th, 2013, 19:20 PM   5
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I think very nearly all thoughts we have when we lose a loved one to suicide are acceptable. It's a terrible way to lose someone you care about.

And TTCing can be emotional and we all feel things we don't always understand even if we feel them strongly. It makes sense you might feel angry and don't worry if you don't know why.

Good happy lucky baby thoughts to you and your OH on TTC journey!!



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2013, 05:11 AM   6
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Thanks Ladies! xxx



 
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