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Old Nov 4th, 2015, 06:42 AM   1
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When is enough?

At what point do you say enough is enough and accept that being a mother isn't meant to be? I think I'm getting to that point but I know my husband will never accept that, which probably means my marriage going down the pan along with motherhood!
I've failed at most things in life, never been good at anything, never wanted to be anything but a mother, you get used to feeling like a failure but failing at nature is whole heap of horribleness!

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Old Nov 4th, 2015, 16:02 PM   2
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Ah hun please dont be disheartened,it can be really stressfull believe me i know!! trying to concieve is all about timing & theres such a miniscule window each month to catch that egg, it doesnt happen overnight for some.. If you have long cycles, there are natural remedies to help make you ovulate sooner in your cycle, it took nearly 6 months to get our son & im on ttc cycle 6 at the moment for No2... & im one tube down now after an Ectopic, still holding hope X

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Old Nov 4th, 2015, 16:18 PM   3
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I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I have two children myself but my DH really wants a big family so I understand how it can be straining on your marriage. I've been pregnant with my third child three times now... lost them all and have been suffering from infertility ever since my last mmc in July. I've been ttc since and still haven't become pregnant yet. I feel as if I will never have a third child, and if I do get pregnant again, I'll wonder the entire time if I'll just end up losing that one too. It hurts me to think about. I guess the only thing that keeps me going is that I would regret it if I backed out now. I would always regret ever ttc a third baby when I think about those that I've lost.

How long have you been ttc? Have you tried anything to increase your fertility like supplements, Preseed, soy, Clomid, etc.?

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Old Nov 5th, 2015, 01:05 AM   4
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Oh man do I know that feeling. I was married for 7 years and TTC for 6 years... nothing. We ended up divorcing, on pretty much that feeling. But 4 months into my next relationship I was pregnant with my daughter. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Some times its a loooooong tunnel. How long have you been trying for? Good luck. and dont loose hope.

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Old Nov 5th, 2015, 06:25 AM   5
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I guess that's a difficult question for people who don't know you personally. I take it you've been trying a while? Have you seen a fertility specialist? If you're serious about wanting kids, I'd definitely try that before giving up. Also, have you tried something more "structured", like the smep? Is ttc upsetting you a lot? I think only you can know whether it's worth keeping on trying and how technical to get about it.

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Old Nov 5th, 2015, 13:57 PM   6
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Oh Hun, I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. Motherhood is so innate to some of us that I can't even imagine what you are going through.

Have you seen a fertility specialist? Has your husband had a semen analysis? If you've been through those steps, have you considered IVF or even adoption? I know it's not for everyone, but can be such a meaningful, beautiful option if you feel it will work for you.

I wish I could hug you so tight. I can tell by the tone of your message that your heart is hurting. I will say a special prayer just for you right now.

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Old Nov 5th, 2015, 22:51 PM   7
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How long have you been trying? Like all the other ladies said and asked, where are you in your journey? Fertility specialists, do you temp, do you use opk's? Are you having enough sex. It's the one thing that has bothered me on here. There are a few women, maybe many in this small community, that have got lucky and just one time got them their baby. But in my experience it took a lot of sex to get my bfp.

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