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Old Jul 17th, 2013, 10:15 AM   1
SparkleSpark
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Hopeless... Need some positive BFP stories


Hi All,

we have been TTC baby #1 since over 6months now and I have a feeling that this is just not going to happen... I just feel so hopeless, I don't understand why this is not happening! My friend just got married and got pregnant the first month trying... I'm happy for her but deep inside it made me feel so sad because I keep thinking that something is wrong with us... we have been using OPK's, temping, etc and I know for sure that I'm ovulating. (Not every month, but every other month)

Anyways, it would give me some hope to hear some BFP stories of some of you who have been TTC over a longer period of time and finally got their BFP.
Right now, I just feel like I'm the outcast since everyone around me gets pregnant like it's nothing...

Thanks so much!!



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2013, 10:47 AM   2
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Sparkle,

I understand exactly how you feel. Every single one of my friends fell pregnant after 1 or 2 months of trying. By the time month 8 came around I broke down in tears at work once. I think venting helped me to relax a bit. I didn't even want to try month 9 because it would mean if we had a baby they would be due around Xmas. But we decided, what if we were went to have a baby that cycle. So we continued trying, temping, using OPKs as usual. I didn't stress about it like I usually did. Only a few days after I ovulated, my husband and I had a good feeling about it. Sure enough I tested at 11DPO and had a positive of a FRER and a Cb Digi.

So keep your head up. It will happen.



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2013, 11:02 AM   3
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Good story Kristeeny1!

I haven't had my BFP yet but my sister in law and my brother tried for 18 months before they got their BFP. They kept it all natural. They were worried and told the family a few times they might go get checked out somewhere but they never did. According to my brother they did a lot of BDing haha. My sister inlaw says she would try to hang upside down afterwards HAHA. She's silly though so who knows if thats true! But it did happen for them! They gave our family an adorable little granddaughter/niece! Whom I loooooove very much!



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2013, 12:05 PM   4
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Thank you ladies for your positive stories, this already made me feel much better!

Kristeeny, I broke down at work too, locked myself in the bathroom and just started crying... it's just so discouraging to watch it happening for everybody else so easily. Thanks for your story, I'm happy to hear that you finally got your BFP after 9months! This really gives me courage not to give up!



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2013, 16:40 PM   5
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I finally got my bfp after 10 months of trying. Like you I was feeling like it would never happen. I stopped using opk's and just bd as much as possible I started focusing on other things like losing weight. And when my af was late I didn't really think I was just thought I was having another off cycle. But amazingly I got my bfp at two weeks after af was due!
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Old Jul 17th, 2013, 16:59 PM   6
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We were not trying for a long time, then actively tried for 7 months before we got our bfp. Apparently (according to doctors) a year is average for TTC. It's a long time, I know! We used pre-seed, softcups and the month before we got our BFP, hubby started taking Zinc along with his normal multivitamin to help sperm motility. I was also using opk's to target ovulation. We also used the SMEP plan.

One of my good friends tried for 2 years before she got her BFP. Turns out she had low progesterone from being on birth control for years. I know she ended up taking Vitex to help regulate her cycles.

Hang in there! I know it's frustrating! Especially when all of a sudden it seems facebook is full of scan pictures, BFP announcements, pregger pics, etc... Just keep trying!



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2013, 19:13 PM   7
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hi girls!!!
I was just about to write my own thread of feeling depressed and down..
I've just started AF a few days ago.. and it really kicked me in the gut this time and makes me want to throw in the towel for good..
managed to BD the right times and frequency this cycle (which usually is a huge stress as we dont really BD often) and honestly thought I'd caught the egg this time!! but alas AF came...

struggling with my relationship with DH and yet really feel like its my time to be a mother.. but have not had any success..
all the girls around me are getting pregnant at the drop of a hat
and Im left feeling like a fool and feeling sorry for myself...

hang in there girls... we'll all eventually get there
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Old Jul 17th, 2013, 22:10 PM   8
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I remember being so surprised the first month that DH and I really did everything right and not getting pregnant. I was really pretty sad and I was shocked at how sad I really got. I didn't even realize my expectations were high!



 
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Old Jul 18th, 2013, 08:43 AM   9
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Wow Rhiannon, what a great story!! Congrats on your BFP, I hope I will see these lovely two pink lines on your profile pic on one of my tests one day! I'm so tired of seeing snowwhite BFN's... I think I won't use OPK's next cycle either, it's just putting too much pressure when you get that positive test and then feeling like you MUST BD on time! Pressure is definitely not a good thing.

Kalyrra - your story gives me hope too! Thank you so much for sharing! I will try to have DH take multivitamins and zinc too, doesn't hurt. He finally agreed to support. Seeing that already 6 months went by and nothing happend made him finally realize that it's just not that easy as we thought. So hopefully he will at least do his part to improve his sperm count and motility.

Bubblebelly - I know exactly how you feel! TTC puts a lot of stress on a couple... every time I get a BFN and AF shows her face, I'm getting so depressed that me and DH start to argue for no reason. It just makes me so sad and sometimes I even start thinking that it's his fault that this is not happening. I know I'm wrong for that... we don't even know if there IS anything wrong but you just start to question things... For how long have you've been trying?

Jessthemess - story of my life! lol It really IS frustrating trying everything possible every month and then it's still not happening! It's like - what else are we supposed to do, we tried almost everything! Softcups, Preseed, OPK's, temping, doing a handstand after BD, you NAME it! And still - nothing! lol

Anyways, thanks for the encouragement ladies, keep the BFP stories coming! Really gives me lots of hope!



 
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Old Jul 18th, 2013, 16:05 PM   10
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Took us 3 years!!! But we got there in the end. Felt like it was never going to happen!!!



 
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