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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 03:12 AM   1
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What's wrong with just good old fashioned sex?!


I know that some people have genuine fertility problems so this post isn't right for everyone but just wanted to remind everyone else out there that its good old fashioned sex that makes a baby!!!
Not temp charting, ovulation kit testing, vitamins, supplements, timing BD etc. JUST SEX!!!!
I am a firm believer that the more you stress about getting pregnant the less likely it is to happen unless of course underlying issues.
Why don't we all make a conscious effort next cycle (if we don't get our BFPs) to just enjoy baby making and take it for what it is!!
No added extras, no timed BD, just lust between you and OH as and when you fancy it!

The human body is an amazing thing, and O actually makes a woman more 'fruity' naturally. So drop the kits etc for 1 month and enjoy!!

You might be surprised, loads of my friends have obsessed over getting pregnant for years, finally thought sod this and then gotten pregnant! Worth a shot



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 03:16 AM   2
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Ive done exactly that this cycle havent stressed over a single thing this time around just totally gone with the flow, fingers crossed it get me my bfp x



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 03:51 AM   3
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Nothing wrong with just having sex and seeing what happens. That's how its been done for years and a lot of people will consider not using contraception and having regular sex when they feel like it as "trying for a baby".

But from a talking-on-a-baby-forum point of view that is considered "Not Trying, Not Protecting- NTNP", where as "Trying to Conceive -TTC" is when you chart, watch for fertile signs, time sex ... anything additional to just having sex. If we all decided to NTNP then the TTC forums would be empty and everyone would be on the NTNP forum!! After all we are posting/reading here because we are taking additional steps to get pregnant.

NTNP has its place, TTC has its place.

I'm very much TTC atm and have no plans to move the NTNP. I have two young children, one of whom is still BFing, getting his molar's and given half the chance will be in bed with us. If I don't TTC, if I don't watch my cycle and time sex accordingly then I won't get pregnant because I won't have sex. Without making the extra effort to time DS's naps during the day, convince him to sleep in his own bed and switch off the PC's/ TV before we've had half a chance to relax then there's very little guarantee we would actually get around to it when we need to.

During ovulation I might fancy sex.... I also might fancy a chunky kit kat, a cup of tea and to watch an hour of TV between finally settling DS and going to bed cos I've had that kind of day with the kids!

It is just not realistic for many people in many different circumstances with many different sex lives/libido to just have sex when they feel like it and still get pregnant.

Also....how many women would truly be NTNP? I know when I'm fertile. Regardless of OPK's, ovulation microscopes, temperature changes.... I know when I'm fertile and whether I've agreed to NTNP or TTC I'll instigate sex around ovulation if I'm wanting a baby, or avoid sex if I'm not. So there will never be a cycle for me when I'm not aware of my fertile period anyway. My miscarriage was technically a NTNP cycle....but I knew when I was ovulating and made sure we had sex.....so really just a low tech TTC cycle.



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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 03:53 AM   4
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I am definite ttc but don't use kits, charts etc. we do exist



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 04:04 AM   5
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I do agree with little mum and I think NTNP & TTC can be the same thing as why wouldnt you take contraceptive if you didn't want a baby??

and I no out of experience when I was stressing about it and using opks etc it took me an extra 5 months to get pregnant compared to when I wasn't stressing about it with the other 3 pregnancies. stress is def not good when TTC. JMO.



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 04:10 AM   6
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Plus stressing about it kills the romance! I don't think my OH would be too please if I only found a space for him in my busy schedule around ovulation

I have come off of BC to conceive but I feel that the whole testing daily stuff etc is waaaaay OTT, just my opinion tho



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 04:11 AM   7
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Im very much trying but not charting or anything I tried using okp and timing sex and it just didnt work it had me on the bottom im sure it works just fine for some people but it doesnt work at all for me, the only thing were doing this cycle is trying to not go too long without dtd but thats about it, im really enjoying ttc this month it feels right and a lot more natural and honestly the month has flew over because im not stressing symptom spotting testing mega early just enjoying the ride and waiting for af to be late x



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 04:17 AM   8
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its so easy to become obsessed with ttc so the laid back approach is definitely better I think



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 06:51 AM   9
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This is the second time on your posts I have to say this mantra, To Each Their Own.

It sounds like maybe you are trying to convince yourself that what you are doing is OK, and yes whatever you do to make a family is your decision and your right. I just say let others make their family they want to, whether they want to do OPKs, pee on a million sticks or whatever...



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 07:19 AM   10
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definitely each to their own but I don't think she meant her post in a negative way.



 
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