When we began TTC 6 months ago, I told my family, friends and colleagues that we were trying.
Now every time I see certain people they ask me how its going. Whilst this is normal and natural of them, I feel like they are getting impatient and/or worried, and I feel like a failure. I have one particularly insensitive colleague who fell pregnant at the drop of a hat with her twin girls, and she is always like 'just relax', and 'it happened so quickly for me', grrrrr.
Its a double edged sword, because 1. I like to be honest and open, and 2. during the TWW that I cant help but talk about it, as its on my mind most of the time.
I am thinking of telling certain 'judgey' and over interested people that we've stopped trying, just to take the pressure off myself. I dont like lying to them though. Oh why am I such a blabbermouth!?
Rant over, cheers for listening xx
i know how you feel. No one knew we were ttc, and then I had an ectopic, and I see people looking at my tummy when they talk to me. Its getting quite annoying. In someways it would be easier if they asked, but dont in case they upset me. You cant win!!!
oh darlin' I'm sorry. That would annoy the hell outta me too. The bad part is that you have to encounter it everywhere you go.
I think you should say something like "if anything happens you'll be one of the first to know". I only say that because I wonder if saying that you're not trying will make them all "oh, you poor thing and blah blah blah". Who knows? Either way, I hope you're able to squash all of the questions.
I told my one friend by accident, posted something in a chat window for her that was meant for my hubby...
She has basically told me that I am pathetic for doing research on pregnancy before actually getting preggers which I found really offensive. I want to be prepared and feel that I am 100% more prepared for all the research I've done.
It especially bugs me as the minute they decided to try they went off of BC and were preggers within 20 days so she doesn't understand what it's like to try and not succeed.
You guys are great, thanks
Im just off to meet a friend and Im going to try the 'you'll be the first to know' line.
Crypto - yes alot of people look at my stomach before they look at my face these days. Unfortunately for me Im sort of 'apple shaped' - slim arms and legs but with a bit of a pot belly. Therefore after they've looked at my stomach, they meet my eyes with an expectant look on their face. So I get to feel great for not being pregnant and then doubly great for looking like I am pregnant! Actually typing that has made me chuckle to myself and taken the pressure off a bit. Thanks all xx
ive only told a couple of very close friends (they've both just had their first babies) that we ttc - if we successful this will be my 3rd, 1st for OH but its been such a long time as my girls are 19 & 12, that i felt I had to confide in my buddies but def wont be telling anyone else, think theres enough pressure without family etc constantly asking how its going all be it they would mean well...
Im doing all the research possible, tend to get a bit obsessed about things but the more informed the better as far as im concerned..
Good luck to all of us
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